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Kurt, in Should an altruistic organ donor be allowed to restrict their donation to a specific group of people? (e.g. women, gingers)
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No. Organ “donation” after death should be compulsory. For living donors there should be a publicly funded bounty system where you either take the money or not. Donors and recipients don’t get to be picky.

fearout,
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Compulsory is a bit much, but an opt-out system would be a good solution.

Kurt,
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Hmmm okay, but it has to be difficult to opt-out, kind of like how conscientious objectors have to go through a whole process to get out of military service.

philluminati,

Why shouldn’t people be able to opt out? I opted out. This is my body not yours. We’re not all in this together.

cwagner,

Why shouldn’t people be able to opt out? I

Because you’ll be dead.

philluminati,

It’s still my body.

You wouldn’t condone necrophilia I’m guessing?

cwagner,

I would.

philluminati,

If you respect someone when they are alive you should respect them in death too. Only a troll would say they’re okay with people fucking their own dead mothers or mocking dead political enemies.

cwagner,

No, because it’s not them any more. It’s just remains. I still respect them the same way as before, the remains simply have no real relation.

philluminati,

I find it hard to believe you would genuinely be that composed and detached, if someone ran over your 3yo child and then used their head as a hood ornament for the lols.

However, I guess I have to take you at your word.

Kurt,
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Because living people who are sick might need those organs, which would otherwise just go to waste in your corpse. Also, it good to have a steady supply of organs from the deceased in order to avoid perverse and exploitative market situations.

philluminati, (edited )

The very fact you raise the possibility of perverse or exploitative markets means there’s cause for mistrust in any donor arrangement. We live in a capitalist world and here you are devaluing my body for who, some CEO? Lisa Marie Presley inherits a catalogue of copyrighted content and revenue streams but my family can’t get a penny for saving someone’s life?

Organ donation is a wonderful thing and I understand why our systems are “opt-in” by default but why can’t I opt out, if I don’t trust society?

(Also: i.redd.it/9fiy6yw00mcb1.png)

Kurt,
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You’re kind of talking about different things. Copyright should of course be abolished along with all private property. I don’t rule out compensation to your estate for organs harvested after death and there should definitely be a public bounty/reward system to encourage the living to donate.

You shouldn’t be able to opt out, or at least it should be very difficult to do so, because when you are dead what you have a say in that affects the living should be very limited, because those organs won’t matter to you anymore, and because those organs might matter very much to living people. Whether you trust society or not doesn’t matter anymore when you are dead.

BenVimes, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

“Just be yourself and you’ll make lots of friends at your new school.”

Four years of constant bullying and loneliness later: I have one acquaintance that would eventually become my friend after a few more years. I also have basically no self-confidence, and my social development is set back half a decade as I’m still looking for friends to have sleepovers with when everyone else has moved on to normal teenager stuff.

RedditWanderer,

I’m 33 now, I don’t remember my sleepovers and all of my highschool friends are gone. We see each other every now and then when it’s convenient, but the new friends I made late 20s are the people closest to who I am now.

You aren’t “missing out” and feeling like you are is only going to make your confidence issues worse. High school is not what defines who you are.

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. (Markus Aurelius).

You have the power to feel confident by altering your estimate of pleasing people. Please yourself, confidence and everything else you feel you want will come much easier. Good luck!

Jimmycrackcrack,

Particularly devastating when you reflect on a lack of success after following this advice because now you can no longer think you were a victim of unfair circumstance or something external, but rather, you are , at your very core, just unlikeable. After all, you were yourself and it turned out nobody liked you.

That said, I think it’s only bad advice in as much as it’s glib and shallow, but I can’t exactly fault it per-se. I mean, I can’t really say the inverse is particularly healthy either. We’d think an adult telling a child specifically not be themselves would be pretty fucked up, but in any case, it’s just horrible advice to give because it doesn’t prescribe any actual changes one can enact that would result in a different outcome and the advice is insidious because of the implications for the any lack of success you encounter when following it. The other problem is that, you were already being yourself when you sought the advice, and you mostly can’t really help but be yourself even when trying not to because you ultimately become yourself trying to be someone else rather than someone else and that doesn’t doesn’t tend to work very well since if you could have been someone else you probably would be them rather than yourself given how much being yourself has sucked of late.

