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Mothra, in Do people become less of a twat as they age?
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Depends, this really depends on what exactly you consider being a twat, how old is the person in question and what kind of people they surround themselves with/what sorts of experiences they go through.

I’ve seen people mature tremendously and they were cases I considered totally hopeless. In contrast I’ve also seen people who appeared to have their sht together, suddenly flop in the most stupid of ways.

AFKBRBChocolate,

This answer I think is the closest. People can get better or worse over time and there are just so many factors. I’ve seen kind people go through horrible tragedies and become bitter and isolated. I’ve seen people who were cutthroat ladder climbers come to realize that the ladders aren’t going to mean anything after a certain point and their legacy is going to be kids who don’t want to spend time with them.

The one thing I’ll say that seems to be often true of men is that when they get older the testosterone is less intense and so life is a little less driven by it.

KingBoo, in Getting Over a Breakup

I’m sorry this happened. It fucking sucks.

Let me try to help.

Your world was shattered and you need a new baseline. One of the (many, many) painful elements of transitioning relationships is loss of routine. It feels like shit because when you hit that old routine, you give yourself a dose of pain as you’re reminded of your reality. Recognize that right now, your previous life is gone and routines need updated.

How do you think about things? I’m a visual, hands on, person. If it were me, I’d grab my digital notebook and start planning.

I need to plan the big beats of the day, and then let the other variables guide me.

I’d break it into three sections: My morning routine, afternoon, and evening.

How are important things like meals and work tackled? Don’t just think about these things, live them! Mentally think about work on Monday. Did your ex give you a ride? You need a new routine. Did they pack your lunch? You need a new routine. Did they cook dinner? Etc.

Finally, how do these routines change for the weekend? 3 more paths.

Good luck. This isn’t easy and it feels like shit. I hope anything I said is helpful.

DM me directly if you have and specific questions or want to share personal details that aren’t appropriate in a forum setting.

If I can help you I will. You’re not alone.

kersploosh, in People from the "hotter" regions, how do you deal with the heat?
@kersploosh@sh.itjust.works avatar

Have central air conditioning in all buildings.

Have a place to swim.

I’m in the US and it was 40C (104F) yesterday, which is normal for my area. I spent the whole day either indoors or in the neighborhood pool, and it was perfectly comfortable.

danikpapas,

Both AC and pools have a horrible upkeep cost.

Silvus,

I mean, I bought my window ac at least 10 years ago, the only upkeep is cleaning the filter. no issues. I bought a house with an AC from the 70s or 80s in the wall, also nothing but washing the filters. Sure I'm using electricity, but I wouldn't call that upkeep.

NewNewAccount,

Pretty sure that’s what that commenter meant. Running AC is a huge energy expenditure and is contributing to the long-term problem.

Pazintach,
@Pazintach@discuss.tchncs.de avatar

But it’s either this or hospital. Human body can’t cool down in very hot and high humidity environments, for example 40 degrees and 90% humidity. My mother was sent to hospital due to heat stroke, AC is life-saving. It would be better if there were better ways.

NewNewAccount,

Right. I don’t think individuals can or should do much beyond setting their AC at reasonable levels.

The responsibility is on governments to heavily invest in renewables so that we don’t continue on our current trajectory. If governments don’t act, the earth will inevitably force some sort of reduction in energy usage and it’ll be far less comfortable than higher taxes.

mr47,

Exactly. The issue is with the source of electricity, not with the AC itself. Not to mention that leading by example is nice, but it's not always the best course of action. An individual avoiding AC is a drop in the water, and not going to save the planet, while suffering immensely. Hell, even if every single individual stopped using AC at home (which isn't even close to reality), that wouldn't have a significant effect, compared to what corporations, factories, etc. are doing.

NewNewAccount,

In this context, corporations and factories are people. Their energy expenditure is a consequence of providing good and services to consumers.

There’s no “them” to point fingers at here, unfortunately.

Vormuk,

The price of electricity in my country (the UK) has gone stupid high right now. We don’t have AC in our homes normally in the country. But I bought a 2nd hand portable unit about 7 years ago when my first son was born cos I was afraid of him gettin too hot at night. I have a 2nd son now and we have had some record high temps last month and o could only afford yo keep this AC unit on for a like 2 to 3 hours at night time in just his room and only on the hottest days. Anymore than that and we woild struggle to pay the energy bill that follows.

It’s not maintenance cost that’s the issue. It’s energy cost.

HobbitFoot,

So does winter heating.

redballooon,

Unlike winter heating, at least you can power the AC by the very sun that burns on your roof.

danikpapas,

Thats why I wear jackets indoors

golamas1999,

We bought a cheap above ground pool that we put out in the summer. It helps that we have super cheap abundant supply of water.

