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Metatronz, in My beagle has suddenly started resource guarding random stuff. What should I do to get this behavior to stop?

You said the living conditions changed and you’re at your parents primarily? Maybe just too many changes and it’s stressed him out. Reassurance and some new toys to chew might be worth it.

LaunchesKayaks,
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Yeah. We are going to be at my parents until at least January. My ankle/leg got super fucked up. The accident was also traumatic for my dog. I was screaming with pain when it happened and had to drag myself inside to call for help. My boy got so scared that he ran off into the woods. I wouldn’t let my mom call an ambulance until she got him back. She said he was so scared he was shaking. Throughout this whole ordeal, I’ve cried a lot and I’m sure it makes my dog upset. He has been up my ass since I got hurt and does his best to comfort me.

My parents also have two dogs and one is an anxious mess, which doesn’t help my boy. The anxious dog freaks out over the littlest things and has to be consoled constantly. My parents’ dogs also love to sneak in and eat my dogs’ (I have a goldendoodle puppy as well) food. My dogs also had a very strict routine before all this happened and it’s completely different now.

I’m going to make some toys for my dogs to keep my hands busy and hopefully help my boy. All of his fave stuff is at my house, and my parents haven’t had time to grab it for me

My little sister has also been getting very frustrated with all of the dogs running around and/or misbehaving. She has autism and doesn’t understand that yelling at them and lecturing them doesn’t help. In fact, yelling and lecturing makes my beagle very upset. I’ve been working with her to try to make her understand what is and isn’t appropriate behavior towards the dogs. I’ve been helping her with how to recognize what the dogs need to do in situations where they are being crazy. Sometimes they need a nap, or to run outside, or they’re hungry.

I’m going to call my vet today and see if they think upping his Prozac temporarily will help at all.

satanmat, in Who is the cruelest fictional villain?

Big Brother.

The paranoia of everyone being on the watch for everything forcing everyone to be even more paranoid

Zorque,

It was even more insidious than that. It wasn't about self-preservation or selfish need... they were so brainwashed they considered it good to tell on others as a matter of course. One of the secondary characters is even proud of his own children for turning him in for talking in his sleep.

starbreaker, in Am i the a**hole for telling my coworkers no?
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No, you're not the asshole. But I'm the guy who won't do shit unless it's explicitly part of my job description.

GONADS125, (edited ) in Am i the a**hole for telling my coworkers no?

Nah, definitely not the asshole. It’s pretty clear that they are just upset by no longer having their laziness enabled.

One important component of assertiveness that I taught to my former clients was that everyone has an inherent right to refusal. You can say no, and you’re not obligated to provide any justification.

Obviously you ought to provide context when appropriate and in work situations if you want to keep your job. But I was in similar situations where I would refuse leadership’s direction on reasonable grounds/different department’s duty. I would not let notorious department heads throw me under the bus, and I’d save emails to call them out on their bullshit in the email chain they lied/blamed me. I would refuse orders to over-bill and call out managers/leadership trying to push us grunts to commit medicaid fraud/waste, even in the middle of their meetings announcing the directives.

I wasn’t liked by those toxic people in the organization, but they learned respect/fear me and a lot of my peers/my team would tell me they appreciated me speaking up when they were afraid to. My supervisor told me after I had her come into our boss’ office with me to confront our boss over unwarranted criticism about me. Afterwards my supervisor told me: “I wish I could talk to leadership like that… but I’m too afraid to lose my job.”

I was never fired but I did leave the job when I got really sick with covid + RSV + pneumonia, a secondary bacterial infection in my lungs, pleurisy, and then long covid. The healthcare industry in my region was so strained, we had so many people quit due to toxic leadership/over-worked/burned out, and the policy was not hiring replacements and instead pushing the load on the remaining employees. I probably would’ve quit if I hadn’t gotten sick.

But I’m proud that I always stood by my principles even when it meant disobeying/confronting superiors. My stubbornness and threshold for confrontation also made me a damn good client advocate. That was what I was most known for. I kept residential care and assisted living facilities in check, hotlining them and aiding state government investigations. It was usually stealing client funds or meds, but I also uncovered neglect and abuse.

I can be wrong and an ass at times, just like all of us. But if I feel strongly convicted about something, peer-pressure or fear of losing my job won’t stop me from holding my ground.

