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notthebees, in What are some companies that deserve to be boycotted to death?

This isn’t an ideological boycott, this is stuff I avoid bc it’s not great.

ATT (I get better cell service in a subway than I do in my house and I’m on it because my MVNO switched from T-Mobile to att) HP (worlds shittiest hinges) Comcast, Spectrum (parents have comcast, it sucks. My friends have Spectrum, it also sucks)

GustavoM, in What's a secret that you're keeping from your partner/significant other that you're taking to the grave with you?
@GustavoM@lemmy.world avatar

If you hold secrets and do not tell the whole thing (even the most disgusting stuff) to your SO… then it means that s/he is not that “special” anymore.

I mean, a relationship is never meant to be one-sided, but a “You and me” thing. And if you don’t think like that, then you are doing it wrong.

“So you are telling me to just throw random disgusting stuff to my SO?”

No. Call him/her in particular, “Hey can we talk a bit?”. It does wonders, that is all I can say about it.

t. Used to “play the tough guy” back in my early years. Took the “My life is an open book” route. Never looked back since then.

afraid_of_zombies,

No, there is something called discretion. I don’t for example have to tell my wife what I think of her father. She loves him, my kids love him, I think he is a great father-in-law there is zero need for me to comment on his body odor issues to her.

GustavoM,
@GustavoM@lemmy.world avatar

there is something called discretion.

…and I said to call (whoever is troubling you) in particular and bring the issue up = discretion. And using your words well, you can even talk about someone’s lack of hygiene/odor.

afraid_of_zombies,

And I said that it is a pointless conversation to have. Tact is not discretion. Tact is the act of bringing up what needs to be brought up in a face saving way, discretion is not mentioning what doesn’t need to be mentioned. There is zero reason to mention this to her so I don’t.

Do you seriously do this? Tell your better half literal everything. Like if you noticed her brother was a bit ugly you would definitely make a point of mentioning it to her later.

This whole thing sounds performative and selfish. Like you want to be applauded for it. Have you thought about how she feels? Knowing that any mean nasty observation you might have will be pointed out to her in a passive aggressive way.

GustavoM,
@GustavoM@lemmy.world avatar

And I said that it is a pointless conversation to have.

Why are you bringing so many random problems/issues out of this? That (most likely) not even exist let alone happen? It’s just a conversation, not a threat. If anything, it tells a lot about you, heh.

afraid_of_zombies,

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  • GustavoM,
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    There’s no “motives” when they don’t exist – you just extrapolated the whole thing for the sake of lack of arguments.

    And resorting to low blows won’t prove you right and neither set me as “wrong”, but only show you that you’ve let yourself get emotionally triggered in a 3 minute long convo.

    “It tells a lot about you” indeed. :^)

    I rest my case.

    all-knight-party,
    @all-knight-party@kbin.run avatar

    "hey, babe, I just wanna vent about my day for a little if that's okay"

    "Must you point out every nasty observation in a passive aggressive way? Enjoy your selfish performance"

    HelixDab2,

    Not everything is relevant. Not everything that is truthful is kind. You seem to have this weird idea that you should prioritize your feelings in all things over your partners feelings, rather than understanding that something simply aren’t a big deal.

    I don’t know too many–read: any–marriage and family therapists that would ever suggest you tell your SO every possible thing unless and until it became relevant. There are good reasons that people that practice radical honesty usually don’t have many friends.

    seaQueue, in What are some companies that deserve to be boycotted to death?
    @seaQueue@lemmy.world avatar

    AT&T and basically all of the major US banks

    jj4211, in Tech workers - what did your IT Security team do that made your life hell and had no practical benefit?

    We have a largeish number of systems that IT declared catheorically could not connect directly to the Internet for any reason.

    So guess what systems weren’t getting updates. Also guess what systems got overwhelmed by ransomware that hit what would have been a patched vulnerability, that came through someone’s laptop that was allowed to connect to the Internet.

    My department was fine, because we broke the rules to get updates.

    So did network team admit the flaw in their strategy? No, they declared a USB key must have been the culprit and they literally went into every room and confiscated all USB keys and threw them away, with quarterly audits to make sure no USB keys appear. The systems are still not being updated and laptops with Internet connection are still indirectly bridging them.

    jj4211,

    Also, I keep a “rogue” laptop to self administrate along with my official it laptop to show I am in compliance. Updates are disabled and are only allowed to be fine y by IT. I just checked and they haven’t pushed any updates for about 8 months.

    irotsoma,
    @irotsoma@lemmy.world avatar

    Wait, why don’t they use patch management software? If they allow computers with Internet access to connect to them, why not a patch management server?

    jj4211,

    They do. In fact they mandate IT assets to have three competing patch management software on them. They mandate disabling any auto updates because they have to vet them first. My official laptop hasn’t been pushed an update in 8 months.

