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quadrotiles, in What is the most unhelpful advice you have received?

The usual acne related ones, like washing my face more or using tooth paste on my spots. Turns out clearasil won’t fix your hormones.

Use olive oil instead of sun screen because it works better than SPF and isn’t full of chemicals.

When taking a taxi on a short stop over in Dubai, the taxi driver told me not to have blue hair (which I had) or no man will ever want me, while my then boyfriend was also sitting in the taxi, masquerading as my husband (we were wearing rings and just letting people assume we were married, which everyone did. Including the taxi driver!)

Work related: don’t make my code too “complicated” or my one coworker can’t understand it (read: my coworker doesn’t know what async means, and instead of him learning, I’m just not ever meant to do anything async… When processing huge amounts of data… Also, error handling is too hard, don’t do that either) yes, I will forever be salty about this. He deleted weeks worth of work while I had covid because he didn’t even try to understand it - his reasoning being “it doesn’t work anyway, so there’s no point in understanding or learning what I’m doing”

donslaught,

Where do you work that allows someone to just delete someone else’s work all willy-nilly? If someone did that to my code I’d be PISSED.

nik282000,
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^a

Del

^s

Fixed your code :D

donslaught,

D:

hinterlufer,

ggdG:wq

CoderKat,

I like reading vim commands as if they were spoken. “Good game daddy girl colon wanna quit” (idk)

teawrecks,
ours,

Someone did that to my whole project. I had catefully migrated all the source control to a new and improved system. Out boss decided which project went into which organization.

Some idiot went and intentionally deleted a project I was meant to do maintenance because he had decided all by himself that it wasn’t meant to be there.

I had to do a long train ride to the idiot’s office for a training and when he told me what he did (proudly!) I gave him the sort of verbal bollocking I have never done before or since.

To the point where he contacted our boss to complain. I got a call from my boss to excuse himself on behalf of the idiot.

majestictechie,

Wow that last bit sucks. I’m assuming you don’t use GIT and could roll back your changes or fork it from a previous point.

I think that would push me over the edge.

quadrotiles,

I typed a long reply, forgot to hit send and my reply is gone lol

But yeah, we actually do use git. I was brought into the team to be the git “expert” of the team. But while I was away, not only did he delete my work, he replaced it with something that can’t work in the long term and then presented it to my boss, stake holder equivalent and the non-technical testers as the final version. His implementation was “finished”, mine was not and I was too angry to look at his work. So in the end, I made it crystal clear that this can never happen again and I made it super clear to everyone involved in the project that my responsibility lies in the X part, and if someone needs something done for the Y part, they are to go to my co-worker. So like a clear division of responsibility.

I also don’t have the time to un-fuck up his work. I asked him to integrate certain parts of the original implementation, but he threw a tantrum and yelled that I have no right to tell him what to do. (Ok but even if I were telling him what to do, I have 6 years of experience and a CS degree on his 1 year and no formal training, so like…)

lungdart,
@lungdart@lemmy.ca avatar

A game changer I had for acne as a teen was putting a new towel on my pillow every night. My pillow was likely riddled with Cutibacterium acnes from sleeping with acne.

It helped another friend with an acne problem as well.

Mind you that bacteria isn’t always the cause of acne, but it’s worth trying this trick for any people out there going through it.

SharkEatingBreakfast,

Yeah, my painful acne lasted far into adulthood. Found out it was 100% hormonal and finally got on something to treat it.

There’s a lot of things that can cause acne.

ZombieTheZombieCat,

Same. The amount of times I’ve heard “have you tried Proactiv?” as though it wasn’t the first thing I went and bought when I was 15 is just aggravating. The fact that not even doctors seem to know much about the internal causes of acne and how to treat it is really just embarrassing.

I’ve also heard the “change your pillowcase” thing far too often. If your pillowcase is so dirty that it’s the one thing that stands between you having acne and not having acne, then it sounds like you might have bigger issues lol.

funnyletter,

tho to be fair “change your pillowcase” is probably a decent bit of advice for a lot of teen boys in particular. I knew a lot of guys in college who only washed their sheets once a semester. 🤢 It’s the “Have you tried turning it off and on again?” of acne advice.

quadrotiles, (edited )

That would have been actually useful advice! I actually did start doing that a couple of years ago, and it really did help. It didn’t clear it up, but the acne hasn’t been quite as aggressive since. I also do other things now too, so I’m in a pretty good place for my face skin at last lol

Sterile_Technique, in If you could have one small thing as a superpower. What would it be and why?
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To actually fall asleep within a few minutes of laying in bed, and stay asleep until I actually need/want to be awake.

