I’m 36 and had internet porn since before I got puberty.
But yeah, I agree. I skip sex scenes now. I don’t feel like they add anything. Like you can just cut out all the nude backs and moaning and nothing of value would be lost. We get it, they had sex, move on.
I’ve been working on this on and off for a few months now. The more I learn, the deeper the hole gets. Ports and VPNs and UPNP and TCP and UDP and hosts and containers and firewalls and on and on. It’s a lot.
Many times I can’t get things working properly, if at all, and other times it works perfectly one day and then several days later, after changing absolutely nothing, no longer works.
My current goal is to get a Mobilizon instance and a Jitsi server running, to hopefully get a community started up there that meets up regularly to help each other, and to make onboarding easier.
I tried to ask for help around here and, while a few kind people did offer to help (and disappeared shortly thereafter), I was overwhelmingly lambasted for daring to ask for personal help.
Lemmy “communities”, PeerTube “channels”, Mobilizon “Groups”, Kbin “magazines”, and Mastodon “Groups” are all functionally the same thing in the Fedi.
You can follow Lemmy communities on Mastodon as well, it just has a different (bad) UI. That’s why you’ll occasionally see users on Lemmy annoyingly @ 12 people in a reply.
Would really love to but have yet to see basic phone functionality covered in a way that isn’t a painful compromise. Stock Android is a privacy nightmare, which is why I left it.
I’ve been using GrapheneOS for about a year now and it’s a giant leap in privacy and security (much better than iOS), with very little compromise in functionality.