    PutangInaMo,

    Do y’all need a consultant? That is so bad it’s a non starter.

    jj4211,

    Ironically, we actually have a Segment of our business that provides IT for other companies, and they do a decent job, but they aren’t allowed to manage our own IT. Best guess is that they are too expensive to waste on our own IT needs. If an IT staffember accidentally shows competence, they are probably moved to the billable group.

    PutangInaMo,

    The irony…

    orcrist, in whats going on with the 'tankie' thing

    It sounds like you think history ought to be simple and it sounds like you think people’s political views ought to be simple. The reality is that everything is more nuanced, and it takes time and energy to understand. A lot of people, probably people similar to you, don’t want to spend that time and energy. But here you are, so perhaps you are willing to give it a whirl.

    To begin with, the enemy of your enemy might not be your friend. Just because the USSR fought against Nazi Germany doesn’t mean that the USSR was run by people that we’d like to have lunch with.

    And then it’s important not to think that the USSR in the early 40s is the same as what it was in the late 80s. Countries change over time.

    It looks like you want people to hold very strong positions. “Communism is entirely good/bad.” “The US loves freedom.” “Marx is bad.” … In reality, political leaders are smart, and they’re very good at manipulating people who have simplistic absolutist views such as these. It is necessary to pay attention to the details.

    And finally, even if I have some very strong belief, if I tried to push it dogmatically on to other people on the internet then they will just block me. It’s often a better strategy to try to discuss things and assume or hope that the other person is going to use their brain, just as you are willing to use yours.

    Of course there’s no reaching some folks, and some people are just here to troll, but that’s nothing new and nothing to write home about.

    CatradoraSomething,

    The reality is that everything is more nuanced, and it takes time and energy to understand

    I feel like whenever someone says the word ‘nuance’ its usually just an excuse to not have a position on somethin. But yeah I know you gotta know your way around the shovel, but at the end of the day its a decision between making a new shovel or finishing the job.

    To begin with, the enemy of your enemy might not be your friend. Just because the USSR fought against Nazi Germany doesn’t mean that the USSR was run by people that we’d like to have lunch with.

    I mean, yeah I don’t think many people would like to dine with stalin, but does that make them not communist anymore?

    And then it’s important not to think that the USSR in the early 40s is the same as what it was in the late 80s

    I mean in the 40s they took berlin an in the 80s they kinda ker splat, seems like they just got weaker, not like any different

    and that last part I guess its strange to be absolutist, but someone needs to just pick a side, and yeah there’s many sides, but just keep picking yours until youve found your niche. Maybe thats bad, but I don’t wanna jus spend my time going over the menu options when I could’ve been eating a nice steak the whole time. And everyone else seems to have decided too, even though they have opinions on it that don’t match.

    ha I guess I did jus kinda say my piece and not consider yours all too well, but ill keep it in mind to think over when I get a nice smoke.

    Thank you for giving a clarification. Im just trying to wade my way through this storm.

    neveraskedforthis, in Tech workers - what did your IT Security team do that made your life hell and had no practical benefit?

    Banned open source software because of security concerns. For password management they require LastPass or that we write them down in a book that we keep on ourselves at all times. Worth noting that this policy change was a few months ago. After the giant breach.

    And for extra absurdity: MFA via SMS only.

    I wish I was making this up.

    JigglySackles,

    I tried so hard to steer my last company away from SMS MFA. CTO basically flat out said, “As long as I’m here SMS MFA will always be an option.”

    Alright, smarmy dumbass. I dream of the day when they get breached because of SMS.

    Aceticon,

    If I remember it correctly, in GSM it’s perfectly possibly to spoof a phone number to receive the SMS using the roaming part of the protocol.

    The thing was designed to be decently safe, not to be highly secure.

    slazer2au,

    Do you work for a government?

    Hobart_the_GoKart,

    Care to elaborate “MFA via SMS only”? I’m not in tech and know MFA through text is widely used. Or do you mean alternatives like Microsoft Authenticator or YubiKey? Thanks!

    Appoxo,
    @Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

    Sim swap is quite easy if you are convincing enough for support at an ISP doing phone plans.
    Now imagine if I sim-swapped your 2FA codes :)

    Exactly this. Instead you should use a phone app like Aegis or proprietary solutions like MS Authenticator to MFA your access because it’s encrypted.

