A few years ago, I spent New Year’s Eve flying solo. Passed the time with a mix of baking, movies, cooking dinner, a long walk, doodling, and a bunch of Sudoku games. The night was dry, so I stepped out close to midnight, had a sip of whisky under city lights to see the New Year in. Then I popped an edible and fucked off to bed with a Netflix Lullaby. Best of luck too you!
Priorities. You want to be lit and forget the whole thing like a chump or do you want a sick story like the champ you replied to? Sounded like they had an awesome day and night and got a bunch of fun shit done.
Neighbors showing their unneighborly side again. The people here have a saying, “a cat giving birth to her kittens in the oven doesn’t make them biscuits”, meaning you’re not viewed as one of the community members unless you and the generations before you were raised there. And they somehow think that’s a virtue.
LinkedIn is pretty good, for finding work. I’ve gotten a lot of offers there. Ultimately never took any of them, ironically, but worth the time to set up a good profile.
If you’re thinking of joining Facebook… Don’t. It’s not worth it. Tell people you have something else and give them that info. Like your phone number or your email or your WhatsApp/telegram/whatever.
I hate how I have Facebook and am so dependent on it. I wish I could tell people I don’t have it.
I’m seconding the “no Facebook” thing, and I’d add “no Meta-Owned anything”. Facebook is constantly showing me conspiracy flat earth shit with people honest to god arguing about it, and everyone in other posts strangely all comment the same thing or early similar things to the point that I’ve checked peoples accounts out to see if they are bots or not. Instagram isn’t much better, and a LOT of it is basically soft-core attention seeking influencers. Threads… Isn’t giving anything better than what Mastodon offers.
I haven’t scrolled Facebook in over a decade I think. But nobody interesting posts on Facebook in my feed so I’m not too bothered. Instagram is good to me. Giving me only like comics and skits and stuff from people I follow, and things similar to what I enjoyed before like certain sports etc. I’d gladly jump Facebook if I could find my friends elsewhere. I wish Messenger wasn’t connected to a Facebook account. 😞
Not sure if it’s specifically what you’re looking for, but I’d recommend going on disboard and looking up local discord servers. I’ve joined a couple and met some people I like hanging out with through one. I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people. One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it. It’s also got an all purpose support thread going that tends to be very positive.
Find a few near you that do meet ups or events, feel the groups out for a bit even just lurking and see if it feels right for you. Maybe go to an event, even if you also feel anxious, and try to meet some of the people you talk to online. Just remember that they might also be lonely people trying to make a connection too.
It wasn’t through Disboard, but this is basically what I did. Moved to a new city, found a community Discord that was mentioned on Reddit, and asked around for interest in a D&D campaign. Now I’ve got two games going, and am great friends with everyone I play with. TTRPGs are a social skill, but most people are very welcoming of those new to the hobby
One of the servers I’m in literally has a How to Make Friends pinned post for people who might need it.
Out of morbid curiosity, could we see it?
We’ve got basic conflict resolution tactics written into our rules… not that anyone reads them.
I’ve found that people on local servers tend to be a mix, including other lonely or socially awkward people.
Give it a few more years and you’ll realise how much deeper that rabbit hole goes. I’m resigned to the fact that discord isn’t even really a gaming platform any more, let alone a social one; most people seem to be trying to use it for scoring drugs or hookups/affairs. Lots of kink stuff, too - it is following the same path as Second Life did. Also goes well beyond lonely and socially awkward; antisocial nutjobs abound.
I don’t know of one, but the Internet is toxic. I’ve had more luck meeting strangers into the same hobbies. Went to an open source conference. A business meetup. Professional settings are lower pressure because there’s no expectation of making actual friends.
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