Lord of The Rings. and I can’t count how many times it was. as a kid I had a weekly routine to watch at least one of the movies. oh dear how I love this trilogy
I’ve visited a couple of times. My preferred app (relay) is still working, but I’m guessing I’ll jump ship completely once relay is affected, Lemmy has mostly replaced my Reddit habits anyway.
When I need to find a specific answer on a topic and a Google search brings me to a Reddit thread, yes. Otherwise, Lemmy and Discord have replaced my Reddit addiction
How do you find more discord servers? I randomly started being a bit more active in a random one from a simulator I use, and I’m enjoying it more than I thought, but not sure how to find more communities.
The Discord public server browser is pretty bad, Disboard.org is a better server browser that has more servers and filtering options. A lot of YouTubers and online groups will have their own discord servers as well, which you can typically find with some digging (a ton of subreddits had official discord servers long before all the current drama started for example)
Thanks! I think I just need to set an hour aside to try to think of things like this, YouTube channels are a good one, I do follow a lot of stuff related to my hobbies/profession there.
That’s what I miss from Lemmy so far, none of the niche things I’m into are really represented yet.
I don’t browse it (I have a redirector rule that links me right out of Reddit), but if I need to access it for something, I just tack on old. as a bypass.
I read a lot of philosophy until I had an existential crisis, which ironically made me feel worse at first and then better later on, because I realised basically "nothing really matters" and the majority of things that stressed me out are so small. Sure, some stuff has negative consequences for me and messes with my emotions, but even that passes with time and much of it is simply in my head (I got a nice cocktail of ADHD with depression and anxiety and get stuck in feelings of dread and doom).
Well, I also go to therapy, and there I learned to focus on myself and what I need and like, with the goal to either distract myself or enjoy small pleasures. Like I walk to a quiet place somewhere when noise stresses me out or listen to music, I make myself a nice meal or some tea (iced tea in summer) or take a cool shower or sit down to draw something or write comments or talk to a person I like, all those small things that make me feel a bit like "I can live one day longer".
Basically, instead of looking at the world and the things you can‘t change of affect like your past, look only at yourself in the here and now and ask "how could I make this a bit more bearable for myself?" and then I do that. Though there is some limit there like don‘t do drugs (which I DID do, it gave relief, but made me feel much worse over time! just a warning), but even outside of that there is usually something you can do.
Many desires are also artificially induced by marketing and peer pressure and the more I understood that, the less I felt like I had to do x or y or whatever everyone else is doing to be happy. That includes my comment and those of all others by the way, one or more points may resonate with you and help and others may be completely useless to you, what matters most here is finding what works for you and doing more of that. If you try some of this and have a moment where your mind calms down and you feel alright, take note of that and do that again.
Though I‘m not entirely well, this stuff comes back sometimes, but I got a bunch of ways to deal with it now which help me out.
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