Cruxifux,

I used to have insomnia that came from anxiety about my future (I’m guessing.) When I started doing carpentry and started truly exhausting my body I gained the ability to sleep ANYWHERE ANY TIME FOR HOWEVER LONG I WANTED.

It’s seriously amazing. I’m 33 now and don’t have to work quite as hard, plus am used to the long shifts that are hard on your body. I can still sleep pretty much whenever, wherever.

I flew to England once (it was like a 14 hour flight) and seriously slept the entire time. I didn’t even have a window seat.

Sterile_Technique,
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I did residential construction for a couple years, then 4 in the military, so no stranger to physical exhaustion… Insomnia hit even in those times.

The only way to predictably get a decent chunk of sleep is to kind of bank hours in the days leading up to it. Like if get 0 to maybe 3 hours per night through the work week, I’ll sleep like a baby come Saturday.

Never been on meds for it. Was afraid to report it when I was active duty (fucking stupid) and now my rating isn’t high enough to cover prescriptions and I don’t have regular health insurance so… can’t afford them. :-/

Today,

I’ve used ambien and that L one. Benefit/negatives = not worth it. My husband and friends switched to trazodone (safer and cheaper) and really like it. I’ve learned to put myself to sleep quickly by focusing hard on relaxing each body part for 3 breaths, starting with feet, ankles, lower legs, … When i wake up in the middle of the night it’s harder, but i can usually do it if i concentrate. Oh, when I’m really struggling, adding cannabis helps.

Socialphilosopher,

I wouldn’t advise you to get depressed with this superpower. 🙂

oSillyScope,

I have this power, and it is in fact… super

blightbow,
@blightbow@kbin.social avatar

A friend of mine does too.

I'm ready to form a supervillain league with the sole motivation of performing unethical research experiments on your kind. This power must be brought to the masses!

PlasmaDistortion,

I have it too. It took me a few years to figure it out but now I average 12 minutes to fall asleep and can sometimes do it in less than 3.

Crackhappy,
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I have this one too.

Granixo, in What genres of music do Lemmites enjoy?
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Video Game Music 🎮🎵

FiftyShadesOfMyCow,

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coconutxyz,

man of culture, plus lofi - it’s safe to say i dislike songs with lyrics 😂

TerribleJokes,

The soundtracks for almost any of the Guilty Gear games are just pure energy and fun and I totally recommend them

Jellojiggle,

The Stardew Valley music is where it’s at

svncake,

Same, I have a playlist full of songs from games that I’ve played like Nier automata and Undertale. Used to think people who liked video game music were cringey until I started playing video games myself and found the songs very catchy

Sheltac,

The Nier automata soundtrack is on another level. What a collection of absolute masterpieces.

Weight of the world still brings a tear to my eye.

Ransom,

You hear the album Determination by Ace Waters and RichardBB? Metal undertale covers.

svncake,

Yes! I also really like his Bad Apple version. I actually like it more than the orig imo

FlowerTree,
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Ori and the blind forest, a hat in time, deltarune. It’s amazing how good videogame soundtrack can get!

raubarno,

Touhou music is a piece of gold

candyman337, in How can we improve Lemmy’s SEO so we can google “(question) lemmy” instead of relying on “(question) reddit”
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I don’t think iw oild be unreasonable for someone to make a search engine that is specifically for indexing lemmy posts. Seems like it would be a good addition to the lemmyverse site

nix,
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It already exists search-lemmy.com

candyman337,
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But you have to choose the instance you’re searching, that’s the opposite of what I want, I want to search all instances, or at least the top 100 or something, all at once

bzxt,

I agree

littlecolt,

Oh man, it’s like when the search engines were battling back in the day. We need a Lemmy version of MetaCrawler.

postmateDumbass,

Dogpile!

morrowind,
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It does search all instances, the instance choosing is so links open in your preferred instance. Try it, you’ll see

Racle,
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Sadly, it doesn’t :(

sopuli.xyz search vs lemmy.world

morrowind,
@morrowind@lemmy.ml avatar

That difference is probably because it respects which instances your chosen instance federates with. (It has to, to open it there)

I imagine that’s easy to change for people who really want to search everything

BaroqueInMind, (edited ) in With the way the world's going, is there even a point to anything anymore?
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@yuunikki please schedule an appointment with a therapist because you are demonstrating signs of depression in your post/comment history. The internet is not qualified to be your therapist.

xedrak,
@xedrak@kbin.social avatar

Legitimately the best advice in this thread. Speaking from experience.

yuunikki,

I already do, none of it works

Noetic97, in If you could have one small thing as a superpower. What would it be and why?
@Noetic97@lemmy.world avatar

The ability to know exactly where anything I think of is located.

lazylion_ca,

Hoffa?