I think you’re doing the right thing standing your ground. I would appreciate you being the one to put yourself on the line for my benefit as well, if I worked in your department. That is a quality I would want in my manager. Rather than rolling over and accepting additional work/disruptions to your department’s actual duties.

shinigamiookamiryuu, in Why does lemmy seem better for engagement and conversation then (I meant than) Mastodon

I don’t know, but I’m about a year into Mastodon and haven’t found a single person to follow and interact with on a regular basis. I signed up during the surge so they specifically told me to go for the masto.a1 instance because it was the only one not overloaded, and I can see why. Currently I use my profile there as a kind of quasi-storage, as it’s not like it doesn’t work.

rob299,

if you like anime you can try Sakurajima.moe, the staff and users on that particular instance are conversaters.

shinigamiookamiryuu,

Do I have to re-register to get into it?

rob299,

if it’s a different instance.

Bebo,

You can migrate from your old instance to a new one

shinigamiookamiryuu,

How does one do that on here?

Bebo,

To clarify, I was talking about migration on Mastodon. There isn’t a migration option on lemmy yet. I have heard that migration function on lemmy is on the pipeline, though not sure exactly what it would entail (as in whether posts and comments would be migrated or not, since on Mastodon you can migrate with only your followers as far as I know).

clark,
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I’ve got nothing new to say except that I have tried Mastodon several times and it hasn’t stuck to me. Very difficult to get any interactions at all, let alone conversations.

shinigamiookamiryuu,

Who would you recommend following?

clark,
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I’ve got nothing new to say except that I have tried Mastodon several times and it hasn’t stuck to me. Very difficult to get any interactions at all, let alone conversations.

shinigamiookamiryuu,

Who would you recommend following?

Turious, in Am i the a**hole for telling my coworkers no?

I can’t imagine a universe where what you did makes you an asshole.

SmokingFurry,

Well I have 4 women complaining about it. One called me a dick to my face and said “You always complain about doing your job.”

One complained that I was being a smartass by saying they weren’t busy so they should have done it.

One complained I called them out for giving us the wrong information on a product to load in a customer’s car.

The other just doesn’t like me. 😕

morphballganon,

Them calling you a dick to your face for you not doing their job is an HR write-up. Do that.

You want to know why they disrespect you? Because they haven’t faced any consequences for doing so.

SmokingFurry,

That’s the thing. We don’t have a HR that handles that kind of thing. It’s up to the store managers, which is all family. One of the girls called my coworker a asshole for not being gentle enough with a buggy of paint. The consequences, you ask? An apology to me and my coworker. I never recieved one and my coworker never told me if he got one and refuses to talk about it because “she was probably upset so I’m not worried about it.”

Steinawitz,
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Time to find a new job. That situation won’t get better anytime soon due to family managing family.

Jerb322, in Am i the a**hole for telling my coworkers no?
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Not the asshole. They are trying to get something for nothing it sounds like. You had evry right to do and say what you did. “Sorry, you have to do your own job” shouldn’t be something that you have to say, but you will need to say it, probably more than once.

thegiddystitcher, in Why does lemmy seem better for engagement and conversation then (I meant than) Mastodon
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It seems to depend a lot on the topic tbh, for example cross stitch is more active on Lemmy whereas knitting is more active on Mastodon. Memes, Lemmy. Gamedev, Mastodon. etc etc. I end up cross-posting a lot from Mastodon to Lemmy just to cover all my bases 😄

Your post kind of dismisses hashtags but given that they’re basically what all of Mastodon runs on, I’d very much recommend using them. Both to build your own follow list and feeds, as well as in your posts to reach other people.

And don’t be afraid to ask for a boost if you have something to say that you think is relevant to a much wider audience.

rob299,

I wouldn’t use mastodon without hashtags, but they have their limitations and potential short comings.

iagomago, in Excluding the obvious ones such as politics, what topics can't you stand listening to people talk about?
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Horoscopes & astrology, and celebrity gossip.

TheGreenGolem, in Which things have you avoided or embraced on the name alone?

OpenTofu. What the hell were they thinking?

ALostInquirer,

I don’t eat tofu, nor been around folks that do (or do and talk about it), so I’m whiffing here. Is it because tofu spoils when left open, or is there a pronunciation part I’m missing?

TheGreenGolem,

It’s a fork of Terrafom, it’s an IT thing: opentofu.org

They started with the name OpenTF but went with this…thing.

