What are some of the things you say / think to yourself when going through a hard time or dealing with uncertainty to help yourself along?

I noticed that I tend to think something along the lines of

Everything will be okay. And even if it’s not, that’s okay too. You’ll get though this my love

The love bit was something I’ve been trying intentionally to instill. I’ve heard that positive self-talk can improve well being.

What do you think or say to yourself during those harder times?

Fthisguy,

It’s all going to work out, one way or another.

Evkob,
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It sounds ridiculous, but I always tell myself “What can you do when you live in a shoe? Move down the block, live in a sock.”

The absurdity of it helps me deal with the absurdity of the world.

Kadjiis,

When you’re in shit the only way to get out is to keep walking.

rusfairfax, (edited )

The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own. (Epictetus, Discourses 2.5.4–5).

I always go back to this task: is this “bad” situation something that I can control? If not, let it go - it is neither good nor bad. If yes, then how? Do the “how”. The “how” may be specific actions or they may be about controlling how I perceive the situation. If I perceive the situation negatively, work out how to perceive the situation positively. eg. Losing a job may be viewed as bad because of money issues or career issues but could be viewed positively as an opportunity to pursue passions. Perceptions are controllable so bend them to positive constructive ends.

ghostwolf,
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“Life wasn’t always that bad, hence there’s no reason for it to stay bad in the future.”

Of course, this won’t work with something like incurable cancer. But most things we face are temporary. Even life.

Piecemakers3Dprints,
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Honestly? Something my little brother shared with me from our childhood. Apparently, it was during a hard time in his high school years. He came to me for advice, and what did I say?

“Life is pain. Get a helmet, Princess.”

I have no recollection of this, but he swears by it and says that it’s gotten him through some seriously rough times ever since, so I’ve started saying it to myself as well. Seems to work decently enough, and I like knowing that younger me had a supportive effect on the little bro like that. 🤗🥰

sociablefish,

is that second part a reference to something or what is it?

Piecemakers3Dprints,
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Best guess, I think the whole thing was a riff on the line from The Princess Bride, actually. 🤓

FlashPossum,

Life is like a long running tv show. Some previous seasons were awesome. This one sucks but I have to stay around to find out what happens next.
Doesn’t matter how bad it currently is, the curiosity to see which twist it pulls next is stronger.

cccc,

I used to be pretty negative and aggressive until I realised that if I talked to anyone else the way talked to myself I would get hit.

Now I’m simple and encouraging. Generally a nice little “come on” followed by a simple “you’ll get through it”, “not long now”, “you can do it”, “it’ll be alright”. That sort of thing. If I ever had a coach for anything that’s how I’d want to be pushed.

hoodlem,

“I won’t always feel this way”

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