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jjjalljs, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

Only when a general search brings me to it. I no longer scroll it or actively choose to visit.

relevant_ace, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

“You just need to focus and you can do it.”

Ah yes, my ADHD ass will just magically find this focus thing you speak of instead of the long and brutal process of finding the right combination of meds and therapy. Problem solved. /s

SharkEatingBreakfast,

ADHD advice from non-ADHD-havers has always been infuriating.

It’s like yelling at a drowning person with no arms to “swim better!”

Yondoza,

Seems to be the case for most mental ailments. It’s hard for some people to grasp that other people experience life completely differently. It took me a long time and some very patient people to finally teach me that.

SharkEatingBreakfast,

I’m glad you were open to learning, though!

I have a very progressive siblings who is very pro-mental health and all that, but she never fails to mention how “those meds are so bad for you!” Yeah. I mean… I guess. The alternative is me being unable to care for myself. But whatever.

“Try exercising!”

Cool, I’d do that if my brain didn’t confine me to my bed for 18 hours without meds.

People just. don’t. get it. And they need to acknowledge that they don’t. It’s fine!! Just don’t try to act like we’re on the same level playing field. We’re not!

Tippon,

Cool, I’d do that if my brain didn’t confine me to my bed for 18 hours without meds.

Is that what that is? I’m in my 40s and trying to get diagnosed, and the possible ADHD has got worse over the last few years. I’ve gone through periods of weeks where I’m really struggling to get out of bed, and they coincide with each other.

SharkEatingBreakfast,

Depression is also a condition that can cause this. Get a full health screening before you go fully looking into a diagnosis, but definitely keep it in mind if, physically, things turn up normal.

Also keep in mind that depression & anxiety can be comorbid with ADHD, which can often lead to frustrating misdiagnosis and being put onto medications that may not work quote right (if you choose to go that route). Hell, I’ve been told that “[you] don’t have ADHD – it’s trauma! PTSD!” As if the constant invalidatation of my condition wasn’t one of the reasons in part that led to my mistreatment and development of PTSD.

I hope that you are able to get answers soon and have things improve!

NotYourSocialWorker,

Agreed, also people need to know how literal having “poor mental health” is. The margin you have for extra load or bad things happening is so much smaller. Similar to how an unexpected bill will be shoulder shrug for someone with good economy and a disaster for someone with bad economy.

NotYourSocialWorker,

Oh yes, such as “just form good habits”…
Sorry, I’m incapable of making habits.

Or “think how good it will feel when you’re done”.
Sorry, best I can do is feel enough anxiety over not having done the thing that it will outweigh the anxiety I feel regarding doing the thing".

It’s such a joy sometimes…

JungleJim,

The double-edged anxiety for any given responsibility thing is an ADHD thing? Ah heck.

NotYourSocialWorker,

Yepp, or at least a subgroup of it and/or autism.

And if you’re really “lucky” it turns into PDA, “pathological demand avoidance” or as I prefer to call it “pervasive drive for autonomy”. Worst case you enter fight or flight mode due to any demands on you. My feeling is that it’s a understandable reaction to the feelings of anxiety demands have pushed on you over the years.

xor,

A couple of years ago I went to my GP in a very bad mental state due to what I now am fairly sure is undiagnosed ADHD.

My GP prescribed me a walk. Never been willing to try to talk to that doctor again.

HobbitFoot, in What's your real-life superpower?

I’m able to guess plot points in movies before they happen. This includes guessing how the kid keeps the family from eating the meal in Troll 2 and guessing the kind of sword Excalibur was in Sharknado 6.

cupcakezealot, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?
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Reddit is so frustrating to use without Boost so not really.

StarkillerX42, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

Relay still works for me, same with Infinity. I’m maybe 50/50 right now. There’s a lot of smaller communities that will be hard to grow here, but the big ones are just as good.

MostlyGibberish, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

I used reddit pretty much exclusively on my phone through the Boost app. When that went dark, I didn’t really feel the need to go out of my way to download a far worse app, so I stopped checking reddit.

Duamerthrax, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

Tech support searches sometime bring me back, but I haven’t really been back otherwise since the boycott started.

07Chess, in How do you cheer yourself up after a rough day? Or a rough year?

Try to always have something coming up to look forward to. Whether it’s a hang out with friends, a concert, a trip to a park, whatever. Keep a calendar and stick with it even on the days when you’re not really feeling up to it. Bonus points if you’re trying something you’ve never done before. New experiences are really good at getting you out of your head and being more mindful.

00Sixty7, in Have you ever had a hyper realistic dream that you still remember after years?

This is gonna sound so fake it’s ridiculous, but at least it’s short. This was about a decade ago when I was about to go to college, so that factored into the setting, but the other part? No idea. Basically, I was riding around my college campus on the back of a raptor, saddle and all. I was having a blast, and everybody thought it was so cool that I had a badass dinosaur to ride around on, because obviously nobody else did. That was the whole dream, zero plot, nobody got eaten, just me and my raptor buddy having a grand ol’ time stomping around campus.

RustedSwitch, in Best options for Non-Google cloud storage as of 2022?
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I use resilio, which is a peer to peer storage based on BitTorrent. I don’t remember syncthing’s base protocol, but it sounds like it meets the same goals.

Resilio offers apps for my phone, NAS, Mac, pc, etc. For my phone I use selective sync for a few key folders instead of the whole thing.

These don’t get me location redundancy unless I tuck another device offsite. Most people don’t have 2 secure enough locations for this.

MildlyIncorrect, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

I do, but not nearly as much. Probably spend about half the time if not less then before Apollo went down. Opening up GitHub to check on Voyager updates probably as often as I am opening up Reddit.

mamotromico, in In which game did you spend the most hours?

FFXIV with over 5k hours.

plopo,

Types /playtime

[cries]

psion1369, in Have you ever had Detroit-style pizza?

I’ve lived in the Detroit area all my life and only a couple of years ago did I realize that it was a regional style of pizza. Just always assumed square pizza was a norm. And I just don’t prefer it to a standard round pizza with a thick sauce.

MementoMori, in How do you cheer yourself up after a rough day? Or a rough year?

I eat a meal that I really love slowly. Enjoy every bite. Describe in detail (in your head) why they bite was special.

monobot, in What movie did you rewatch most often?

Chasing Amy

First time I rented it out on VHS (yeah!) I watched it three times in a row and sill rewatch it every few years.

Hilarious and deep, I learned a lot from wat hing that movie.

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