PenguinJuice,

Soon people are going to be working in pools. Working from Pool (WFP) becomes the norm because of the heat.

Soon we will evolve to go back in the water. Water levels rise.

Years pass, emissions go down, we evolve to go back onto the land.

The cycle repeats.

yumpsuit,

this is underground morlock burrow erasure

conc,

Soon we will evolve to go back in the water. Water levels rise.

Two drifters meet. Something needs to be exchanged.

starlinguk,
@starlinguk@kbin.social avatar

In a lot of hot weather countries people don't have air-conditioning. 40C is also not comfortable in the slightest when the humidity is 90 percent.

hglman,

No where on earth is it 40c at 90% humidity, that is explicitly deadly and quickly.

Pazintach,
@Pazintach@discuss.tchncs.de avatar

https://discuss.tchncs.de/pictrs/image/f39cbb4a-b9b7-4f9e-bc70-63398084efa5.pngIt’s not always, but from where I live (a place beside the sea), humidity is always high, and we had multiple days of 40 degrees last year.

hglman,

Indeed, many places are 40 and 90% within a day, but not simultaneously. You can see in your image how the peak humidity was at 00:00 and the peak temp at 14:00.

hglman,

Indeed, many places are 40 and 90% within a day, but not simultaneously. You can see in your image how the peak humidity was at 00:00 and the peak temp at 14:00.

kersploosh,
@kersploosh@sh.itjust.works avatar

I agree. I have lived in hot, humid places without air conditioning. The only solution is to find cool places (in the shade, in a cellar), stay wet, drink lots of water, and avoid physical exertion until the sun goes down.

I am spoiled now. I live in a region with cheap, low-carbon electricity (almost entirely from hydro, nuclear, and wind) and modern infrastructure, so air conditioning is standard practice. I wish the whole world could have the same.

tiredofsametab,

Most of the world does not have central heat and central air.

In many areas, pools can be difficult due to a number of economic, social, and other factors.

Additionally, running AC constantly also puts more heat outside and, depending upon your power source, increases emissions further contributing to global climate issues just making things worse.

clutchmatic, in Lemmy, what are your "missed flight" stories?

I hate packing because I have to make many decisions and remember of previous packing experiences where I used less than half of the clothes, so I keep rearranging until last minute.

Anyway, this time I had an intense two weeks at work preparing things before I went on my holiday. I had to wake up at 4:45am to go into the airport but the last time I messed up with the bags was 1:30am on the same day. “No biggie” I thought, and I set the alarm for 4:45 and slept.

When I wake up, the first thing I remember thinking was “damn, that was a nice, deep sleep. I feel good”. The sun was shining gently through the curtains and it felt like a great Saturday morning A few seconds later I realize something was off. I reach my phone and look at the time: something past 11am.

Long story short I had to buy an one way ticket and luckily there was another flight on the afternoon.

The aftermath: I don’t trust my mobile phone to wake me up. I set two separate alarms to wake me up if I have one of those very early morning flights. If I am in a hotel, I also request two separate wake up calls, just to be sure.

wispydust, in How can we improve Lemmy’s SEO so we can google “(question) lemmy” instead of relying on “(question) reddit”

including the world “Reddit” at the end

I found that adding “join Lemmy” works for Lemmy.

Also fedi-search.com has a few more ideas

ffejhog,

There is also www.search-lemmy.com which seems to work pretty well. It’s also open source

Tigbitties, in How can we improve Lemmy’s SEO so we can google “(question) lemmy” instead of relying on “(question) reddit”
@Tigbitties@kbin.social avatar

I'd rather find another solution. Imagine a fediverse search? Fuck google and their shitty SEO. It makes everything suck.

Hextic,

Eventually.

ffejhog,

The future is here: www.search-lemmy.com

Skotimusj, in Have you ever gotten scammed, package stolen, or been a victim of fraud in any way?

On my wedding night, one of my vendors decided to go on a shopping spree with my credit card. I guess he hoped that there would be so many charges that I wouldn’t notice. I didn’t remember shopping for car parts while I was saying “I do”. Credit card refunded the charges. I actually got them the address that the purchases were shipped to but they didn’t care.

Doxin, in What do you use Vaseline for?
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It’s great for keeping rust off tools. Just the slightest whiff of vaseline will keep rust away for years. I tend to use a spray can of vaseline for that though, not a tub.

Xariphon, in What event did you miss that saved your life

Not me but my uncle had a meeting scheduled at the WTC on 9/11. Only reason he wasn't there was because somebody moved the venue across town the night before.

