There are toxic instances and users, but the communities have done a good job of staying focused on staying on topic. So not really any people going off on some personal unrelated tangent screaming on their soap box.
Like the game based communities have focused on talking about games. I’ve usually avoided and filtered communities that tend to get rather argumentative like politics, and I don’t expect it to be any different in that department here from reddit.
My reddit experience was nice too because I stuck to my subscribed feeds and filtered lot of stuff out. Argumentative communities will always be that way regardless of where it exists and there is nothing wrong with that because it is on topic for why it exists . It’s an easy unsub and block if I want to avoid it.
I just hope some keyword filtering gets built in soon so browsing /c/all is easier to discover new communities I’m interested in without being cluttered by the ones I’m not interested in. Back on reddit my filtering list was useful, since it led to making /r/all a pleasant one where it was mostly filled with dnd or anime or star wars stuff as opposed to the default politics, Twitter/tiktok/Facebook reposts, and fight and gore clips that dominate it by default.
“You wouldn’t worry what other people thought of you if you knew how seldom they did” … good for those awkward teenage years. Conversely, it also highlights the value of receiving and giving attention.
So far, I haven’t encountered anything super negative. Everyone on the instance I picked as my “home” has been extremely friendly. Because of that, I usually just check local activity.
I do, occasionally, check all instances. Even what I see is mostly friendly.
I always loved this one. The version i knew was something like “…you just paid him to get out of your life” - and it it has been useful more than once.
A good morning routine is perfect for building momentum. I wake up at 6 AM and walk to my bathroom where I keep a bottle of water, as I am always thirsty in the morning. I brush my teeth, meditate, and engage in some light cardio, (literally something like 50 jumping jacks. It’s nothing too serious) Afterward, I take a warm shower, gradually lowering the temperature until it’s cold. Finally, I eat breakfast.
That’s a morning routine that works for me and is (mostly) copied from a Youtube video I watched on how to stay motivated. This is what works for me so I think it may be a good watch www.youtube.com/watch?v=kOEfDcGbbXo&t=362
Bro, not everybody is a morning person. I appreciate you sharing what works for you, but for one if OP does in fact have ADHD, that comes with insomnia sometimes so it is unlikely they’ll be getting up early, and if they do, they won’t want to do jumping jacks or take a morning shower regardless of the temp. Also, breakfast is hit or miss too because people with ADHD also have symptoms of depression and anxiety so they’re stomachs won’t be prepared for that probably.
I am not sure anyone would care tho, for example see Threads! That’s just twitter Why not move to Mastodon? Why be a Corporate Sucker? But people do it. I still see a lot of people active on reddit, The change is simple and efficient yet… The yieldings low…
I feel like Threads is a special case. If you’re using FB or Insta you’re going to use other Meta services. If you got yourself off FB then its easier to not want to get back in bed with Meta. When people jumped ship from twitter we saw a huge percentage come over to Mastodon. There was no Bird company services that they were being pulled back to so the move to Mastodon was easier.
There is a group that will leave Twitter to go to Thread because a bunch of celebrities and influencers switch over. Those people dont care about anything related to the Fediverse.
“Molten wounds still glow where the two nuclear bombs detonated. And I wonder, in my last moments, if the planet does not mind that we wound her surface or pillage her bounty, because she knows we silly warm things are not even a breath in her cosmic life. We have grown and spread, and will rage and die. And when all that remains of us is our steel monuments and plastic idols, her winds will whisper, her sands will shift, and she will spin on and on, forgetting about the bold, hairless apes who thought they deserved immortality.”
“Just do it” is such easy advice to give but I feel your pain OP. There are things I want to accomplish that I CANNOT get myself up to do. I can’t execute plans or schedules for things that don’t immediately threaten my livelihood. It’s a real PITA. Executive dysfunction is a term I’ve read about recently that describes this.
I’m convinced the way we think about things is the driving force. For example, I’ve always struggled to work out regularly. What’s really been helping me the last month is the mantra “I’ll never regret working out but I absolutely will regret not working out”. So try to critically evaluate your thought processes behind the things you want to accomplish and see if there is another way of thinking about it that makes doing it easier.
I really like your mantra – yeah it really helps me when thoughts like this reframe the way I look at things. I often struggle with being paralized by guilt, for example the guilt of having put an email off for too long, or tge fear that starting ti revise for my exams now would make me feel guilty that I didn’t start preparing earlier. I wish I had a similar mantra for that
Yes! The guilt eats you alive and completely paralyzes you! I never could figure out what made me tick to help improve my study habits. But I just graduated so I managed and now I’m done forever! You will always wish you started sooner, no matter how early you start.
For little things like emails, consider how they take barely 5 mins to do. We have 1,440 minutes in a day and we can’t even take 5 to send the freaking email?! I use that mindset for chores too. I gripe and moan about the kitty litter box but it takes 60 seconds to just scoop the damn thing.
Ahh putting it into perspective does sound like it would help me. Unfortunately for me writing an email usually takes closer to 20 minutes because I’m really slow at phrasing what I have to say and I sit around stuck on trying to phrase my email in a way that doesn’t sound too commanding/impolite/etc . Have you ever had this? It might be an ADHD thing idk.
I’ve experienced that as well with emails. I’ve gotten faster over the years because of the amount I’ve had to send but have definitely spent 30+ minutes writing some of them. I will write it and then read it out loud to myself to make sure it makes sense and, like you said, doesn’t sound rude or aggressive. Realistically, no matter how careful you are people still might misinterpret it. I’ve never been diagnosed or sought to be diagnosed with ADHD so it’s hard to say. I’m too stubborn to seek a diagnosis and try meds because it’s just one more thing for me to forget to do 😅
Don’t overthink it. That helps me. Obviously match your phrasing to the situation like if it needs to be formal, be formal, but if not then just write it out and send it.
What are you interested in? What are your hobbies/what are you good at? Do something that involves that field. For me it was technology, I was always into video games and computers growing up in the 90’s and by high school I knew I wanted to get into programming. After high school I knew I wanted to go into some form of programming so I went into computer engineering and am now an embedded software engineer. Do you have passion for any particular topic or area of study as a hobby?
I stay away from the politics related communities. A bunch of people from r/Politics migrated to Lemmy and I’ve received death threats for having the wrong political opinions.
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