My partner gave the reply “No, we’re just practicing”, the lady looked horrified. You asked about a near stranger’s sex life, lady. I don’t know what she expected.
“It usually takes me some time to be comfortable around new people.”
I’ve found that people are usually quite understanding and make an effort to include you in conversations if you just be honest with them instead of being snarky.
I believe there are a few Lemmy instances that don’t have downvotes enabled. (Beehaw might be one of them, but don’t quote me on that.) If downvotes are a stress point for you, you could try joining one of those instances.
I personally find both upvotes and downvotes to be useful as a way for me to quickly see the community’s reaction to a piece of content. If I’m scrolling through my feed and see a post with many downvotes and few upvotes, for example, I know that post is unlikely to interest me and will move on. Conversely, a highly upvoted post or one with a mix of both upvotes and downvotes is more likely to have a good conversation in the comments in my experience.
If I make a post that receives a large number of downvotes - or if most of my posts tend to be downvoted - that’s a signal to me that I’m either not communicating my message well (confusing, passive aggressive, etc.) or that my message itself may not be welcome (hate speech, misinformation, etc.). In either case, I use that as a mental trigger for me to reflect on my posts rather than a reason to become unhappy with the community/platform as a whole.
I would also add that getting a post mass downvoted can be a sign that a community might not be a good fit for you.
Like, using reddit as an example, if you see someone spreading anti-lgbt hate and getting upvoted, but when you try to be like “Hey that’s not cool” or explain why they’re wrong you get massively downvoted, it can be a really good sign that maybe it’s not a great place.
I agree, and I would extend this thought to also include situations where it’s simply the wrong audience for your post. The content itself may not have anything wrong with it, but if you post a casual joke or comment without much depth in a community that’s built on deep conversations and well thought out replies, for example, you’re likely to be downvoted simply because the context wasn’t appropriate.
My subscription feed isn’t big enough yet for me to just scroll through that so I’ve been dipping in and out of… I was about to say /r/all but whatever the Lemmy word for that is, and there seems to be a new dumb community flooding my feed every day - yesterday it was 196, today it was weirdgirlmemes. I just block them and carry on
I completely agree, but I would ascribe a lot of it to teething of an early platform. Narwhals and bacon once dominated that other site in the early days lol
I like it too. Back in Reddit I never saw/heard about that community. I have grown fond of their humor here on Kbin. It gets at least a couple of laughs a day, and I've even laughed out loud on some occasions.
Every post on a chan-style imageboard has a number. If the last two digits are the same, it’s “dubs.”
Now imagine a million threads full of nothing but people trying to get dubs on their comment. Yeah, it’s really that stupid.
The creator of 4chan (moot) turned them off at some point (as in, it would skip any number with dubs, but not trips or above), but right before he sold 4chan he turned them back on.
Every year no… Every two maybe, most stop receiving updates after the 2 years, except for some brands and maybe top models…
Nowadays it’s slightly better as usually there is a couple more years of security updates but that’s it.
Of course if there is scene and you can get some custom ROM like lineage or similar it is slightly better… But honestly most phones nowadays are locked down.
A while back the conservative party of Canada was caught inserting MGTOW / Ben Shapiro tags on all their Youtube uploads. In other words they were poisoning peoples social graph in order to cause exactly what you’re talking about.
This is why I use a Google account that is only for Youtube entertainment. I keep it on a separate chromium profile. I turn on all the privacy toggles in the Google account. Only Youtube history is turned on. I curate the watch history.
You cannot tell what content might have breadcrumbs that eventually open the floodgates of far right echo chambers. They do this intentionally. So it requires active measures on your part to counter them. You’ve got to manage your account with intention. I do not use that account at all for random browsing. I usually do that in incognito on a different browser.
One thing I noticed about browsing the youtube homepage on PC is if your mouse hovers over a video, it starts playing, and that puts it in your watch history. So you might be accidentally adding a trash video it recommended to your watch history while looking at the other offerings. You can disable the “mouse hover auto play” by clicking your profile pic in the top right > settings > playback and performance > inline playback.
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