A pretty difficult thing to check by asking someone. assuming they have been good looking all their life, how would even themselves know any different. Pretty obvious though that it helped the model as he’s literally a model 😂 Maybe there are studys to prove otherwise, but what about jealousy? That can be a pretty strong detractor. I have run into many people with small dick syndrome and most of them high up.
That might not be entirely the case here. If you are far enough up the looks-ladder to be considered "good looking", that puts you in a much higher starting position relative to everyone else, especially other men. Because according to women, most men are ugly (or at least "less attractive than average"). I'd assume that if you're that conventionally attractive, you're going to get better treatment from other men too, even straight ones.
"Good looking" men are just very rare, it seems. It makes sense to me they'd get a bigger boost in socioeconomic rating from that alone. Less to share the spoils with, as it were.
I don’t think that attract men are rarer, societally it just seems like we’re being judged on different scales. Something I’ve noticed, although only anecdotally:
If you get a group of people attracted to women to describe what an attractive woman is, you’ll get a fairly similar answer.
This makes it easier to know where you stand, and also easier to become “more attractive” easier, because there is a fairly consistant goal to be achieved.
If you ask a group of people attracted to men to describe what an attractive man is, you’ll generally get a few different archetypes.
A guy with a beard will get an instant 0 from some people, but it’s a positive for others.
A guy with abs will get an instant 0 from some people, but it’s a positive for others.
A guy with little/no hair will get an instant 0 from some people, but it’s a positive for others.
Actually I block quite a few meme instances the minute I see them. I enjoy memes only in moderation and I hate group-chat spam, most groups-chats I have to participate in, are muted.
I haven’t been in a dedicated men only group chat but I can imagine that if you get the right guys in a group it might just be „that easy“. I think it’s a great space to try and model how you want to interact with your peers.
And I’m glad to hear that the author has that support group in his life :)
I personally also find it a bit easier to share heavy topics over texting rather than talking.
I haven’t been in a dedicated men only group chat but I can imagine that if you get the right guys in a group it might just be „that easy“. I think it’s a great space to try and model how you want to interact with your peers.
And I’m glad to hear that the author has that support group in his life :)
I personally also find it a bit easier to share heavy topics over texting rather than talking.
Female friends often tell me that their male partners just aren’t as good at this work as they are––that they do it partly because it would cause more stress to hand over the tasks.
At work, I'm training a new coworker. He's been assigned to create some diagrams that we need for compliance reporting. He hasn't made them the same way I would have. I've been tempted to produce my own diagrams the way I would want them, but I have steeled myself against that impulse. His diagrams are acceptable to the higher-ups and they're not wrong in any respect, they're just not how I would have made them. I need to learn to be OK with that.
That’s a serious life skill. Avoiding micromanaging gives you more time, makes the other person feel more empowered, and avoids conflict in your relationship. Props!
After reading the article, I came away with the opinion that we should be doing away with all of the pageantry of holiday gatherings, and focus instead on the connections we’re tying to maintain.
But that’s really the thrust of the article, isn’t it? The fact that so many men seem to not care about the appearance and presentation is the problem in their eyes.
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