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Which items/products were you once able to get from local shops on a whim that you now more or less have to order online?

Sometimes I find myself shopping for things that I’d prefer to go out and get within the same day, but now I’d have to order and wait a few days to get…So I’m wondering what some of those things may be for you?

Devi,

I feel like Wilko had the odd bit, but if I was like, I need a lightening to audio wire, or a USB to USBC adapter then I'd struggle. You have to order those. I guess I notice because I'm in a ridiculous job where sometimes you need those things immediately and it's a nightmare.

Devi,

Yeah, like "we need a pack of black half inch nails", "cool, when for?", "like half hour?"

Fucks sake.

Devi,

I feel like that makes sense. I was reading a book recently about zoo history and it was relatively recently when a lot of primates were kept exclusively inside to keep them warm, it makes logical sense to protect them, but a few zoos in the 20's and 30's started giving them a bit of time outside and realised that it made a real difference to their health. Now we generally give them free access outside and all the other improvements to see long healthy lives.

It's taken a long time for us to realise how to raise healthy humans, nevermind healthy animals.

Devi,

Small animals is a specialism. Like just animals that are small. Actually, so is exotics! So the same guy is treating parrots, reptiles, and monkeys. That's ridiculous.

Devi,

This is old fashioned dominance training, it's been proven not to work well and it damages the dog and your relationship with them.

Devi,

Most pups are taken away too young for this to happen. You want pups with their littermates at least up to 12 weeks and they start with pretty good bite inhibition. It's so different meeting pups treated properly rather than the byb pups taken at 8 weeks or sometimes even younger.

Devi,

16 is even better. It's difficult because you really want them to start socialisation by that point and breeders individually socialising a litter can be a challenge, but for those who can it's a much more stable dog the owner is starting with.

I do dog rescue and a lot of people got their first ever dog over covid and people who had no idea how to raise a pup raised some really messed up dogs. Starting with an older dog that is a bit more stable just makes all the difference.

Is there a place with the complete Doctor Who collection (Classic, Modern, AND spin-offs)?

Unfortunately the BBC has decided Australia doesn’t get to watch any Doctor Who that was released before 2005 or is a spin-off. So uh, anyone got a plex share or torrent with the lot? Immediate preference is getting the same versions as what is available on iPlayer in the UK, but would settle for DVD rips if that’s what’s...

Devi,

Everything doesn't exist. There are 97 episodes currently missing. I started watching from the first ep a while back, there was a fair few more missing at the time, but I pretty soon got lost with big chunks missing.

You can use iplayer through a VPN if that's useful to you.

Devi,

Jellyfish are really weak, obviously they don't really have control over themselves but I think even if they did they'd be pretty hopeless. maybe they could travel where they want together?

Devi,

Right wing in my country is also non religious, religion in politics is really frowned upon, to the point that one of our former PMs 'came out' as a Catholic after he left. Everyone is pretty pro LGB... less so on the T though, our conservatives are very anti-trans, our left party less so. I think our only anti abortionists are on the right? It's a rare viewpoint to say out loud though.

How do you work full-time and stay awake all shift?

A few questions to people who have struggled long-term with fatigue, exhaustion, insomnia, etc.: what do you do to keep awake for a full-time workday? Black coffee, supplements, herbs, drugs/prescriptions, other? None, and it required a lifecycle habit change? Have you had success with “desk” jobs sitting all day, or had to...

Devi,

I like to go for a walk at lunch, get some fresh air. If I've bought a lunch then I go to the park to eat while walking around, if I'm buying then I pick a slightly further away place.

It is worth seeing if you get used to it though, everyone struggles with a full time job to start with, especially if it's a starter job, low effort, repetitive, probably below you in the long term. As you get into a routine it gets better, adding responsibilities makes it better, even getting to know people so you have more chats makes it better.

Devi,

You can't bring yourself to tether him but electrocution is just fine?? That makes no sense.

Huskies are escape artists, they will get out of nearly anything eventually if left to their own devices, including an electric fence, you need to supervise them. A fence with a top that leans in is the best method.

Devi,

There are better ways of containing your dog. Like an actual fence. Don't cause your dog pain for your own convenience. They don't even keep the dog in, a good run up, for example if they are being chased by something, they can be outside before they feel anything and then unable to return home.

