The real trick is the only thing convincing everyone that life is supposed to be easy, is Hollywood, where every protag more or less wings it and somehow winds up with successful conflict resolution.
Without that being bludgeoned into your subconscious for your whole life, what possible evidence or reason could any person possibly have for thinking life is supposed to be easy?
I can only think of one person that actually put something on tv that tried to be real, that was Mr Rogers. He talked about things like divorce, losing a job, fighting with loved ones, etc. He alone acknowledged that life is hard, and actually prepared kids for it.
Are you sure? Or are you just falling for the image they are trying to portray?
Money can make a lot of things easier, it’s true. But life is a motherfucking bitch that ain’t that simple. Making part of it easier makes other parts of it harder. Rich people do experience depression though, they do sometimes commit suicide. They’re still people. Foolish ones, even.
You’re missing the true meaning of the word easy in this context. Easily as in won’t have to struggle for food, housing, clean water, luxuries, or anything really.
Being rich makes simply surviving irrelevant and assumed. When you don’t have to worry about any of the daily struggles life is by definition easy.
If survival is your only goal, sure. But that’s sad as fuck, and an indication a person needs assistance of some sort. Nobody should only have to rely on themselves, we’d all end up no better than HAMAS.
Ah yes, I am poor and therefore I am as bad as terrorists. Thanks so much for opening my eyes. Guess I just buy a few houses and stop being poor then. Man, all this time and I didn’t even know I was the evil one.
Don’t misunderstand me. Being poor and being a terrorist are not the same. However, being oppressed for long enough will make you hate your leaders enough to turn you into one.
I’m talking real oppression though, where you have no real control over anything.
Also, when I say “do what it takes to survive” I’m talking about robbery and murder. Not just picking up some extra work here and there.
Idk about that attitude though, maybe I am lucky but I have been just a few steps above homelessness before and I still don’t consider life particularly hard, in fact for the most part I would call it fairly easy.
Generally when someone tries to say life is or should be easy, they’re selling something.
What life really is, is just complicated. If it involves very many other people anyway. We can ignore that complication if we want, sometimes suffer consequences and even blame those consequences on other people if we want. That’s all very common. But that’s just us controlling our own perception.
We’re a very image-oriented animal, so we’re very easy to fool with how things might “seem”. It takes a fair bit of effort and/or training to overcome this natural temptation. Otherwise a person defaults to more animal instincts, which serve us no different than they do wild animals. Win some and lose some, more or less.
Our technology and lifestyle did not come from these instincts though. Everything we’ve built came from something much, much more complicated and challenging. Usually involving a lot of math, annoyingly.
Went through a divorce almost 6 years ago. My ex has an undiagnosed mental illness and my marriage was really bad so for me it was kind of a weight off my shoulders. It was still hard but it gets better. Find someone you can talk to about it, even if it’s just a therapist, and take lots of time for self care. I did a lot of fishing, hiking, and golfing for a couple years. I had forgotten how much I enjoyed doing that stuff.
Isn’t that a twisted combination of disorders of varying degrees? I think my therapist was reluctant to put that label on me. I don’t know much about it but it seems to have a stigma
Borderline personality disorder. An ex had it. Even when it’s not malignant and there’s treatment and awareness of disease, it is very challenging. It makes it very hard for the person to live congenially with anyone. It sucks to see an otherwise nice, fun and lovely person get self-sabotaged so badly that they can’t keep any relationship for long. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps, a lot, though.
When my wife was a child, they made nativity scenes at school for Christmas. In my wife’s result, Mary and Joseph were standing very far away from the manger. When asked why they were so far away, my wife replied, “Because I stuck them there.”
I’ve quit working many years ago, and still don’t have enough time to pursue all hobbies like I would like to. I even “fear” finding new interests.
If you’d offer me 50x the money for going back to work, i still wouldn’t see a single beneft (beside the moneyz). Would probably do it for one month and quit again 😁
My dad (boomer) worked all his life, was treated like a work-slave, and the moment he retired, he had half a year of “life” left. And in this time he didn’t even know what to do with himself. Was bored all day round. Never knew such a life. And yet tried to lecture me how important work is.
Met many people who couldn’t even enjoy their month holiday a year because there wasn’t anything they wanted to do. Some even worked from home in their holiday at the beach… Just because. So it seems it’s not nice for many. I find it sad.
Ergomania (excessive devotion to work) is an actual mental health symptom, and it can manifest as part of several mental illnesses.
And even their employers should try to get them appropriate treatment because “workaholics” tend to have very low productivity - they don’t work well in teams and are often too tired to be effective.
Yes I know. Hence I said to find it sad. And workaholics are legion not just a few. Sadly employers are often enforcing that behaviour, thinking they’re the most exploitable despite probably being less productive than the regular joe.
Wife and I don’t need much and have enough money to do so, luckily. Also we have no money-eating kids or any other responsibilities, not even a pet. And the only expensive hobbies are gaming and travel.
But even if we wouldn’t have money but kids, and would be fine with minimum-wage, there’d be the social-net here. It’d be a bit less moneyz than working, but…
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