As a past retail worker. Black Friday was miserable. I worked at Bestbuy. I saw a lot of people breakdown and quit thay day due to the stress. Don’t encourage it. If you do go out. Be respectful and remember it’s just things that don’t really matter. I have never gone out and don’t support it especially the trickling of businesses forcing employees to work on Thanksgiving.
Work at Best buy currently in inventory, last year all week of black Friday we have over 300 online orders at once until we were getting closer to the end of the night. This week so far the most I’ve seen is 50. We’re staffed the same, less so in fact with all the call-outs, but still we have a full team in tomorrow from 1am until midnight.
Currently at work at the worst company you could ever work for, Big Lots. We’ve even got extended hours today, but hardly anyone here shopping. ANY corporation that has shareholders has no choice but to become increasingly evil and vile to their employees.
Honestly my entire life is a wreck, my fiance is probably going to leave me because I absolutely can’t seem to find a real job and I’m my debt has ballooned like 3x it’s size in 6 months because even though I’m a manager who does literally everything you could do working retail, I get paid $10.50 an hour. I quite literally can’t afford to eat and am going hungry most days for the last month. Yet the only thing my mind can seem to focus on is saving my relationship but I just feel it drifting every day I can’t secure a real job. I’ve applied to literally hundreds of jobs over the past 6 months, gone to many interviews, called called called and called some more, and yet nothing, no one wants to give me a chance even though I have a decent resume, I’m polite, I’m very good with computers and have no criminal or any kind of bad history. Definitely thinking about ending it a lot lately. Sorry to dump on you, just feel like I need to write this out somewhere instead of just festering in my head.
🤗 I’m sorry your having such a tough time… Everything is temporary. I know it feels hard right now… Don’t make a permanent solution to these temporary problems… Things will change. Keep going. Best of luck to you. 🤗
Your situation really sucks. The most important part is to tell yourself you can be happy again, even if it feels very far away right now. Being happy is the best thing there is, and worth a lot of effort and tough times to get to again.
Life gets overwhelming. You don’t need to see the whole staircase to take the first step. You’re doing your best. Be sure to talk about your feelings with your SO.
There is a mentalhealth community. As you’ve said, sometimes it is really good to write stuff down. Best of luck to you my friend.
Thank you, I have talked to her a lot, but she has valid reasons. I have not been an equal contributer and the weight of everything has been on her for too long, I would do anything in my power to not lose her, but what NEEDS to happen just doesn’t seem to. I know I need back in to see my doctor and see if she can get me on an antidepressant, but the number one thing I need is sadly just money. My income, even though I bust my ass for it, feels like drops in a very very large bucket. Thanks again.
Talking to your doctor about an amtidepressant sounds like a very good step. They generally take a few weeks to start working, so don’t wait too long if you want to have a sunny disposition by xmas.
It’s funny how when you’re doing okay a message like that doesn’t feel like much from a stranger, but his a lot deeper when you’re feeling at the end of your rope, I appreciate your kindness and compassion. It’s just gotten worse and worse every year, I had stability at one time and I was an equal contributer, but I just feel like complete shit about myself constantly and nothing seems to go right. My vehicle which I’m still paying a loan on has been in a mechanics shop for 3 months, the car that I had been borrowing developed a major oil leak and can’t be driven so I am stuck getting rides across town with no decent bussing options (which I’ve admittedly never taken a public bus out of anxiety), my credit cards which I got initially to help my fiance with things have gone unpaid for about 6 months with daily calls from collectors, and whatever else I can’t bring to mind right now, but it’s all just a decline no matter how hard I try or how decent of a person I try to be to everyone I interact with in my life. And on top of that most of my friends haven’t talked to me in years and the one good friend I do talk to every few months or so has her own life and issues to deal with, I have no family anywhere near me and have a bad relationship with my father, my mother is wonderful but I feel even worse dumping my troubles on her because she has no way to help me from across the country and with her extremely limited resources and I know it makes her feel like she failed as a parent because she couldn’t provide me with the things she thinks she should have (I don’t blame her a bit, she really is a wonderful person), which means the only person who I can talk to about anything going wrong in my life is the love of my life who is being embittered towards me by every compounding issue. I recently got back on ADHD meds after being off them for a decade or more and it’s only seemed to serve to make me have energy and no appetite, but not help me that much, I want to try antidepressants for the first time in my life, but the doctors don’t make it easy, it was a struggle just to get on the ADHD meds even though I had taken Adderall for 5+ years in the past. It’s just overwhelming and never ever seems to let up. I can’t play video games any more, television just seems to fade into the background as I’m consumed by horrible thoughts constantly.