While I hate that advice though, I can see why it’s tempting to give and also how tricky it is to have anything useful to say, especially to a child in school. School is such a hellish jungle. It’s an environment so ripe for cruelty and all the worst of human nature at the very worst time for people to be exposed to it and there’s so little one can say that really does help because it’s such an inherently difficult situation to do anything about. You have to be there for years, you can’t rely on any level of maturity at all because the perpetrators of the cruelty are often your peers who are children, none of the adult world’s methods of navigating this type of situation are really applicable and the whole institution breeds an environment where this type of thing is such a regular occurrence that the best, kindest and most well meaning staff have to build a kind of immunity to it or risk emotional collapse from empathy for all the children that go through this every year and then you have the staff who are not good people, who don’t have empathy and are perpetrators of the cruelty itself whilst charged with the care of the children. This turned in to a big ramble, but yeh, school, fuck school man.

dadasdair, in What movie did you rewatch most often?

Alien, Aliens and Predator. The Big Lebowski and the John Wick films are gaining traction more recently.

Wirrvogel, in In which game did you spend the most hours?

XCOM 2

Bebo, in What series did you rewatch most often?

TNG, Voyager, TBBT

livus, in Should an altruistic organ donor be allowed to restrict their donation to a specific group of people? (e.g. women, gingers)
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In practical terms it's very normal for people to only donate a kidney because they have a specific recipient in mind.

Trying to say no, "you can not donate your kidney only to your son, you have to make the kidney available to everyone" does not make sense.

If you are running an anonymous donation facility then practicality comes into play. How realistic is it to keep tabs on all kinds of weird preferences? Matches are already hard enough. And how do you disclose responsibly?

From an ethical point of view you need to look at the big picture. It is not enough to say that this is a kidney that someone will get but would not if you don't allow discrimination. You have to also think about whether such a policy will encourage people specifying who otherwise wouldn't. And then a growing imbalance in recipients.

R3tl3f, in What movie did you rewatch most often?
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For me it Lord of the Rings and/or Harry Potter. Can’t count how often I watched these masterpieces.

dep, in In which game did you spend the most hours?
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No Man’s Sky. I think I’m around 800 hours on that one

zzz711, in What's your favorite restaurant chain?

Chipotle

TheDubz87,

The chipotle/Qdoba near me has gone way too downhill in the past few years for me. The burritos used to be huge, now they’re the size of a small potato. Also 50% of the time they mess up my order and I don’t realize until I get home and open it up.

JoumanaKayrouz,
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They suck now. Tiny ass burrito for like $12 and it takes forever. The service is always piss poor and they never get the order right.

ghostblackout, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

No I gave reddit this Reson why I deleted my reddit “I’m done with all the oooo we want money for are investors and so we can go public so lest raise the api price and then foreseeable reopen subreddits that Locked themselves for a protest then say if you don’t like it then we will find people who do”

at_an_angle, in In which game did you spend the most hours?
  1. Doom I and II with who knows how many hours since Christmas 1996.
  2. Minecraft since 2011.
  3. Binding of Issac with close to 1k hours.
  4. Factorio with 850+ hours and currently rising.
pythia, in In which game did you spend the most hours?

AI (Alien Isolation)

Wirrvogel, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

I clicked by accident on a few links on Feddit that lead to Reddit (people should post archive links instead) and closed the site without reading immediately, otherwise I am clean since I made this account on June 12. I do still miss Reddit a bit, but I will not go back, no matter what the site does. I also reduced my online time drastically which is doing wonders for my mental health and how much I get done in my household.

oyenyaaow, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

2 subs, one of them i go in every few days and go through almost every new posts and some older ones for quite some time now, and haven’t found a similar one here. and /whatisthisthing because seriously there are a lot of new interesting things there. and i guess i’ll answer if i ever were there. if old reddit is gone, i’m gone.

sturmblast, in Be honest, do you still use reddit?

Removed reddit bookmarks and apps and went all in on Lemmy, haven’t touched Reddit.

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