Darrow,

Same for my aunt, but she was early and decided to get off a few subway stops early and walk in the fresh air the rest of the way because it was a nice day. She had got to the sidewalk right as the first plane hit.

brygphilomena, in People from the "hotter" regions, how do you deal with the heat?

If you have a basement, spend time on it. It’s much, much cooler below ground. The earth is a great insulator.

Go out to movie theaters, malls, or other public spaces that have AC. Visit public pools, beaches, etc.

Adramis, in What anime world would you rather not live in?

Shocked no one said Chainsaw Man yet. I just finished the anime (no manga spoilers) but it sure ain’t going to get better…

BigBootyBoy, in What would happen if we put a giant glass tinted dome over each city?
@BigBootyBoy@sh.itjust.works avatar

Theoretically, this could stop global warming. Because we would all be dead.

SRo, in People from the "hotter" regions, how do you deal with the heat?

Enjoy it while it lasts. Winter is coming soon enough and you’ll have shitty weather again for the next 10 months.

nonstopshirtflutter, in How do I learn to detect logical fallacies in a conversation?

Logical fallacies don’t necessarily disagree with facts. While the most common examples are simply unsupported statements that sound supported, very often we don’t have the luxury of working with clearly factual statements as a basis.

All rhetoric is at the end of the day a fallacy, as the truth of the matter is independent on how it is argued. Yet we don’t consider all rhetoric invalid, because we can’t just chain factual statements in real debates. Leaps of logic are universally accepted, common knowledge is shared without any proof, and reasonable assumptions made left and right.

In fact one persons valid rhetoric is another persons fallacy. If the common knowledge was infact not shared, or an assumption not accepted, the leap in logic is a fallacy.

I would try to focus less on lists of fallacies or cognitive biases and more on natural logic. Learn how to make idealised proofs, and through that learn to identify what is constantly assumed in everyday discussions. The fallacies itself don’t matter, what matters is spotting leaps in logic and why it feels like a leap in logic to you.

After all, very often authoritive figures do tell the truth, and both sides of the debate agree on general values without stating them. If someone starts questioning NASA or declares they actually want more people to live in poverty, they did infact spot very real logical fallacies in the debate, but at the same time those fallacies only exist from their point of view, and others might not care to argue without such unstated common ground.

buckybeaky,

Reddit’s obsession with logical fallacies is one of the things I was hoping we could get rid of moving here

nromdotcom,

Agreed. OP should be working on critical thinking skills in general and not specifically focusing on logical fallacies.

Logical fallacies and argumentation theory in general certainly have their place. But unless you’re taking part in a debate club or otherwise getting really really deep into these topics, they may do you more harm than good in thinking critically and having productive discussions.

The reddit (and, previously, slashdot) obsession with logical fallacies has been almost entirely as a way to prevent critical thinking and end discussion rather than promoting either.

min0nim,
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The old Slashdot obsession of calling out logical fallacies lead to the hyper normalisation of climate change denial. We had a whole load of really smart people who were very quick to call out any appeal to authority (of, you know, actual climate scientists), but a bit too lazy to read the source material themselves.

Fun times.

flamingarms,

Rather than not encouraging focusing and learning fallacies, maybe we are simply saying that they need to also learn to use them appropriately? Fallacies are not just the informal ones that everyone is referencing here in this thread, but also the formal ones which are very much required for logical argument structure. So even in learning about fallacies, there will be opportunities to understand the difference between informal and formal, why they are different, and how that applies to discourse. Knowledge is power; it just needs to be balanced with understanding on how to use and I think a deep dive into fallacies could actually assist in that regard.

HelixDab,

"Truth" is a matter of conclusions and meaning, not of facts. Factual information would be something like--and this is an intentionally racist argument--53% of the murder arrests in the US come from a racial group that makes up 14% of the population. This is a fact, and it can be clearly seen in FBI statistics. But your conclusions from that fact--what that fact means--that's the point of rhetoric and logic. Faulty logic would make multiple leaps and say, well, obvs. this means that black people are more prone to commit murder. A more logically sound approach would look at things like whether there where different patterns in law enforcement based on racial groups, what factors were leading to murder rates in racial groups and whether those factors were present across all demographics, and so on.

Mrmcmisterson, in What event did you miss that saved your life

Friend of mine went to Las Vegas for a conference. He was supposed to be staying at the Mandalay bay, on the same day as the shooting on the strip.

Luckily he’s from Vegas originally and didn’t check in for the first day, instead he went at stayed with his friends down there.

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