Only reason I’m not back on Reddit is their garbage app. If they fixed that I’d ditch Lemmy immediately. The community really is worse here, no matter how much they want to claim it’s better.
Same here. The communities I’ve interacted with here, if I was on the equivalent subreddit, I’d have be downvoted to hell for not knowing enough. I find I’m able to have proper discussions here
People here will attack you for having a slightly different viewpoint than the status quo, which I can’t really even figure out. It feels like a tight knit clique, and I’m not a part of it. Often times I just don’t comment on things, because I expect to get downvotes and made fun of.
From what I have seen if you explain your viewpoint people usually tell you why they disagree and you can argue with them as long as you stay respectful.
Likewise. I guess when you hang out on the equivalent of c/denofvipers you shouldn’t expect a terribly friendly community. Don’t like the community? Find a different one! Found your own if you have to!
Yeah it fucking sucks. Every response is political and hyper hostile, like damn I get it capitalism and the USA have caused some issues but man I am just asking about Taco Bell’s new menu item.
Tried posting about an obscure issue with the latest Steam Deck update and oh my god 1) I was attacked for being wrong, Valve doesn’t make mistakes ever and 2) I don’t understand how dev pipelines work (I work in IT dev for a Fortune 100 company haha)
Posted the same thing on Reddit and the response was like hey thanks for the heads up and then helped people affected by the issue get to resolution.
Lemmy as a community truly is super fucking bitter and it sucks. Hope it changes, Fediverse is a cool idea and I am so down for a Reddit replacement but not if it is gonna be an asshole factory.
I’m sorry, but your comments on the Steam Deck post certainly did not help with the hostility, as you were being quite hostile yourself.
In that post, one person made a snarky retort, and clearly you were understandably upset, but I would argue a good chunk of the hostility in that post comes from you. I think possibly even just starting the post with the title containing “basically bricked my deck” is already framing the discussion in a somewhat inflammatory manner.
Pretty normal to get hostile when someone gets hostile with you. Exact opposite reaction on the same Reddit thread, underscoring the point that OP is making.
This is kind of sad, it’s hard for people to make friends in the workplace, but for some of them that’s the only place they can even try to do it. So be friendly with others…
the whole idea of the meme and the initial joke in the series is exactly that there’s no nice way of setting this boundary, so Jerry just becomes blunt about it and accepting that it makes him look like an ass. that is the joke
I am friendly but there’s no spots open in my spare time, so I end up coming off like a hypocrite. work - super friendly, off work - sorry, but nope.
and it’s jarring but 3 main friends is already hard to do especially since my family is super super fragmented, I’m an introvert and like slow living too. Just 2 visits a week spread equally to mom, dad (separated), 3 friends, granny, aunt. maths says we’ll only meet once a month already. no mate, I think you’re great but diluting my visits any further will make me super absent, and visiting more often makes me tired and absent in an even worse way.
It’s not your fault, I’ve had the good fortune of meeting good friends in life and made the effort to keep them around and the friendships have aged well. that and I was cursed with a dramatic family where nobody gets along. so yea, I know it sounds terribly douchy but it’s neither of us, there’s just no more vacancies.
I’m not gonna tell you all this when we get along at work, because it comes off as aggressive or belittling but what am I supposed to do/say?
I wonder if there’s an overlap between those that relate to this meme and all those complaining how hard it is to make friends as an adult.
I usually make friends at work or am friendly with my coworkers. I understand not wanting to be friendly with annoying or bossy people. However, it doesn’t hurt to have a beer every now and again. I keep HR at arm’s length though …
“Look, you’re a nice guy, but your political views that you express without solicitation are incredibly problematic and frankly I’d rather not be within the same society as you”
I mean, I’m sure we can come up with a lot of reasons why not to do it.
My point was just that you don’t need to choose between hanging out with your friends and making a new friend. You never know, that person could become a friend for life. I think it’s worth making the effort but I understand it’s not for everyone.
I’m selective about who I keep as friends but I try not to close myself off initially, as I’ve been on the other end of it as well; being in a new city and trying to make friends. With some people it just doesn’t click, while others I still have as some of my best friends.
Anyways, I wasn’t trying to upset anyone, just giving my 2 cents
It’s a lot to ask someone to drop into a group of 4+ friends of 10+ years and just hit the ground running. It takes a lot of effort from everyone involved. I’m for it but it’s not as simple as one might assume.
Literally the dumbest and most worthless gen z slang. It doesn’t save any time whatsoever. Why would you need slang for a very specific thing like lying?
Especially when “cap” is already used to mean capacity limitation, like a bandwidth cap.
edit: I should have looked it up rather than relying on my (mis)understanding from low-quality past conversations, where I thought this was a term kids tried to invent because it sounded cool.
“Why do these men insist upon using ‘bully’ as an alternative to ‘ruffian?’ ‘Bully’ already has a meaning! They’re a prostitute’s bodyguard! I say, the English language surely is dying here in the late 19th century!”
I can see how a prostitute’s bodyguard could be a pejorative metaphor to use on a ruffian. I had yet to hear anyone attempting to explain it make any connection from this new use of “cap” to any prior meaning, so it really sounded like someone just liked how the phrase sounded and wrung a meaning out of that.
However, I now see that, had I bothered to look it up, I would have learned some etymology.
In Black slang, to cap about something is “to brag,” “to exaggerate,” or “to lie” about it. This meaning of cap dates back to the early 1900s.
History lesson: In the 1940s, according to Green’s Dictionary of Slang, to cap is evidenced as slang meaning “to surpass,” connected to the ritualized insults of capping (1960s). These terms appear to be rooted in the sense of cap as “top” or “upper limit.”
So, not only does the term actually connect to a meaning I initially thought it didn’t, but it also has a different cultural origin than I thought. My comment above was based on the misunderstanding (again based on low-quality info from social media) that it was a generational “thing”, not one of any particular cultural origin. I only meant kids aren’t paying cell phone bills with data caps; I did not mean anything about a race or culture.
So I’m going to trash my garbage comment above, not to save face (see my apology for spewing my ignorance here) but to avoid leaving an ambiguous statement laying around on the internet for AI/ML LLMs to train on.
There are no stereotypes in memes. Never ever morshupls
Also, in your bio, speaking of stereotypes:
No sense arguing with tankies. Every take I’ve seen from hexbear itt is absolute brainrot, and I can’t wait until we can block entire instances. wojak-nooo
Feeling something strongly, no matter strongly, doesn’t make your subjective opinion about people you don’t like into a fact. You’re contaminating the definition of “fact” just by being that enraged about people that you disagree with. expert-shapiro
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