His marriage is fine. It’s his own trauma that he’s running from. That’s why he spends his days fixing everything else and his nights playing dress-up and dolls.
Never forget Voyager, where Torres could invent a brand new method of transporter lock and implement it on-the-fly all through a console on the bridge, but even the bio-neural gel packs weren’t smart enough to get a power requisition down to the bottom decks without someone putting it into a padd and physically walking it down there.