I did this until I started fixing my kid’s Switch too. So I bought a silicone mat. Legit one of the best 10 dollars from Amazon I have spent for fixing electronics.
It’s more complex than love = abuse. When we see it that way, it’s a no brainer. It’s being raised in abuse you equate love to the escape from the pain. Which usually stems from the excitement found elsewhere. Such as playing guitar naked on stage or with civil rights extremists.
It takes years to feel that a normal relationship is what is right for you. Some of it is her fault for not finding that in herself. Some of it is her upbringing. I find her performance when she shows Forrest his son spot the fuck on for someone raised in such chaos and regretting their young behavior. They mean well, they just are unaware of their effects. Should they be aware? Absolutely. Is it their fault? Yes. Does it take them awhile? Yes. They could be battling addiction as well. Another escape.
I still don’t understand the Jenny hate. She was a very real character I have met many times in my life.
Then you don’t understand yourself or people. It’s not always about you. It’s about you accepting that shit sucks and people still give a shit about you.