It is very rare for anyone on the internet to apologize or admin fault. Well done. Thank you. I understand your intent and I’m not mad. Apology accepted.
I wrote that bit because when I was reading the linked article, it felt harder to read and understand than what I’m used to. So it wasn’t really coming from malicious elitism.
On the other hand, I want to live in a world where people don’t feel insulted (even when it was by accident, like here!) and just completely stop listening. I know I do it too, but it sucks.
Especially with the “elitism” facet. Sometimes other people actually are better than us on whatever topic. That’s okay. Like if we were talking about math and you were like “This uses some complex algorithms so it might be hard to follow if you haven’t done more than algebra in a few years” I’m not going to be mad. What would I even be mad about?
This is one of my biggest peeves in games. Ass Creed Valhalla was really bad about it. Identical looking dudes on opposite sides of a river. One set are pushovers the others are completely lethal. Hate it.
I was going to say something like this but probably less well written.
I’ve definitely had coworkers that I simply do not trust to commit code without review. And there’s one guy who’s a cool dude and all, but all of his ideas seem to be “let’s throw everything out and do it with a different library/language/paradigm”. And I’m just like no please no.
I’ve been on Reddit for over a decade. But I’m done with that site and want to do something else. What do normal people look at on their phones? Is it all social media? Streaming?
When you’re talking to an open source dev, just remember that they are literally giving you their time for free, and they are people who don’t like to be treated poorly....
In our current day and age, it’s rather hard to meet new people and make new friends, particularly for those of us who do not participate in mainstream social media. So, how and where do you meet new people? Feel free to add some context around that.
I have not seen it, but in some cases one might confuse effortless effort for visible effort.
Effortless effort is pretty universally appealing in most facets of life. The person who casually rides a bike up a hill generally looks better than someone who’s pumping and struggling.
In my mind, with appearance, someone who looks like they’re trying too hard often suffers that as a penalty to how they’re evaluated. But the person who did put effort in without it being obvious will probably come out ahead.
See also: men who say women look better without makeup. Woman comes in to work without makeup. Men respond with “oh my God are you ok? You look unwell”. The woman was wearing makeup, but it was subtle and men didn’t notice.
Though there’s also the halo effect and intimacy. Someone in sweatpants can ping as Hot because that signals intimacy. Different facet of the evaluation.
Someone who’s really good at guitar will ping Hot because of the halo effect. That is- when someone is good at one thing, we think they’re good at everything, where being hot is a thing.
Larian has released a fresh batch of Baldur's Gate 3 stats, confirming who's the most romanced character, how many people have completed the game so far, and more.
Laezel. I like strong, competent women. Shadowheart is kind of a sad wallflower, and karlach is… fine, but doesn’t hit my love of competence and control.
I live in nyc. You can get large plain pie for $18 from most places. Toppings are usually about $4 each.
But there are expensive places. At work we ordered some pies for an in-office event last week. The guy picked a fancy place where all the pies were at least $30.
Pretty much the title. I’ve been watching more realistic super hero shows like The Boys and Invincible. The reoccurring themes is that with great power comes great immorality....
Unless the time stop powers get real weird with physics, I really don’t think I’d be down for carrying thousands of people thousands of miles and then babysitting their prison indefinitely.
Traumatic flashback to old MMOs that had 3 full bars of skills. Ugh. Guild Wars 2 nicely limits it to 10 skills at a time. Plus UI shortcuts like “inventory” and “equipment”.
One. Saying “hey” changes their view of you. It’s very possible that opening with “hey” will actually shift their opinion of you towards negative. To me (and friends I’ve talked to) it comes off as very low effort, which is unappealed.
Two. You’re going to need to write a better message anyway. Some people might have success with the “hey” “hey” “how’re you?” “Good u?” flow but I really strongly recommend not doing that. It takes longer, a lot of people dislike it, and you’re going to eventually have to write something better anyway. Opening with a good message saves you time overall.
Sending a good initial message saves you time overall and increases your success rate.
I’m lucky enough to live somewhere with 24/7 public transit and generally walkable spaces. Some of my coworkers have moved out of the city to cheaper places and I’m just like yeah sure you pay less for rent or your mortgage, but now you’re in a car-first wasteland.
As the dinosaur on the left, this is excruciating. Sometimes I want to just pick up my friend and physically make them do the thing like some sort of horrible puppet. “OK WE’RE DOING THE DISHES NOW” “no i don’t–” “NOPE LOOK YOU’RE BEING MOVED INTO THE KITCHEN THE SPONGE IS IN YOUR HAND” “i don’t really” “SHUT UP AND WASH”
There are one bedrooms and studios for < $2k in brooklyn. They might not be fancy, but they exist.
That might be more than other places, but you have to factor in you don’t need a car here. So that’s $10k/year saved (though I think it’s about $2k/year if you max out your transit rides before they become free every week).
You’d have to pay me a shit load of money for me to consider living somewhere that isn’t walkable.
I used to check the front page at least once every day, and occassionally check specific subreddits. Now I don’t look at reddit unless theres some drama, like mods getting purged, then I’d go there and enjoy the drama. Occasionally there will be questions that only reddit has the answer to so I have to reluctantly use it. I...
I can imagine people having fun getting lost in the flow of playing a competitive sport. I’ve also heard some people experience a post-workout high. But does anyone actually feel pleasure in the moment while lifting weights, jogging, cycling, etc?...
Are Americans more prone to conspiracy theories than people in other countries?
It’s wild.
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What do normal people look at on their phones?
I’ve been on Reddit for over a decade. But I’m done with that site and want to do something else. What do normal people look at on their phones? Is it all social media? Streaming?
Don't be that guy. (lemmy.world)
When you’re talking to an open source dev, just remember that they are literally giving you their time for free, and they are people who don’t like to be treated poorly....
How do you meet new people?
In our current day and age, it’s rather hard to meet new people and make new friends, particularly for those of us who do not participate in mainstream social media. So, how and where do you meet new people? Feel free to add some context around that.
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Baldur's Gate 3 Stats Reveal Who the Most-Romanced Character Is and More - IGN (www.ign.com)
Larian has released a fresh batch of Baldur's Gate 3 stats, confirming who's the most romanced character, how many people have completed the game so far, and more.
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Do you disable notifications for all your apps?
let them all in or only allow for some specific apps (if so which ones)?
Be honest: if you had the power to stop time, your morals would go out the window. (lemmy.zip)
Pretty much the title. I’ve been watching more realistic super hero shows like The Boys and Invincible. The reoccurring themes is that with great power comes great immorality....
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Yes, also Teslas (media.mastodon.scot)
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Rent requirements in the US are nuts (i.imgur.com)
Be honest, do you still use reddit?
I used to check the front page at least once every day, and occassionally check specific subreddits. Now I don’t look at reddit unless theres some drama, like mods getting purged, then I’d go there and enjoy the drama. Occasionally there will be questions that only reddit has the answer to so I have to reluctantly use it. I...
Does anyone actually enjoy working out?
I can imagine people having fun getting lost in the flow of playing a competitive sport. I’ve also heard some people experience a post-workout high. But does anyone actually feel pleasure in the moment while lifting weights, jogging, cycling, etc?...