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DuckOverload, (edited ) in What has been the best thing that has happened to you so far?

The woman I loved decided to give it a go. 13 years later, we’re a super happy family.

PS: also, being bi and resisting the social urge to “be true to myself” and go gay, assuming the straight part was obviously bullshit.

laverabe, in What is the most user repairable robot vacuum cleaner?

My personal preference would be a consumer model, <$400 usd, that doesn’t require wifi or bluetooth for any functions (preferably not even having that capability)

qooqie, in Can kindness be learned or cultivated, and to what extent is it an innate quality?

I’ll go against the grain here not because I disagree, but for sake of discussion. I think it’s mostly innate. Why? Well my father is a clinically diagnosed sociopath currently running from country to country after he’s done something reprehensible. Growing up with that man, there is no fucking way you can teach or cultivate kindness in him.

And no sociopathy is not something that should be romanticized like it has in podcasts, he has destroyed and harmed so many people it’s unbelievable that people like him can stand to look in a mirror. Anyways mostly innate lol

Signtist, in How to respond to gf saying "I'm fat"

That depends heavily on who she is, and what your relationship looks like; a lighthearted response might work best for one person, while launching into a serious discussion about body image might be best for another.

My go-to response when my wife says something bad about her body is to just respond with “You’re beautiful.” and leave it at that. Sometimes I throw in a “Hey, don’t talk about my wife like that!” for good measure.

BeefPiano, (edited ) in Can kindness be learned or cultivated, and to what extent is it an innate quality?

Kindness can absolutely be cultivated. Mindfulness and Metta meditation can help, but also just doing to work on yourself.

I also would like to urge you to think of kindness as a quality of actions, not people. It’s what we do that matters more than our intentions.

ETA: kindness isn’t always seen as nice. A parent letting their kid suffer the consequences of their actions can be seen by the kid as unkind, but if it helps the kid become more resilient it has kindness.

Delphia, in What is the most user repairable robot vacuum cleaner?

Ive been told the Makita DRC200Z is very user servicable, mostly because its a more commercial space dumb unit.

HipsterTenZero, in What is your earliest memory?
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My older sister shouting at me for getting a math problem wrong. I think i was 3 or 4?

AgentGrimstone, in What is your earliest memory?

I have handful of memories when I was probably 4 years old. Not sure which one was the earliest but my favorite one is my grandpa and I walking to the beach and passing by a wall of little white flowers that smelled really nice. I wish I knew what those flowers were.

AgentGrimstone, in How to respond to gf saying "I'm fat"

IT’S A TRAP! I don’t have an answer. I just want to wish you the best.

PopcornPrincess, in What is this growth on fallen tree branches?

There’s a fungus among us.

xigoi, in How to respond to gf saying "I'm fat"
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“Phew! I thought you were pregnant.”

cheese_greater, in Can kindness be learned or cultivated, and to what extent is it an innate quality?

I would just say that people are much nicer when their needs (positive and negative) are both being met generally. Until then, one can’t help being selfish and innwardly focused

dog_, in What is a nifty little feature modern gadgets have lost?

Headphone jack.

GreyShuck, in Can kindness be learned or cultivated, and to what extent is it an innate quality?
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I would say that kindness is an expression (not the only one) of empathy. Some degree of empathy is present in the overwhelming majority of people - barring extreme sociopathic conditions and an absence of mirror neurones. So for most people I would say that it is innate to some extent.

Even in cases where empathy is not present, kindness can be simulated or faked and some people with strong sociopathic conditions have proven to be very good at this when it suits their purposes - so I certainly say something with the appearance of kindness can be learned in one form or another.

It can definitely be cultivated - and I would say that this is one of the major qualities in the whole “two wolves” metaphor or, in classical Greek terms, a virtue to be developed.

ScaredDuck, (edited ) in What is a nifty little feature modern gadgets have lost?

My current Xiaomi phone has an IR blaster, but what I miss is having an IR receiver as well, trying 100 random remotes to find which one works with your obscure TV/AC is such a pain when you used to be able to just clone one instead.

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