Noetic97,
@Noetic97@lemmy.world avatar

I’m definitely thinking historic lost treasure hunter would be an amazing career!

Ichi_matsu,

[Breathing Intensifies]

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VelvetStorm,

You could make some serious money with this power. You could find anyone’s lost pet or keepsake.

Squirrel,
@Squirrel@thelemmy.club avatar

You could also find missing people. This one has serious potential for good. Realistically, though, the CIA (or your country’s equivalent) would take you into custody and force you to do their bidding.

raltoid,

Not to mention the regular occurances of people asking you to locate something they’ve stuck inside themselves.

hootenannyshenanigan, in Lemmy, what are your "missed flight" stories?

Little late to the party, but I was trying to catch a flight to see my long distance boyfriend. I was supposed to leave right after class (I was in college) but decided to take my time and run by my house to pick up a few things and chat with my roommates. Well, there was a ton of traffic and I ended up having to sprint through the airport to my gate. I had a backpack and was sprinting in flip flops, wearing a dress. Didn’t feel my dress riding up, caught in my backpack, as I ran, so I guarantee half that airport saw my bare ass (I now wear shorts under my dresses). Got to the gate as the plane was pulling away from the gate and started SOBBING, knowing my kind of dick boyfriend would yell at me and say I told you so. The gate agents took pity on me, crying with my butt hanging out, and moved me to a next morning flight at no charge.

stardust, in I'm the author of an April Fool's Internet Standard, AMA

What are some of your favorite accounts to follow on mastodon?

Also, will your talk be recorded?

Two9A,

My following list; of note is Lisa Melton, whose bio says “Follow me and I’ll fill your timeline with boosts”. She ain’t lying.

Looks like some of the talks from last year were released on the conference’s YouTube, so: hard to say if the recording will be available. I’ll (see if I can) remember to ask on the day.

apis, in What is the least SEO-fucked search engine?
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Don't even care about SEO fuckery, if the damn things would respect my search queries.

Quotes, operands & other modifiers seem to have been straight up jettisoned.

scrubbles,
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Yep, Google decided it was too complicated and removed it all. Dont know how it was too complicated, people just wouldn’t use it if they didn’t know about it. They felt “natural language” would be more useful. Bullshit, I search for “foo and bar” it’ll return me results for foo and ignore the rest

CanadaPlus,

Too complicated for them and their optimisations, maybe?

Anticorp,

That’s not why they ignore them. They ignore them because it is profitable.

tourist,
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This still works if you use double quotes!

intensely_human,

So google has reverted to late 90s search behavior

argv_minus_one,

Considering what happened to late-'90s search engines, that seems like a rather dangerous idea…

CmdrShepard,

Does anyone know the AOL keyword for Lemmy?

intensely_human,

They got killed by Google. I was a Dogpile man myself, until someone showed me the google search.

HaiZhung,

WDYM? Quotes work for me. Can you give an example that is broken?

www.google.de/search?q="google+decided+it+was+too…

VoxAdActa,

I frequently have to look up whether a term is a misspelling/mistranslation or an actual technical term (or a term in British English, or a British spelling for a technical word). For me, quotes do nothing. It will frequently refuse to look up the term I’m specifically hunting for, just the term it thinks I should be hunting for. Sometimes that means it’s a mistranslation… but not always.

Next time it comes up for me, I’ll keep a note of it and get back to you.

I have an even bigger problem trying to exclude terms from a search. The example I always use is try to look up “Dolphins -football”, and use any version of “-” you’d like (NOT, etc). The first results will always be the latest scores for the Miami Dolphins.

StandingCat,
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Ssh, you’re ruining the circle jerk.

rm_dash_r_star,
@rm_dash_r_star@lemm.ee avatar

Yeah I really miss those days of logical operands. Back in the Alta Vista days I could do Boolean searches, but yeah that’s been replaced with speech recognition which doesn’t work as well. To this day I still like the Boolean search better. Newer does not always mean better. Most of the time it only means dumbed down to the lowest common denominator.

