I don’t have a lot of sympathy for the Southern Confederacy. They left the union because they wanted to expand the enslavement of people. That’s not just the leaders either, soldiers in the Confederacy made it crystal clear in their diaries and letters that they would rather die than be equal with a black person. They fired first, and they had no right to leave the union under any circumstances. They were traitors.
Goodness, I can’t imagine only ONE vacation per year! Buy a single family home and rent it at twice the cost of the mortgage to make ends meet. It’s hard work not doing anything all year!