What would I even be writing about without publicly exposing my personal life intimate details (don’t want to) or that hasn’t been said ad nauseam by better and more known writers at this point? What’s a sensible sex and dating column that doesn’t simply reduce into the usual “be empathetic, respect other’s space and boundaries, open dialog, know yourself, seek therapy, etc”?
Pimps are just entrepreneurs offering management and protection services, for a sometimes slightly exorbitant price. OF is great when it stays online, but the moment a worker decides to diversify into IRL, they will need a pimp/boyfriend to kneecap the abusers… right?
PS: I knew an IRL sex worker once, she would only do dom work with sub clients, and still keep her “boyfriend” at the door just in case.
My dad did that “Become a minister online” shit so he could perform the ceremony for a lesbian couple he knew who were having trouble shortly after same-sex marriage was legalized.
He also had a bit of fun with the whole thing, including the forklift, and “baptizing” a co-worker with cold coffee(it was the co-workers idea). Man even bought a set of cheap golf clubs from a pawn shop to bless, just so if he met Jason Lee, he could ask him to sign a holy putter.
Because while it may result in a stable, positive, loving relationship (or just mutually great, harmless sex that’s what they’re after), it’s a strong predictor when people are actively seeking a relationship with that kind of gap. Think about the likely reasons someone would seek that kind of thing, and the likely outcomes. I think it’s reasonable to look at this sort of thing with suspicion, but not to immediately dust off the pitchforks and light the torches.
Not all middle-aged single men distributing candy from the back of their windows van are paedophiles, but it’s both reasonable and responsible to look at what they’re doing with suspicion.
It’s interesting you’d bring politics into this when conservatives seem so wrapped up in protecting child brides, child beauty pageants, fetishise youth, and appear to be massively over-represented represented in paedophilia stats.
The people I’ve known in sex work tend to avoid working with those they don’t want to.
And as someone who has slept with people I didn’t find attractive with no money involved, it’s not the end of the world. If I thought I could make a living doing that, I probably would, and I would absolutely refuse service to anyone who repulsed me or that I despised.
They’re not upset because it shows sex they’re upset because it shows and talks about gay people and trans people. This person has a history of homophobic and transphobic behavior (you can check their post and comment history and you’ll find plenty of these bigoted talking points).
Nope, but that guy doesn’t get outraged with the idea of kids being exposed to sex acts. They just get outraged specifically by the thought of them being exposed to gay sex acts.
I made a post on r/civ (Civilization games subreddit) showing a really funky shaped randomly generated river I saw and most comments were fine but one guy was convinced that I went through the comparatively monumental effort of opening the map editor and changing the river for karma, as opposed to just starting the game and...
I used to love reddit. Especially because it was so diverse. So many communities living side by side generally pretty well (except the well-known toxic communities of course that we all knew to stay away from). And the everything-goes attitude, like people discussing religion on the same site as people exhibiting their sex lives :P I used to love seeing that kind of diversity (ok and the exhibitionism too, I admit 🤭, I’m just into that.). I just loved the everything-goes feeling about it.
But two things went wrong as I see it. One was that US society got more and more polarised and toxic due to Trump and most of reddit’s users are from the US. Even the people who used to be pretty nice are so triggered by anything you say “wrong”, they always think you’re trying to pull them into an argument for the “other side”. It’s like they have PTSD from being constantly attacked by the other side and it causes that knee-jerk reaction on anything that doesn’t fall 100% into their narrative. I got so sick and tired of that hostility especially because I was not used to it locally. That thing you mention, where you say something and someone always claims you’re making it up to make a point or karma or whatever is so familiar and tiring.
And the other thing was of course that idiot spez. Trying to clean up reddit for his precious investors by removing (or locking away) anything not above the belt, killing third-party apps, etc. I still go there once in a while to gather some information but I stay away from discussions and I rotate my accounts every couple of months. So I don’t give a crap about karma because I kill my accounts anyway. In fact even when I did have a long-term account I used to “shreddit” it every couple of months so karma was not something I ever cared about.
The sad thing is that this Trump toxicity has now even blown over to my country (Holland). They elected a total fascist 2 months ago and the same thing is happening there now, there are lots of people claiming they were never heard and now their hero is going to drain the swamp and kick out all the refugees and all that same old blahblah. Several of my “friends” were caught up in this BS and I’ve had to break off all contact with them. 😡
Even Lemmy is not free from this, I joined lemmy.ml for a while but I found it pretty toxic too. Lemmy.world looked similar. This is why I came here and it’s been great so far.
This isn’t a “go back in time and assassinate” someone question. It’s just their musical career never takes off and thus any music they ever would have made is no longer in this timeline.
Is that how he got into bed with her or he’s just thinking about talking when he should be having sex?
In the moment, when I’m actually talking to a woman (or any person), it’s not really what I’m thinking about, but I do think about their anatomy and sex with a good number of women throughout the day. Just brief flashes of possible moments. Thinking about sex and talking at the same though is alot of processing power, I can’t do two things at once like that. Women though, are good at multi-tasking, so I assume they’re more likely than men to do that.
The joke is that he loves talking to women so much he fantasizes about it during sex. Which is humorous because the conventional wisdom displayed in the left side would indicate the inverse would be true. Happy to help.
Just a single one, please! (lemmy.world)
Why do hardly any straight men write about sex and dating? | Imogen West-Knights (www.theguardian.com)
Men do think about matters of the heart, but writing about it publicly could be seen as undignified, says journalist Imogen West-Knights
Inspiration (startrek.website)
Manosphere-inspired YouTubers are encouraging men to start OnlyFans management agencies (prismreports.org)
magic (lemmy.world)
Age range (lemmy.zip)
18+ What do you think about the porn industry ?
Banned books (lemmy.world)
Can't relate to be honest, I still use MBR boot (sh.itjust.works)
Sorry guys (lemmy.world)
Why are redditors like this?
I made a post on r/civ (Civilization games subreddit) showing a really funky shaped randomly generated river I saw and most comments were fine but one guy was convinced that I went through the comparatively monumental effort of opening the map editor and changing the river for karma, as opposed to just starting the game and...
If you could go back in time and stop any one person or group's musical career, who or what would it be?
This isn’t a “go back in time and assassinate” someone question. It’s just their musical career never takes off and thus any music they ever would have made is no longer in this timeline.
Random 8 January 2012 (sh.itjust.works)
A new start after 60: I was a secretary – until I stumbled upon an amazing story I had to film (www.theguardian.com)
Frances Harper had never used a video camera before. But at the age of 60, lying in the bath, she heard a story that changed her life...