We create narratives bout everything we experience. If I am upset and getting worked up, why am I telling myself a story that makes me upset? When you realize your feelings are based on the story you’re telling yourself, it’s easier to create a different narrative, or at least separate your feelings from reality.
I was raised in cult that told me the world was going to end when I was still a child. I was never supposed to hit teenagerhood, and here I am in my 40s.