    Hobart_the_GoKart,

    Thenks! I really don’t want to be forced into an app, but it’s good to know the reason why.

    Funwayguy,
    @Funwayguy@lemmy.world avatar

    Through a low tech social engineering attack referred to as SIM Jacking, an attacker can have your number moved to their SIM card, redirecting all SMS 2FA codes effectively making the whole thing useless as a security measure. Despite this, companies still implement it out of both laziness and to collect phone numbers (which is often why SMS MFA is forced)

    Hobart_the_GoKart,

    TIL! thanks for the explanation.

    jaybone,

    To collect numbers, which they sell in bulk, to shadey organizations, that might SIM Jack you.

    JackGreenEarth,

    Banning open source because of security concerns is the opposite of what they should be doing if they care about security. You can’t vet proprietary software.

    CCDKP,

    It’s not about security, it’s about liability. You can’t sue OSS to get shareholders off your back.

    csm10495, in Tech workers - what did your IT Security team do that made your life hell and had no practical benefit?
    @csm10495@sh.itjust.works avatar

    In high school they blocked dictionary.com for some reason.

    SgtAStrawberry,

    I’m going to guess either because it starts with dic or because you can look up dirty words on it.

    willis936,

    You wouldn’t want high school boys running around with enlarged dictions.

    ElderWendigo,

    Worse yet, the girls might become cunning linguists.

    glue_snorter,

    Think of the lexiconsequences

    jaspersgroove, in What's a secret that you're keeping from your partner/significant other that you're taking to the grave with you?

    When she snores I pinch her nose shut until she stops.

    Gorgeous_Sloth,

    Oh that I tell her in the morning

    umulu,
    @umulu@lemmy.world avatar

    Your wife must be a deep sleeper. Mine would be awake in an instant.

    MyFairJulia,
    @MyFairJulia@lemmy.world avatar

    You could try to fix this from a very different angle by buying those strips for the nose against snoring. Those strips can temporarily unobstruct the air flow in the nose.

    Donebrach,
    @Donebrach@lemmy.world avatar

    Snoring is often a sign of sleep apnea, which is easily treatable. Your wife should take a sleep test to see if she has it. Can take years off your life if left undiagnosed.

    Piecemakers3Dprints,
    @Piecemakers3Dprints@lemmy.world avatar

    So can stopping her breathing.

    jaspersgroove,

    For her it’s usually a sign that she had 3 or 4 too many white claws before she went to bed.

    lvxferre, in Go through your saved posts on Lemmy, what's something cool that you saved?
    @lvxferre@lemmy.ml avatar

    This post about text generation models failing to infer that, if A is B, then B is A.

    Rest of my saved content is mostly my own comments, things that I feel proud of. e.g. analysing one of my favourite poems or an anime intro song.

    Hogger85b, in Tech workers - what did your IT Security team do that made your life hell and had no practical benefit?

    Set the automatic timeout for admin accounts to 15 minutes....meaning that process that may take an hour or so you have to wiggle the mouse or it logs out ..not locks.... logs out

    From installs to copying log files, to moving data to reassigning owner of data to the service account.

    netburnr,
    @netburnr@lemmy.world avatar

    There is no compliance item I am aware of that has that requirement, some CISO needs to learn to read.

    Hobo,

    Misunderstood STIG from the sound of it. The STIG is only applicable to unprivileged users but tends to get applied to all workstations regardless of user privileges. Also I think the .mil STIG GPOs apply it to all workstations regardless of privileges.

    The other thing that tends to get overlooked is that AC-12 let’s you set it to whatever the heck you want. Ao you could theoretically set it to 99999 year by policy if you wanted.

    www.stigviewer.com/stig/…/V-69243

    chiliedogg,

    And that’s why people use mouse jigglers and keep their computers unlocked 24/7.

    fat_stig,

    Mine was removed by Corporate IT, along with a bunch of other open source stuff that made my life bearable.

    Also I spent 5 months with our cyber security guys to try and provide a simple file replication server for my team working in a remote office with shit internet connectivity. I gave up, the spooks put up a solid defense, push all the onerous IT security compliance checking onto my desk instead of taking control.

    Not as bad as my previous company though, outsourced IT support to ATOS was a nightmare.

    0xD,

    The internal IT at that hellhole is a nightmare as well.

    FooBarrington,

    That’s why you buy a jiggler that you place your mouse onto. Not detectable by IT :)

    lightnsfw,

    I set my pocket knife on the ctrl key when I have to step away.

    lazylion_ca,

    That works?

    lightnsfw,

    Idk about every application but it keeps windows from timing out which serves most purposes for me.

