Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
I wouldn’t know about controversial haha, I mostly comment for fun, but there does seem to be an acceptance of the fact we are all sharing the same house, might as well make nice
It’s basic fear response conditioning, I doubt it ever fully goes away because being cautious of the unknown is a very successful survival trait.
Basically every time you open that inbox you’d have to lie to yourself into believing that a negative response is an impossibility. Good luck, if you figure it out let me know.
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
I did this on reddit for comments I knew would be a shitshow, just drop brutal fire, set to no notifications, post. Let the haters spew and I’m just kicking back on the next conversation.
You can still check back on conversations that interest you, you just don't have to deal with the rest.. 👍
To be completely honest, on kbin blocking someone doesn't stop the notification coming through when they reply, and switching off notifications was the easiest way around that. This has probably been fixed already, and may be completely different on lemmy, but I actually prefer it this way. The only disadvantage I can think of is potentially missing replies to older conversations (and if I really must know, I can always scroll back my profile and find it, though I've not had that need yet), but I guess that's a price I'm willing to pay to avoid those anxiety inducing little fuckers that are notifications.. 😂
Yeah I have accounts in various places but have mostly lurked around here. Didn’t realize I had some form of anxiety until I realized how stressed I get posting or responding to things or getting notifications. Slooowwlly getting over it. How to people just throw stuff out there and feel nothing??
I don't know about you, but for me it's the intrusion, I'm not always free or in a frame of mind to have certain, or even any, conversations, and notifications intrude on that, and ignoring them can be hard. I'd rather be in control of what conversations I have and when.
It also helps to remember that at the end of the day people on the internet are generally random strangers to each other, and none of us owe each other our attention, time, or energy.
I don't really see it as anything I need to get over, but if it bothers you taking it slow and steady is the way to go!
Yeah for me it’s really gotten easier since I’ve started doing streaming games online and talking with various people and stuff. Having people come and go and figuring out when someone is being kind or rude has helped a lot for figuring out when to engage, avoid, and even remove.
It’s easy for me to ignore different comments and just let it be, but I do really think about what I say before throwing it out there which is most of the stress, but it’s always getting better!
Lol, there you go! All you needed was to take that first step, and the rest has been taken care of for you just by nature of how asking a question works 😁
Just remember - worst case? Abandon this account and start another 😂
I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.
Maybe it’s just a volume thing and we haven’t attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.
Yes. Once a certain volume and popularity has been reached Eternal September happens and mainstream users flood in carrying alot of opinions, followed by companies who want to advertise to those new users.
How that works in a federated system is going to be interesting. There is no central site or node. Maybe there will be a separate commercial federation network.
I think those are some pretty fair assumptions. I haven’t been involved in any discussions until now really but people have been kind to me so far. I can be a bit of a goof so nice to know I won’t immediately be attacked for it.
We’ll see what the future of Lemmy will be, but for now things are nice!
Once in a while on Reddit one of your most irrelevant comments would receive like 1000 replies, and the other times - nothing. Here it is much more evenly spread. And usually you can go into deep discussion with multiple back and forth.
I remember Reddit was the same when I joined it during Digg exodus.
It’s taken me some time to feel comfortable just even commenting on stuff so I haven’t really been in any discussions. Looking forward to it though, everyone’s been great so far!
I find myself commenting more frequently on Lemmy as well. I attribute it to there being less comments in general so less has already been said. By the time a post shows my reddit feed there’s already hundreds of comments and the discussion is already pretty well laid out. At that point I don’t really have anything meaningful to add.
Welcome! For me sometimes it’s just easier to scroll and move on, engaging takes more effort. Beyond that is the dread of worrying about what people will think/say in response.
Not a problem, that’s what I’m here for! Be sure to give someone else a welcome whenever you have the chance! Keep the good vibes going around and encouraging people to stay active here.
I oftena don’t feel like I have anything to add to the conversation that hasn’t been said, so I just end up lurking most of the time. I do comment more than I’d usually do to help the platform, though that admittedly isn’t much.
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