I’m autistic and i almost never remember to initiat the conversation, or feel like it’s not appropriate. If any of my friends felt like you do, i won’t have any more friends. And i love my friends a lot and can’t survive without them. Don’t over think it. Each has their own way of socializing. It’s about the journey, not its initiation :)
I do, just not as often. I can’t control it. I do make sure to let them know i appreciate them contacting me though. As much as possible. Also, i don’t understand why the beginning of socializing is more important than the rest of it. Why is me being engaged and interested, continue the conversation, showing appreciation throughout, and making it obvious that I’m enjoying it and would enjoy more in the future, why does that have less weight than a “hi”? I can start a conversation with anyone, wither i like it or not. But keeping up the conversation is what matters to me.
You’re right though, it is a teamwork thing. Any relationship requires work from both sides. I present my work by showing appreciation to my friends, and so far it seems like it’s working in lowering their anxiety and over thinking :)
Bird or beast upon the sculptured bust above his chamber door, With such name as “Never again”. Deep into that darkness peering, long I stood there, wondering, fearing, doubting, dreaming dreams no mortal ever dared to dream before.
For tomorrow, we arm for our own type of war.
– modified heavily from obvious; also TIL that “nevermore” can also be interpreted as “never again”
This isn’t really a big deal. A lot of introverts are friends with extroverts because they’re more comfortable doing things they don’t want to do. It’s no different than being friends with someone because they work harder to maintain a line of communication. So long as you show appreciation for that dynamic it can be healthy, especially if you’re up front about your struggles.
Lots of extroverts would appreciate how they’re allowed to be the center of enertainment within the group or that they’re allowed to take the reigns on what the group does. So long as it’s symbiotic you’re needlessly dropping potentially amazing friends by overthinking and applying your version of fairness that probably doesn’t match anyone elses version. It’s far better to just put in the effort you want to put in and keep expectations at a minimum.
Fwiw, the cats that respond to it by coming to you are likely socialized with humans , and friendly enough that you can pet them. Which is always a plus because petting friendly animals is good for you.
The ones that run away, or just ignore you, are likely either feral or at least not human friendly, which means you at least know how to avoid getting scratched, by not trying to mess with it.
All of that is pretty damn obvious, but it really is a good way to determine what to do with a cat you don’t know in your vicinity. If you’re involved with spay and release in any way, it helps sort out where you’ll need to deploy traps.
Did you know that cats taught themselves to mimic the sound of a crying child to get the attention of humans? I think it’s some evolution thing, ionno. Maybe someone smarter than me can explain 😅
Close - they meow for their cat mothers too in the wild, it’s just that humans keep cats in a permanently juvenile state when we keep them as pets. Also, our patting them mimics their mother’s tongue action, which causes them to purr, which is also an entirely natural sound for them to signal the mother that they are alive and content. We did not change them so much as co-opt what was already there, using it for the benefit of both human & cat:-). From there, some things like level of aggression and body size were bred to suit our mutual partnership better.
That’s what makes it hard for me to watch shows with too much purposeful cringe, I just feel way too embarrassed for the people involved. The Office UK was nearly impossible for me. Even The Office US season 1 was almost beyond my limit, but luckily they fixed the formula by season 2.
Windows Subsystem for Linux (WSL) which lets you basically run linux kernel along side the windows kernel which lets you do a lot of cool stuff like containers, linux apps, whole DEs, etc.
It was pretty cool for like 5 minutes until people realized that keeping windows around was kind of pointless and we should just be running pure linux lol.
It’s still a good feature, but it just gives you a direct comparison of linux vs windows which tends to outshine windows.
It was pointless to keep windows at all. Pure linux is much cooler and running it inside windows was pointless. Unlike wine which runs windows programs inside linux which is big deal
What was weird was one of my friends who is “baffled by my choice of Linux” let me know about this subsystem and said “hey, look! There’s no reason to use Linux again!”
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