Do you have insurance or, if not, does your state provide Medicaid to low income individuals? If you have private insurance I would recommend looking up therapists and maybe even psychiatrists who are covered by your insurance. If you have Medicaid your county probably has a behavioral health department that can provide some help.
If no to both, you can call 9-8-8 and ask for behavioral health resources that are available. in your area. You can also call that number to talk about your depressing and self harming thoughts if you feel like you want to give your friends and family a break.
Thank you, I have my states ACA insurance which is the only way I’ve seen a doctor (hadn’t seen one in about 15 years before last month). I had never heard about that phone number, I might give it a call later, thank you so much.
I was on year 4 or 5 retail, working in a small strip mall that included a best buy. The people swamped the door so hard it came off when the poor kid unlocked them, literally doorbusters and he got trampled and died.
Every year there’s a few deaths to the craze and I made a habit of checking the count every year.
Giving you contradictory orders is standard operating procedure whenever cops need an excuse to abuse or kill you:
Cop1: “Get on the ground!”
Cop2: “Don’t move!”
Cop1: “I SAID GET ON THE GROUND!”
Cop2: “I SAID DON’T F*CKING MOVE!”
But hey, you were being “uncooperative” and that’s what the record will show, even though it’s literally impossible to follow both orders at the same time.
Capitalist countries aren’t the worst polluters, though. It’s places like Iraq, Chad, and Pakistan. China and India also throw out some heinous shit and have way too many people.
Nah, it is. It’s the same as folks who scream about how easy it is to be scammed on Amazon. It’s rare and if you are getting tricked into buying fakes every order the problem is you.
Shopping for deals really isn’t as hard as you all make it seem.
Tbf, it depends. I just bought a pair of converse for 25 bucks. Granted they’re an unpopular color, but hey 25 bucks for a pair of chuck 70s is a good price.
I’m an ISO 8601 guy but the MM/DD does make sense in American. We’ll say Oct 20th for a date and then straight translate that to numbers 10/20. It makes more sense than counting in French. Ex. 60, 70, 80, 90
tbf, every actual neo-nazi is probably doing everything they can to further piss off Israel. It’s just a convenient opportunity is all, if someone is actually a hater.
They’re not anywhere close to the majority, the majority just wants to save lives. But they’re loud and sometimes clever, and good at hijacking other people’s causes.
Both anti-semitism and anti-arabism exist, and both are bigotry, because all Jews and all Arabs are not the same, and will never all be the same. Any more than all Americans are the same.
It’s a hard world though, right? Means we’re going to need something better than simple, easy tools to wrestle with it. That’s just how hard it is, and how little it cares about anyone’s wishes for it to be simpler.
Due to the root word Semite, the term is prone to being invoked as a misnomer by those who interpret it as referring to racist hatred directed at all “Semitic people” (i.e., those who speak Semitic languages, such as Arabs, Assyrians, and Arameans). This usage is erroneous; the compound word antisemitismus (lit. ‘antisemitism’) was first used in print in Germany in 1879[17] as a “scientific-sounding term” for Judenhass (lit. ‘Jew-hatred’),[18][19][20][21][22] and it has since been used to refer to anti-Jewish sentiment alone.
The meaning is “anti-Judaism” though. You’re the one wanting to define it differently. Be my guest, but it’s just good to know what the term means when people use it.
