A month ago I took a really long shot and actually messaged a girl’s Snapchat from a dating app. It took all the courage I had, but I just told her I was attracted to her and I wanted to be physical with her.
She’s almost 30 years younger than me, and drop dead gorgeous, and goth hot.
She’s on her way over right now for our third “date”.
Not saying this to brag, I’m saying maybe go browse a dating app and message hot chicks and see what happens. I still can’t believe this is happening to me but it is.
Because I prefer to create. I like to make YouTube videos, downloadable audio clips of my journaling, etc.
This is going into a rant but it will come back to the point.
There is a visceral hatred for small creators for some reason and there almost always has been since 2000ish. It always comes with this sinister idea that you’re only doing it to make money. Meanwhile anybody that has made art/content realizes making it large is like getting into a professional sports team - we can all play for the love and impossible dream but we’re never going to make a penny, in fact it’s going to cost us far more to create the content than we will ever see returned.
If you are tiny and you post your own efforts, apparently you’re spamming your channel for that fat payday. My channel with 800 subscribers, daily videos, and a million views didn’t pay for my microphone.
But if you’re a big site that probably doesn’t need the exposure as much as the smaller would appreciate, that’s fine for people to post.
We’re living in the beginning of the post-social media world, I lived in the BBS days so I’ve seen a lot. I really think it’s time to intentionally go back to small forums, small content creators, hobbyists, and fuck the big boys already. They have carried their nonsense as far as they can go and it’s just not going to work anymore especially with the rise of AI trash content.
But to the answer the question, it’s disheartening, and a bit of a waste of time to try to post your own content and that’s all I’m really interested in posting. It’s too exhausting being beaten down continually and criticized just for wanting to add something to the world and share.
Just from my personal experience relating to banworthy things.
Make the rules clear and unambiguous and include the penalty for breach within the rule body itself.
And have an absolute heart of stone. When you ban somebody, you quote the rule, and you do not add any personal narrative. You ignore every appeal for decency or clemency. If somebody cannot be bothered to read and follow the rules, they have already forfeited the right to be a part of your community in any way. Do not allow yourself to be swayed.
Even if there is some ambiguity or sense of injustice, that’s just too bad so sad. “Oh no, I don’t get to post for 24 hours on some random forum about some bullshit that doesn’t really matter”. Wah. If they can’t get over it, they weren’t going to add anything useful to your community anyways.
If somebody sends you an appeal and you don’t want to argue with them, simply don’t argue with them. If they keep coming at you, making your life hard, or swearing at you, just keep extending the ban or make it perma.
We aren’t dealing with bars of gold here, it’s mostly random horseshit posted to communities that we talk about for a few days and then forget we even saw. I mean I loved the community that I built and nurtured for 14 years but really at the end of the day after I walked away from Reddit from the API changes, I haven’t noticed one iota of difference in my life.
I get all my cleaning chems from the janitorial supply.
Super concentrated, and you get effectively 20 times for the same price.
You can buy a 4L jug for like $35, and a teaspoon is enough for an entire mop pail. Sounds like a lot of money until you realize that’s an entire lifetime supply.
Thank you, this is an exact point I was making earlier today in a different conversation.
Google has two decades of information about me. Just as one random example, I’m hooked into their mapping app so they know everywhere I go and on what schedule, and can infer what I buy.
Not once in 20 years has Google advertised something to me that is in line with my interests and needs. Google knows I go to the cigar store every Monday to replenish my supply, and they’ve never suggested to me a product or service that can save me time, money, or make it more convenient.
Google’s ad system seems to shove garbage products in my face like black label shit from China (raycon, manscaped, etc) and products/companies that do not operate in my region.
How hard is it to know everything about a person, and still fail to advertise one single thing that is useful to them over decades??!
Every food “appreciation” group always devolves into burgers, fries, English breakfasts, pizzas and steaks - usually the most pedestrian LCD versions thereof.
I know it’s not fair to point at one particular post, but the one that made me decide to back away from food communities was that somebody had simply made a hamburger and it got front paged on Reddit.
All they had done was slice of brioche bun in half (poor choice), sliced it improperly so the top was like an axe head, toasted it on the grill but such that it was 50% saturated in grease like a sponge. They had used processed melting sandwich slices (not cheese) that was burned black on two corners. The lettuce was a jagged square they cut with a metal knife so the edges were orange and oxidized. Out-of-gamut mustard and ketchup dripping down that appeared to be dollar store preparations. Proudly perched on a grease-spotted plate alongside frozen, inconsistently-baked bag fries.
Bro I was at the thrift store and I saw a PlayStation demo disc for $2 and I laughed because I didn’t even think it should be there. But I will literally go back, take a picture, buy it and send it to you if it makes your Christmas better lol
Yes I’m seeing the same sentiment bubble up in multiple comments here. I don’t relate at all…
It’s been a few years since I encountered any meaningful discussion on Reddit that wasn’t immediately polluted by screeching buffoons. I’ve yet to see that here.
I hope this trend personally experiencing continues!
Controversial opinion perhaps, but I think because in general humans aren’t funny and they don’t really have anything new to add to anything. Babies love to see the same joke a million times, it never stops being funny to them, but it’s something that only changes a little as we age and not as much as we would think to think about ourselves.