ALostInquirer,

Ooooh, it’s that kind of name. Yeah that’s bad. Thanks for clarifying!

marx2k,

Damn… I didn’t know that m and I’m devops though we don’t touch terraform

That’s so bad D;

Mugmoor, in Has Nintendo lost it's magic or is it just now waking up and making good games again - my thoughts included, but what are the views of Lemy users?
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Your takes on Mario games are wild. Have fun never being happy with them.

southsamurai, in If zombies are supposed to go after brains, then why do they almost always end up tearing into the abdomen and other parts instead?
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I think everyone has already covered the fact that it depends on which kind of zombie you’re talking about, since the only “real” zombies aren’t actually undead at all, and are certainly not mindless.

But! Even within the brain hungry zombie type, there would be plenty of reasons to target something other than the head!

First, the chances of attacking a living person, getting through their skull, and to the brain in a single attack are low. So, attacking other parts of the body in order to prevent the prey from escaping is a good idea.

If you then assume that the zombies will want living brains, rather than freshly dead, the guts are the ideal target. See, if you can get the living human down, and tear into their guts, they’ll be immobilized for the most part, but their heart should stay beating for at least a few minutes. This gives your brain eating zombie much better chances of having a bit of live brain. So, even if they’re too weak to crack the skull and eat quickly, if you have time, you can make it happen anyway.

Now, you probably were seeing one of the varieties of zombie fiction where their hunger is for either flesh in general and human by preference, or specifically for human flesh.

The walking dead zombies were flesh eaters in general, they were shown to eat deer and horse for sure, but seemed to prefer human when available. And there were a good number of scenes where they were seen digging into the abdomen. While Robert Kirkman has never given real details about how and why his zombies function as they do, we know two things for sure: First, they can function even when their body isn’t fully intact; second that they have a constant hunger for flesh that will drive them to attempt to eat, no matter what happens to the rest of them. Indeed, severed zombie heads can still try and eat.

So, you run into zombies in that world that may not be at full strength, but can drag down the living in numbers. They then crawl their way to the meat and gnaw.

But, the reason why walking dead zombies often go for the soft parts rather than arms and legs isn’t an in-universe thing, it’s practical. Zombies tearing the guts out of a victim looks cooler, and it’s easier to make effects for. Making a believable leg eating prop is a lot harder.

There’s also been versions of zombies where they have residual capacity for thinking, and memories. When that’s the case, you could be dealing with the mind that’s left going for a target that’s easier to chew into, as compared to a skull. The throat and belly are the most vulnerable targets available for human teeth that will kill or immobilize in a reasonable span of time.

over_clox,

Movies? Look, I’m asking for a friend, he’s been at McDonald’s for like 45 minutes and the manager keeps refusing him brains. I just want an ice cream cone.

Damaskox, (edited ) in Which things have you avoided or embraced on the name alone?
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Prejudices can shield you from stuff, but they can also make you miss stuff you later hope you didn't.

Trying out new things in life is an effective way to learn something new about yourself and the world around you.

ALostInquirer,

Trying out new things in life is an effective way to learn something new about yourself and the world around you.

Part of why I’m asking tbh! I’m blanking on stuff I’ve avoided based on names, but I’m hoping some replies here might highlight them as, “Avoided but…!”

Damaskox,
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You could try out setting up a bucket list!
Whatever you come up with what you'd like to try or experience, write it down!

I have over 200 entries on mine.

LegionEris, (edited ) in Which things have you avoided or embraced on the name alone?

I have one that I don’t think is shallow or petty. I avoid the Wondergrove cannabis company because there is a children’s show/educational program of the same name. While state regulators are making cannabis brands who have made no attempts to advertise to or appeal to children change their packaging to single color designs to reduce their appeal to children, there is a weed brand named after a kid’s show that calls its flower line “Field Trip.” I call it “Kid Weed” because it makes me think of the WKUK Kid Beer sketch. And I don’t buy it.

TheInsane42, in Which things have you avoided or embraced on the name alone?
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I’ve been playing World of tanks blitz. I had fun, then discovered there is a world of warships blitz as well, which has a Dutch line of ships. It was the 1st game I heard of with Dutch content, so I’m now kinda hooked on it, chasing after all Dutch ships. It wasn’t exactly the name of the game, but more the hint of the content.

BTW I’m Dutch, when you haven’t guessed it already. ;)

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