I’m lucky enough to live somewhere with 24/7 public transit and generally walkable spaces. Some of my coworkers have moved out of the city to cheaper places and I’m just like yeah sure you pay less for rent or your mortgage, but now you’re in a car-first wasteland.
Pretty much the title. I’ve been watching more realistic super hero shows like The Boys and Invincible. The reoccurring themes is that with great power comes great immorality....
Unless the time stop powers get real weird with physics, I really don’t think I’d be down for carrying thousands of people thousands of miles and then babysitting their prison indefinitely.
I’m still slightly mad that everyone wanted to use AIM instead of ICQ, even though icq was better. It had offline messaging and you could change your display name, neither of which aim supported.
Anyone younger than like 30 probably has no idea that those were noteworthy features at one time. You could only send someone a message if they were actively connected at the same time as you.
I live in nyc. You can get large plain pie for $18 from most places. Toppings are usually about $4 each.
But there are expensive places. At work we ordered some pies for an in-office event last week. The guy picked a fancy place where all the pies were at least $30.
One. Saying “hey” changes their view of you. It’s very possible that opening with “hey” will actually shift their opinion of you towards negative. To me (and friends I’ve talked to) it comes off as very low effort, which is unappealed.
Two. You’re going to need to write a better message anyway. Some people might have success with the “hey” “hey” “how’re you?” “Good u?” flow but I really strongly recommend not doing that. It takes longer, a lot of people dislike it, and you’re going to eventually have to write something better anyway. Opening with a good message saves you time overall.
Sending a good initial message saves you time overall and increases your success rate.
Met a partner of ~5 years ok okcupid some years ago.
Met a partner of ~8 years on ok cupid after that.
I get a fair amount of dates on Tinder now, even though I’m getting old and have at least one major deal breaker.
It turns out a lot of people are really bad at using the dating apps. People don’t write anything useful in their bio. They waste their first message with “hey”. When they get a question they dead end it. Like “hey your profile says you love NK jemisen. Have you read her new books?” -> “no”. And then they’re like "why isn’t this working?'. My friends please be better at this.
Tinder still sucks and you can see where they’re putting profit ahead of a good experience, but you have to go where the people are.
Out of curiosity where in the world are you? I assume you’re a dude that doesn’t date dudes?
I’m in New York City and get maybe a match a week on tinder, and maybe one in three is actually someone I’ll go out with. I’m a pretty average guy, and I don’t date men.
Have you by chance read Dante’s Divine Comedy? Or Milton’s Paradise Lost? Just to name two works that are widely considered Fucking Classic off the top of my head. Do you have much background in literature?
One, those are famous works that used characters they didn’t create. Just off the top of my head. Also The Aeneid, which I haven’t read but the internet is telling me is basically Ascended Fanfiction.
Two, you don’t really seem to have an informed opinion on this topic. Which is, like, fine. Most of us don’t know most things. But maybe consider there’s good reasons many people are disagreeing with you.
Traumatic flashback to old MMOs that had 3 full bars of skills. Ugh. Guild Wars 2 nicely limits it to 10 skills at a time. Plus UI shortcuts like “inventory” and “equipment”.
Larian has released a fresh batch of Baldur's Gate 3 stats, confirming who's the most romanced character, how many people have completed the game so far, and more.
Laezel. I like strong, competent women. Shadowheart is kind of a sad wallflower, and karlach is… fine, but doesn’t hit my love of competence and control.
I have a hypothesis I can’t really test because I’m not into men, but I feel like more men are unattractive than women. I’m going to guess it’s because a lot of men put zero effort in.
I have not seen it, but in some cases one might confuse effortless effort for visible effort.
Effortless effort is pretty universally appealing in most facets of life. The person who casually rides a bike up a hill generally looks better than someone who’s pumping and struggling.
In my mind, with appearance, someone who looks like they’re trying too hard often suffers that as a penalty to how they’re evaluated. But the person who did put effort in without it being obvious will probably come out ahead.
See also: men who say women look better without makeup. Woman comes in to work without makeup. Men respond with “oh my God are you ok? You look unwell”. The woman was wearing makeup, but it was subtle and men didn’t notice.
Though there’s also the halo effect and intimacy. Someone in sweatpants can ping as Hot because that signals intimacy. Different facet of the evaluation.
Someone who’s really good at guitar will ping Hot because of the halo effect. That is- when someone is good at one thing, we think they’re good at everything, where being hot is a thing.
In my mind, forums and reddit-likes are a different category than Facebook and other social media. Mostly because they tend to be content-first and organized around content, rather than user-first.
Like on Twitter it mostly wanted you to follow users. On a forum I go to the section for, say, elden ring. I don’t usually pay attention to the users in any detail. I don’t feel like people are chasing clout.
Recently heard “feed the machine” for the first time and instantly wanna go destroy capatilsm and like join a picket line against the wealthy elite....
I was making a playlist for my friend’s Halloween party and found this album. Though a different friend was like “this song makes me feel… something I don’t know if I like it”
Yes, also Teslas (media.mastodon.scot)
Be honest: if you had the power to stop time, your morals would go out the window. (lemmy.zip)
Pretty much the title. I’ve been watching more realistic super hero shows like The Boys and Invincible. The reoccurring themes is that with great power comes great immorality....
"Millennial lingo" by Shen Comic (file.coffee)
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Black olive birthday (lemmy.world)
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And Tigger Too - Danby Draws Comics (i0.wp.com)
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My face staring back at me (lemmy.world)
Baldur's Gate 3 Stats Reveal Who the Most-Romanced Character Is and More - IGN (www.ign.com)
Larian has released a fresh batch of Baldur's Gate 3 stats, confirming who's the most romanced character, how many people have completed the game so far, and more.
I can cook at least (lemmy.world)
Do you disable notifications for all your apps?
let them all in or only allow for some specific apps (if so which ones)?
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I'll take "Dyson sphere-level douchebags for 300" (startrek.website)
whats a song you heard for the first time recently that gave you a powerful reaction?
Recently heard “feed the machine” for the first time and instantly wanna go destroy capatilsm and like join a picket line against the wealthy elite....
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Why did we even try landing here? (static3.srcdn.com)
Ominous positivity (startrek.website)
... I'm not not into it (startrek.website)