It’s different for everyone, but I was always put off by kids for all the typical reasons (boring, sticky, annoying, etc.), until I got pregnant.
I don’t mean that I love my kid so it’s different. I mean that the hormones associated with pregnancy changed all of my priorities. Thank god I had an abortion (I’d have a preteen with an alcoholic father and me for a mother- that’s not fair to a child), but it was much more difficult than I expected it to be.
With the pregnancy hormones, I definitely would have cried at this ad. Congratulations to them for emotionally manipulating the most emotionally unstable group in the world?
I think a big difference is what the free time is like. I worked full time or nearly through college, so I didn’t have much free time in terms of quantity. When I got it, it was often with friends and during the day. When I graduated, I got a job with regular hours for the first time- I had so much free time, but I didn’t have a lot to fill it with, nor did I have a lot of energy after sitting down. Developing an active hobby helped with both, but doesn’t work for everyone.
I’m in grad school now, working 30 hours a week, and I do feel much more weighed down, but I’m able to set my own schedule a lot more than I could when I worked in an office
I “dated” a classmate for a month at 14 until he wanted me to sit on his lap and I broke up with him because I felt like I’d be too heavy but didn’t want to admit that, so I didn’t know how to talk to him about it.
If you’d asked me at 14, if he was a romantic partner, on god I’d have said yes.
I’m a 90s kid, with a stepsister the same age (who grew up in a Massachusetts college town, at that). When I was in college, I dropped my then boyfriend’s ex’s name in a conversation with my dad and stepsister (he was out already and didn’t make a secret of anything, he was cool with it, I swear). My stepsister asked all shocked if I knew he was bi when we started dating and then explained that she’d never date a bi guy, because she could never “be sure”. My dad made a boomery joke and said something noncommittally biphobic.
I’m so grateful I had that conversation before I came out to my family. I’m bi and an afab egg. I just married a bi man, and I told him pretty early on that I don’t know what the situation with my gender is yet. His response was “that’s why we date bi people, we like all the situations,” which had never occurred to me (sometimes I’m dumb), but it was a perfect level of humor and acceptance for the moment.
I’m sorry, this was a super long and mostly irrelevant comment. I intended to agree that biphobia is present in the people and places you’d least expect, even when straight up homophobia isn’t (stepsister was a member of the gsa and loved pride parades)
I’m like 90% sure I’m a trans dude, but I’m not quite there yet (I’m immigrating and in grad school and just don’t have the time or security rn to do a deep self analysis, plus I think I’d be a much less attractive man. I know that’s less important for men, but it feels like I’d be shooting myself in the foot. Also, my husband loves how I smell and taking hormones might change it to something he didn’t like as much, which I would hate). Therefore, I haven’t hatched yet.
If they poop outside their litterbox on mat, how do I determine the guilty party and also why does it stochastically happen only occasionally and at night?
Japan absolutely has historically had salmonella issues, but they’ve done incredible work in the last thirty years, bringing their rate down by a lot. I don’t know how if the use of raw egg was rare when the salmonella rates were much higher though.
Consumption of turtle meat and chicken sashimi also plays a role in salmonella cases in Japan, but those foods are less common worldwide.
It really is. I’ve asked all of the immigrants I know if there’s a word for “end of shift” and an accompanying common greeting in their language, but so far, nobody except Germans does it.
In Germany, people wish you a happy close as a business, or a happy end of shift. Every time I work nights, I wish customers a happy close of business 🤦
Chicago Deep Dish Pizza (lemmy.world)
This and the dogs are my favorite parts of Chicago!
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Call me an idiot, but I would die laughing even if something like this happened to me (files.catbox.moe)
aboutme.pdf (lemm.ee)
the fuckgraph (mander.xyz)
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How do you know if/when a cat's guilty
If they poop outside their litterbox on mat, how do I determine the guilty party and also why does it stochastically happen only occasionally and at night?
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What is a rainy day meal you enjoy?
Could be something you grew up with, something you learned, etc.
Why does America say 'merry christmas'?
while it seems everyone else says ‘happy christmas’...
is there a term for words such as inflammable?
Words that mean the exact opposite of how they sound....