If you don’t have anyone, then look for hobby groups. There’s groups out there for almost any hobby, so you can get to know people through that. Doesn’t even have to be in person, if the thought of meeting new people irl triggers your anxiety. And if you’re bad at talking to people then you need to practice, fail and learn from your mistakes.
If you have the desire to improve, you’ll manage. Just take it slow and don’t force yourself to get into very uncomfortable or new situations right away. Like, for example, big parties.
Over time, you’ll get better at improvising during conversations and you’ll get more confident. And if there’s people who try to shit on you for trying your best, don’t worry. They’re actually a lot more insecure then you’ll ever be at that point.
To be fair, I wouldn’t necessarily consider the gym a place to meet people either. Most people there just do their thing and go home. 😅
If you really want to connect with people there you could ask someone to either spot you or ask them about something else related to the gym. Although I would consider that pretty advanced already. Sometimes a simple greeting whenever you’re there or some small talk is enough practice for a while. Even if it’s just the person at the reception or the person that you see there all the time. It helps.
Personally, I was forced to get good at talking to people through my job, but I used to get literal panic attacks before making phone calls. I still stutter from time to time, but only when I’m not focused (which is hard for me too lol). Also, therapy helps a lot for certain things, group therapy can be good too (also can be great for meeting new people).
I sometimes compare life in general to an Elder Scrolls game in my mind. You start out with shit stats, maybe some bonus stats. And then you have to work on each of those things to get them to a decent level so you can fend for yourself. If I achieve something difficult, I sometimes imagine myself leveling up. Sounds, pop-ups, the whole thing. 😁
Sorry for the wall of text btw, it happened so quickly lol.
Yep, that might actually do it lol. Not even being sarcastic here 😅
But to be fair, I don’t think most people are tech-literate enough to set up and use all of that properly. I think it would help if someone compiled a one-install package of all of that, but lots of people just don’t like change.
Before Caesar, Rome actually had checks and balances to keep one person from amassing too much influence. For example, they had two consuls, which was the highest political position at the time and acted like as the heads of state.
Until Caesar fucked up those systems by literally declaring himself “dictator for life”. So really, it’s not always been this way, it’s usually just a few individuals that keep fucking it up for everyone else. Until they end up with a knife in their back.
Oh Gott, Oida. Ich habs gerade geschafft, den Text zu entziffern. Aber ernsthaft, ich glaub bei sowas immer auf den ersten Blick, dass da wer nen Schlaganfall bekommen hat und einfach mit dem Gesicht über die Tastatur gerollt ist lol.
TV in the US is so weird. I mean, we’ve got all of that in Europe too (on some channels), but whenever I watch American TV, everything seems to be cranked up to 11. The aggressive of your news shows, the quantity of your advertisements, the weird rules from the middle ages (no swearing or nudity on certain channels), etc.
What if, and hear me out on this one, the problem isn’t which “-ism” is prevalent. The real problem is that ANY form of power or society needs checks and balances. If those are missing or not enforced, then everything goes to shit. It’s a balancing act, not just a matter of black or white.
SHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESH 9/11 Was Cringe (lemmy.world)
are you sure? (lemmy.world)
YouTube (file.coffee)
It's a mystery (lemmy.ml)
#memes (leminal.space)
Glory to our new overlords! (lemmy.ml)
Got any suggestions? (lemmy.world)
This is the year, guys. (i.imgur.com)
Most legible scottish person (lemmy.world)
Your mix tape isn't fire, it's smouldering at best (lemmy.world)
And this is why I no longer have cable. (lemmy.world)
We need to stop attempts to normalize grind/hustle lifestyle (literature.cafe)
Most people are killing their selves with third jobs to share apartments.
Just a lot of a word that hasn't aged all that well (lemmy.world)
yellow guy (feddit.de)
mayo (lemmy.world)
deleted_by_moderator
Communist Filth/Capitalist Filth (lemmy.ml)
I love concerts. I do not love standing room only. (lemmy.world)
"Pineapple Pizza" by Salo_Comic (telegra.ph)
Source: Instagram - Imgsed(Use ad Blocker) - Proxigram - RSS
Just fuck me up fam (sh.itjust.works)
Truly an art form to use properly (lemmy.world)