Too many people see the world in black and white. You are either good or evil. Every person is both good and evil, but the media and propagandists want you to see one side as pure evil. Obviously it works because I see these kinds of posts everywhere. I don’t see it getting any better since everyone carries a handheld propaganda machine with them all the time.
I’m someone who knows that every person is both good and bad, and it’s a struggle that every one has. Looking at things as black and white, and every human struggle as being a fight against good and evil is a very misplaced, and dangerous way of thinking.
In a shitty ironic way, many neo-nazis are showing their really true colors as neo-fascists. They just want to support genocide and at this point, Jews are whiter than Palestinians, and they just want that same thing to happen against Black or Arab people around them. I’m happy to continue to use the word neo-nazi, but it’s a much broader spectrum of shittiness at this point.
Part of it is there’s at least two competing factions of crazy-talkers. One is the Book of Revelations types, I don’t know exactly how its supposed to work, but they want the second coming, and it’s supposed to happen over there and be ushered in by chaos.
Other is Jewish conspiracy theory types, who just like seeing what they perceive as the ultimate “ruling class” brought low. They don’t really need any holy book-type religions, their actual religion is just worldly power in all its forms–a depressing confluence of ignorance of what actually makes people strong, and pragmatism towards what it seems like makes people strong to them.
I always think the revelation types that think they’re definitely getting saved before the apocalypse is funny. The Bible says 144,000 will be saved, but the current estimate of Christians on earth is about 2.2 billion from what I can find. So you just gotta hit that 0.006545% chance.
While they’re at it, they can go to the casino, bet their entire life savings on a single number on the roulette wheel, do that twice in a row, and their odds of winning that are 11x higher than being picked for rapture.
I’m Jewish and the first ones, from two who talked to me years ago, either goes
“All jews must return to Isreal so the end times can happen” (she then got worse and rude when I said no thanks, so I don’t know more than that) and the second was
“The end times will only happen when jews have a kingdom in Isreal and most jews return to the holy land for the last war”
They both claimed to like me being Jewish because there needed to be jews in order for the end times to happen and I just went back to stocking groceries and ignoring them mostly
I generally agree. When I pull out the specific term neo-nazi, I’m referring to an extremely specific brand of bigot. The kind that probably has Hitler saluted themselves in the mirror before. Hardcore, not some filthy casual bigotry.
Not the guys that will bully and call names, the guys that would kill if they could. That’s their desire, murder, so long as they can get away with it.
Anti-semitism exists, absolutely yes. But condemning the state of Israel of war crimes is not example of one, no matter how Israeli government tries to twist it.
If you support the action of Israel against the civilians of Palestine, it doesn’t matter if you’re a Jew or not - you deserve the scorn you get.
If you’re a Jew and you do not support this hell, I’m very sorry if you get any hostility directed to you, you’re a victim too. You deserve love and safety. Condemnation of the actions of Israel is in no way directed at you.
But Israeli military generals and government should face international trial for what they’ve done. It is crazy somebody in their right mind dares to support them in the 21st century.
Agreed. I was just wanting to point out that not everyone who seems to be criticizing Israel for war crimes actually cares about war crimes in the slightest, it’s more about what is actually a rare chance to simply hurt Jewish people in an actually substantial way. Since this small minority of actually severely anti-semitic people is extremely passionate about their beliefs, they are a surprisingly loud and disruptive force in what should otherwise be straightforward criticism of valid war crimes.
Many Israelis are emotionally devastated atm, which is one of the factors behind their irrational behavior imo. This makes them vulnerable to being pushed too far, by simply making them even angrier. They are not currently stable, at all. It’s a collective madness of sorts, and it should be approached with care, not trolling.
And nobody listens. I make point after point about everything and it gets down voted…even here on Lemmy. Yup. So fucked in the entirely opposite meaning of that word. Zero productivity here. Ever again. And we’re talking years, not decades.
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