And there is nothing wrong with that. Both systems work for different people. I am on the I like a public address on my place camp, but I have worked where we did cgn for an apartment building and out of the 150 residences none asked for a public address. Saving us a /25 which we could sell to business customers for $5/m per /29
Find some groups on meetup.com and attend some. It isn’t that hard it just takes time. Don’t expect to go to 3 or 4 and become friends, depending on the size of the group you may only make friends with one sub group of the main group.