Grieve. Be kind to yourself, be kind to them. Allow yourself to feel without resisting the feelings. But don’t chase them either.
There isn’t a right way to feel for most of this.
Part of grieving is reflection (usually). Remembering good times, bad times and wish-they-were-different times. Find a way to be with those moments and accept them as they are: moments. They aren’t lost, just future ones will be different.
And that’s okay. Or it will be. And you’ll be okay, too.
I ruminate too. I tell myself it helps me learn, helps me grow, helps me remember not to “x”. It rarely helps. It’s just a conditioned response that makes me feel more control while i actually lose some.
What truly helps is healing. Learning that sometimes compatability isn’t a you tho Ing or a them thing. But it’s still a thing and somebody called the spade a spade.
If you weren’t up to your standards, then rise. Otherwise, coat yourself in patience. Listen to YouTube videos like Tara Brach. Be honest with yourself as you heal. We all have barbs, we all have scars.
College freshman flying back home for the summer. Not used to flying. Got to my gate about half hour before boarding. Hungry. Went to closest restaurant a couple gates away, got a burrito and ate at a table while listening to music with headphones. Lost track of time. That burrito had my full attention. Missed all the overhead calls for me. Plane had departed by the time I casually walked back to my gate.
I'm deeply skeptical of any and all utopian ideas. They have this mysterious tendency to wander down paths to authoritarianism because we, as a species, are more defined by our ideas of who and what we are than by anything else in our existence.
When an idea becomes an ideal, people become willing to kill or die in attempts to bring that ideal to fruition, no matter how vain.
In fact, this is how I self-edit my own beliefs about the world and myself. "If the cards were all really on the table, would I be willing to proudly die in defense of this idea?" If the answer is yes, then I cling to that as an ideal that I strive toward.
All human lives matter equally.
It is important to lift up those who have less than I do.
Any small effort to alleviate the suffering of my fellow humans is meaningful.
There is always hope.
That is the utopia I choose to live in deliberately every day, and what I appreciate most is that it is resilient to the whims and chaos of this world that I can't control.
Income inequality would be lower in my ideal world. The income distribution should be more like the 50’s. A 4 day work week, and eradication of this “central business district” idea. There can still be offices for some people, but offices can be more geographically dispersed, with different sectors in different areas so half the city isn’t trying to get to one spot in the mornings, or leave that one spot in the evenings.
A completely random ordering of a deck of cards. You can have a deck pre-stacked in this order, learn some false shuffles, have someone pick a card and place it back anywhere they want without marking its location in any way, and when you inspect the deck you know exactly what their card is. And they’ll never guess that the way you did it was memorizing the order of every card in the deck.
I’m sure there are a lot more advanced ways to take advantage of this, just a handy ability to have in your back pocket (literally).
If you’re going to memorise a deck of cards, you’re better off learning something like the Mnemonica Stack as you can use it as the basis for a whole load of card tricks.
the ! addressing allows you to post a link that anybody can click to get their instance’s version of the community link. So for example, !linux posted anywhere on lemmy becomes a link to lemmy.fmhy.ml/c/linux@lemmy.ml for me, but the exact same link is a link to aussie.zone/c/linux@lemmy.ml for you
I use it to lubricate machine parts at times. Also good coating for rust protection like the sockets of outdoor bulbs or tools in storage. There’s better products for skin protection. Years ago it was commonly used for infant diaper rash, but again there’s better products for that now. I don’t think I’ve ever used it on my body, it’s made from petroleum so it’s really just highly refined axle grease.
Edit: In fact after a quick research, I can't really find the difference between a 14$ tiny tube of dialectic and a cheapo massive vat of Vaseline. Guess I should get some for the shop.
It works great for that. It’s also good in automotive for bulb sockets, I’ve used it for that as well. It’s amazing actually, slop some in a socket and next time you pull a bulb it will still look brand new, even if not well protected as the case with antique cars. You would think it might interfere with electrical contact an Vaseline is completely non-conductive, it doesn’t seem to at all. You can also use it on car battery terminals and it will completely stop any corrosion, however I actually use 90W gear oil on those since it attracts less dirt and works as well.