Devi,

I think the people who are genuinely made unhappy by it just don't really understand it. My friend told me once that she avoids it cause she sees everyone having a better life than her and gets depressed, but people just put good stuff on social media cause you don't want to be a bummer. It's just like going out for drinks, you don't sit down and go "I've really been struggling with stomach pain this week, my doctor is doing scans", no, too much, and that's what a facebook status is, just an opening statement read by potentially hundreds, so it's a light statement, a joke, something to share, that sort of thing.

Devi,

That's a moderation problem, the joy of social media is that you can follow who you like so no toxic people should be on there.

Devi,

Sorry, I don't mean moderation by mods, I mean moderation by you, the things you choose to follow will change your experience, you can even block specific pages that bring in those comments.

It takes some time to cultivate your experience and learn the voices you want there but once you've done it you'll find the whole thing more positive.

Devi,

I think even then people are too skeptical. I could stand in Trafalgar square and start levitating and everyone will be like "Well done, clever trick!"

Devi,

So how about, you go to the future, look up a museum of your time, then just go and be yourself, like the people who do similar in museums now of the past.

Either way though, unless time travel has become widespread in the future, you wouldn't be outed, people would just straight think you're a bit odd. There's people now who straight up claim to be time travellers and we're just like, OK mate, suuuure.

Devi,

Some kind of chip or retina scanner that lets you into wherever you want with no hassle. I have keys for home, keys for my car, keys for my parents, a keycard for work, a code for the gym, there's a lot of shit to carry round just so I can go into the places that I'm allowed to go into.

Devi,

I was so confused how a 1 week old had ADHD then.

Don't forget to look after yourself. Babies are hard work.

Devi,

That's really country specific, in the UK we only have one pine and it's not that common. We have a huge issue currently because after the wars they replanted a lot of land with pine as it was fast growing and we needed wood, but now they've outcompeted the native trees so there's a big program to get rid of the pine and plant native trees, but it needs to be done really slowly or the whole forest is messed up.

My beagle has suddenly started resource guarding random stuff. What should I do to get this behavior to stop?

I’ll start off by saying that he has a bad past life. He was obviously abused by his previous owners and straight up abandoned in the woods. He has bad anxiety that he is on Prozac for, and it seems to be helping for the most part....

Devi,

It's just all very weird. The thing is, there's things that work short term but ruin your dogs confidence and bond which cause bigger issues in the long term, punishing the dog falls in this box. I mean, you can train your dog by kicking it every time it does something wrong if you like, it might work, but it ruins your dog. A lot of these fake trainers fall into these things and cause real harm.

Devi,

Thank you! Yes, sometimes different platforms don't speak to each other properly!

Devi,

never use hands to correct them only voice or leash.

Lead pops are a punishment.

Maintain a 2 foot bubble when eating or working from home, don’t let them cuddle up to me.

As is not cuddling them.

Devi,

I'm a fosterer with quite a bit of dog training education. I second the advice that you need a good qualified behaviourist, this means degree level study or above.

However, for the meantime, nobody should be taking anything from him by force. This will worsen the behaviour. The things he's taking don't sound like they pose danger to him so take all the urgency out of the response. It's anxiety driven so you want to make everything really chill.

Firstly, clear everything away, as much as possible get things in drawers or too high to reach. The less he can get that he shouldn't the better.

Work on swapping with a low value item like a toy he doesn't play with much, so say an old ball, give him the ball, get a treat and offer the treat while holding your hand for the ball. What should happen is he drops the ball, give him the treat, then hand the ball back. He's learned that nothing bad happens here. He gets the treat AND the ball. Do this 5 times in a row, then leave the ball with him. He's learned here that it's all very chill and you've reduced his anxiety.

As he gets better at this, increase the challenge slowly, maybe a toy he likes a bit better, then better again. At this point you can also start swapping items, so you take a teddy, give him a treat, then give him a ball. If this makes him anxious then slow down, you want it to be really chill for him.

Eventually he'll start giving you stuff just to see what he can get. It's a fun game.

Another exercise you can try if he does get something you don't want him to have is to throw treats away. If he has something you can throw a treat in one place, then another, then another, while he's having a great time, quietly remove whatever he had, he'll probably have forgotten he had it, but make sure it's quickly hidden to help, give him loads of fuss when it's gone for extra memory wiping!

Also make sure he is getting enough exercise and attention, and he's not in pain, these kinds of problems usually start if a dog is feeling crappy for whatever reason.

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