    FooBarrington,

    Does that keep your status in Teams as “online”? That’s what I use the jiggler for - if I’m waiting for CI tests which take 30+ minutes and I sit in front of the laptop, I don’t want to have to manually jiggle my mouse every couple of minutes just to keep my status.

    lightnsfw,

    Yep

    FooBarrington,

    Awesome, thank you!

    Krudler,

    Ahhh the old “level up an RPG Skill by jamming a pen cap into a key and going to watch Night Court reruns” method.

    Thanks, I actually didn’t know holding CTRL would keep the system awake!

    fat_stig,

    After mine was disabled, I found that if I run videos of old meetings or training onscreen, it keeps the system alive…

    Works nicely when I’m WFH.

    Aceticon,

    It’s reasonably easy to make a hardware mouse wiggler with an Arduino Micro (and I don’t mean something that physically moves a mouse, rather something that looks like a USB mouse to the computer and periodically sends mouse movement messages).

    If you’re desperate enough, look it up as it’s quite simple so there should be step by step instructions out there.

    drudoo,

    Absolutely love my Uno keyboard for this keyhive.xyz/shop/uno-single-key-keyboard

    Got like 6 commands on a single key and one of them is to press shift every 30seconds so my computer doesn’t lock. Lifesaver.

    glue_snorter,

    I used a Sidewinder keyboard for years with programmable macros.

    Yeah, I had my password as a macro.

    Dick move on my part as the macro, I’m fairly sure, is stored in plaintext on the PC. But the convenience was great. I don’t do that any more.

    Aceticon,

    Yeah, it’s surprisingly simple to get these microcontrollers to become essentially programmable keyboard/mouse emulators, by which point if you’re familiar with the stuff to program them (Arduino being the simplest and most widespread framework) it really just becomes a coding task and you can get it to do crazy stuff.

    I suggested an Arduino Micro board because it bypasses the whole hardware side of the problem, but something like what you mention is even simpler.

    steal_your_face,
    @steal_your_face@lemmy.ml avatar

    Can also just buy one from Amazon if you’re lazy or not technically inclined.

    Aceticon,

    Well, my off the cuff suggestion was what seems simple to me in this domain ;)

    That said I get what you mean and agree.

    kuneho, in I use Brave to test whether my websites work on Chromium browsers, but their scummy actions lately make me want to find a new Chromium browser to test with. What's the best Chromium based browser?
    @kuneho@lemmy.world avatar

    if you use Windows and want to have Chrome, why not just use Edge? It’s just conveniently therr, you need nothing to install.

    It works with everything that “needs” chrome.

    edit: one comment gave me the idea you use Windows but now I’m not sure in it. if not, then sry, ignore this comment :)

    hperrin,

    I don’t use Windows much, but Edge is available on Mac and Linux. I’m just not a fan of all the “features” they put in it. I’m looking for more of a clean browser experience, if you get what I mean.

    intensely_human,

    Why not use Chromium then?

    kuneho,
    @kuneho@lemmy.world avatar

    I think you can’t go more clean than Chromium. Pretty sure all browsers based on Chromium has some extra features, since those are the only differences in them. Vivaldi, Brave, Maxthon etc…, the same engine in different car, with different extras.

    this is why I usually recommend people to use Edge if they really want Chrome, since on Windows, it’s already there. But yeah, on Linux, I wouldn’t really tell anyone to apt install edge.

    shinigamiookamiryuu, in What nicknames have you been given?

    Knotty because of how complicated I come off as.

    BigBootyBoy, in Go through your saved posts on Lemmy, what's something cool that you saved?
    @BigBootyBoy@sh.itjust.works avatar

    Everytime I finally go through my saved posts again it’s like uncovering a treasure trove of cool stuff

    otter,

    Same! I just need to remember to go through it more often

    maegul,
    @maegul@lemmy.ml avatar

    I think it’s an underrated practice in general.

    Writing notes, saving notable/interesting things or highlights from articles/books/films etc and then going back through what you’ve saved.

    YungOnions, in I use Brave to test whether my websites work on Chromium browsers, but their scummy actions lately make me want to find a new Chromium browser to test with. What's the best Chromium based browser?

    Tempest browser is basically Brave but without the Crypto stuff. It’s still in beta atm so take that as you will.

    RangerOs, in Go through your saved posts on Lemmy, what's something cool that you saved?

    lemm.ee/post/12108935He was just too funny as a cat owner.

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