The fuse thing comes from history but is still good because then each device is fused appropriately for its load. Get a short on a 3A circuit - fail nice and quickly. If you just rely on house wiring your breaker need to be the maximum possible load on the circuit.
That said of all the non UK plugs, the Australian one is up there. US are the worst and schuco (most of Europe) isn’t great.
His first point is nonsense. The holes are big enough for a screw driver full stop. If I have two screw drivers then I can shock myself. Not only that, its a guaranteed shock because I'm now making a perfect path to earth. Simple fix: dont make the holes big enough for screw drivers. UK plugs are even worse than yankee plugs for this. Aussie plugs fix this problem.
Aussie plugs cover the second problem. The letter nonsense is nonsense. The fuse is dumb, as above, FIX YOUR DAMN HOUSE WIRING. The last bit about your plug falling apart is classic British ideology, stop building things that fall apart.
Its clearly better than EU or yankee plugs, but thats not a great selling point when its still garbage.
What exactly do you think it’s wrong with our wiring ??
Sensing a lot of hostility or Aussie patriotism just because Britain did something well and you don’t want to admit it.
No other plug had the safety features the UK plug when it was designed or now AND the plug is just one part of a whole system. You act like our plug is the only line of defence - newsflash it isn’t.
Any new property has built in RCD and breakers at entry to the property. That means it’s hard to shock yourself regardless of the plug design.
The fuse in the plug is arguably not needed anymore but it’s still a safety feature that could be used in some circumstances, so why take it out? The fuse existed before RCDs and as technology improved so did our electrical safety standards. The fact the fuse is still there doesn’t mean it is the only way. The fact the gate is there doesn’t mean it is the only way. You might guess by the number of safety features in the plug design that electrical safety is taken seriously in this country.
I’d also argue that screwdrivers are unlikely to be the thing that gets jammed in there anyway. Paperclips, toys, letter opener, etc more likely to be in kids hands I’d have thought, the gate makes it not matter what the implement is. Plenty of things are metal and will fit in any electrical socket - except the UK one unless the gate is held open with a second object.
The dexterity and understanding needed to open the gate with one hand and shove a metal object in the live in with the other is high enough that you are probably dealing with old enough children that they will know what happens if you do it. Even if they do, our “damn wiring” requires an RCD at the consumer unit so they’d still be safe.
There are older houses of course which have less safe electrics like a fuse box, but if you are going to judge by decades older standards, then I can do the same and then you still come out worse, because you don’t have RCDs way back when and your wall sockets are unprotected.
P.s. A quick Google tells me Electrocution statistics in both countries are exactly the same when taking population into account. 20 deaths per year in Oz, 70 in UK. Most caused by faulty appliances. 1 in a million chance, in both countries.
If the number of electrocutions per capita are the same then it's clear the fuse is doing nothing. The only reason to keep it is if you don't trust your domestic network, specifically the protection systems provided. If they are to code then why waste your manufactures time, and the time and space of your users continuing to require them.
My argument isn't born from patriotism, it's frustratration at years of having to use an inferior product only to have someone claim it's not only great but the best. Well, it's not the best, far from it, but at the end of the day I don't think I'll ever live in the UK again so shrug have fun with your garbage connectors =)
Bear in mind that there are very old properties out there maintained by people who don’t care or can’t afford to rewire their house. The fuse remains to protect them not because of trust. Antsy part of my point was that taking one aspect in isolation doesn’t tell the whole story. The Australian plug on its own is not as safe. It is made safe by upstream components.
This will be the comment that starts the war between Britain and Australasia. During the first wave we’ll just drop millions of plugs pin upwards on your streets, there will be severe foot damage on a scale you cannot fathom
Does the thought of the person, that you plan to downvote, crying themselves to sleep make you happy? Then you should downvote them. I think that’s what they wanted to say.
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