I don’t think that’s true at all. The viewers found him annoying, but except for Tuvok, the doctor, and occasionally the Captain, the crew seemed to be good friends with him. Janeway even made him an actual ambassador
It wasn’t through Disboard, but this is basically what I did. Moved to a new city, found a community Discord that was mentioned on Reddit, and asked around for interest in a D&D campaign. Now I’ve got two games going, and am great friends with everyone I play with. TTRPGs are a social skill, but most people are very welcoming of those new to the hobby
There was a Vulcan diplomat in Enterprise that T’Pol looked up to, that surprised everyone when she came on board, by actually being diplomatic, and acting more human to get along with the humans. I bet she teaches the class on parties