This is a bit self fulfilling, since saying that immediately makes you less attractive, because you express, that you thingk less of yourself, on the other hand it in creases your chances w/ the boiis, sins you seem funny.
Do you actually feel it? I don’t feel it at all. Just at some point I am like “oh fuck, I didn’t listen to what they were saying”. And I cannot even remember what I was thinking
I catch myself sometimes half way through someone talking about something where I was fully paying attention for the first bit of them talking and then tuning back in for the end realizing “oh fuck” but it’s the same. My mind just wanders idk even know to what. There are times though where someone asks me a follow up question and I realize I wasn’t paying attention at all beyond the start of them talking.
Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.
It also isn’t a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.
Jokes aside, it’s all about confidence. If anything, fake it 'till you make it. I was terrible with girls for a long time until I stopped caring and just went for it. Then I was amazed how easy it was.
Look. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn’t fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.
The virginity is less of an issue than 31 years of loneliness. Like, people say you don’t need a relationship to be happy and that’s true, but it really doesn’t fucking help in the slightest. It’s just a pointless platitude from people who don’t understand the pain.
Men need to be learn to be emotionally intimate with their friends instead of expecting that out of a partner. Loneliness should not be synonymous with being single.
Adjacent to this is either A) info dumping and feeling the other person start zoning out, or (possibly worse) B) info dumping and feeling yourself start zoning out mid-sentence.
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