Erk,

Operands still work. You may be confused because the se will offer you results without them if your operands produced nothing.

jocanib, in What's the worst company ever. Period.
kersploosh,
@kersploosh@sh.itjust.works avatar

This is the answer, hands down.

kaknife,

What about the South Sea Company?

Pawan123,
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Please take my upvote.

blightbow, in If you could have one small thing as a superpower. What would it be and why?
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Ability to force anyone to objectively confront their own cognitive dissonance by maintaining eye contact.

Possibly too powerful. Some heads may spontaneously combust from a lifetime of preferring their own reality.

paperclipgroove, (edited )

Ok but to balance it: it forces you to confront your own on the topic as well.

That would force you to selectively use it since often times reality is somewhere between our personal view of it and other opposing views.

Chose the wrong situation and you'll both be crying in the corner with shatter worlds. Chose the ones where the people are truly disconnected from reality and perhaps you'll change their lives - hopefully for the better.

blightbow,
@blightbow@kbin.social avatar

Ok but to balance it: it forces you to confront your own on the topic as well.

I was actually tempted to include that in the original, but I didn't want to belabor it. :)

I'm fine with this, and would prefer it that way.

constnt,

That’s a new word. Thanks!

rishabh,

There’s some good English around Lemmy. Finally, a good crowd!

Laxaria, in Are any of the DNA testing companies trustworthy?

Unless you have a super compelling reason to get sequenced, do not use direct to consumer sequencing services or offerings. In general it’s not so much the tech or whatnot that is bad, but rather without being in a position to determine if you have some genetic, prospective genetic screening isn’t ideal.

If you feel you have a good reason to be sequenced (eg family history of a kind of cancer, particularly breast and colon), seek out a genetics consult with a genetic counsellor or geneticist at a major hospital or academic center.

This comment isn’t to constitute any kind of medical advice. Rather, you are much better served getting sequenced done well.

Hhffggshn,

I just want to cosign on this. I found out that I have Lynch syndrome, which carries an 80% chance of colon cancer and 60% likelihood of endometrial cancer. I thought I was prepared to hear that I had it, but I wasn’t. When I heard my test was positive, I freaked out. I was really glad to have a licensed genetics counselor deliver the news and talk with me in the following weeks and months as I adjusted.

Snapz,

Do you know, are there typically any scenarios where work with a geneticist at a hospital may be covered by insurance?

GrimSheeper, in Do you have a sibling? What is the relationship like?

I have two brothers. My younger brother is pretty cool - always kind and talkative, even though our interests don’t overlap much. He’s like an extroverted friend who always engaged with you, even if you don’t have much interesting to respond with.

My older brother and I barely know each other by now, but he seems to have invented a fictional version of me who he absolutely despises. Every time I see him, he gets quieter and quieter, and he regularly texts our mother with the most venomous insults and accusations he can sling my way. I’ve probably spoken fifty words to him in the last few years, but he’s fully convinced that I’m an evil person working to slight him at every turn.

I wonder sometimes if I should talk to him directly and ask what’s up, or if I should just write him off. Even my mother is confused as to why he’s like this.

001100010010,
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Man these comment duplications are getting wild. 😆

GrimSheeper,

Oh yeah - the duplicate comments plus the length of the comment had me pretty embarrassed, lol

hsl,
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Duplicates removed.

SuiXi3D,
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I still see two.

hsl,
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Probably a federation sync delay - I’m only seeing one at this point.

smstnitc, in What are some of the things you say / think to yourself when going through a hard time or dealing with uncertainty to help yourself along?

'kill me"

I say that a lot. Usually when I’m alone and frustrated, tired, in physical or emotional pain…

I don’t want to die. What I’m saying is “make whatever is causing the current situation to suck to stop”. It tends to be cathartic, and occasionally leads me to thinking about how to fix the situation myself.

intensely_human,

What if we killed you and then saved the few cells that survived longest and cloned you from them and kept doing that until you had skin tougher than diamonds and super strength and an unquenchable thirst for blood?

smstnitc,

Sounds amazing!

hsl, in Posted pictures no longer showing?
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This is a support question, please see the sidebar for communities where you can ask this kind of question. Removing per rule #3.

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