"Started?" Here in Tennessee we never stopped calling each other girlfriend.
But as others said, "Partner." I use it to talk about my boyfriend (since I'm a well-known demi person locally and the sex of whoever I'm with can be a massive question mark.)
Usually how it works is time for you is active, but what is you? Usually thar includes clothes and stuff, and other matter inside of us that isn’t usually considered a part of us. If we extend this logic, it’d include the air in us and maybe toughing us. I think this would be more fun, because it’d leave a vacuum behind us and superheat any air we move, because it’s instantly moving without any time passing. Basically when time unfreezes there’s be a massive sonic boom on out path with superheated air all around.
Yeah, hate to break it to you, but it isn’t even just women/girls using it for platonic friends. Men/boys are too.
Not too surprisingly, that hasn’t happened with boyfriend that I’ve run across. Which is kinda fucked up when you consider what the difference in usage represents.
My grandma talks like that but in my area in my generation it’s generally understood that [gender]friend is romantic and friend isn’t. If gender is relevant it’s “the [genders]”
That terminology is incredibly frustrating as a lesbian. Especially since it’s regularly used alongside calling my wife my friend despite me repeatedly referring to her as my wife
Yeah there are people who can pull it off, but because many men fetishize sapphicism it’s uncomfortable in general, especially since men do absolutely nothing for me and I’ve had guys get really brazen with hitting on me when they see me do gay stuff.
So yeah if there’s no doubt in my mind it’s a “get it girl” style nice, I’m cool with it but that’s a hard bar to cross.
I understand why this is frustrating and am not trying to take that from you, but thought you'd enjoy knowing that the last old lady who I confronted about calling my girlfriend as my girlfriend (in the platonic sense) was genuinely confused about my irritation, since "isn't that the best part of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend? That they're also your best friend? I always thought you two really got that part right."
It's some arethestraightsokay stuff (and happened in like 2004) but I thought it might give you a smile.
There was a programmer at my job, he put out the vibe of being a gung-ho guy and got promoted to team lead. The moment he had a scrap of power he started publicly berating the other devs, randomly, over nothing, leaving me wondering who he’d snap on on a given day. One day I got the message to shut off his access to the build server, which meant he was fired. It took way too long but it was delicious when it happened and my work satisfaction skyrocketed. An asshole can change a whole job.
I came in to work one Saturday. My first time in the office on an off day. Just figured I’d get a little work done.
Computer wouldn’t let me log in. Being smart, I recognized the early signs of being fired and decided I’d get ahead of it. I couldn’t get fired again. It would just destroy my career.
So I resigned. On Monday there was so much confusion. Management was so confused, they were like “we thought it was going well”. I had some cover story about why I was quitting, because I didn’t want to admit I was just trying to interrupt a firing with my own resignation sorcery.
Finally I realized the pained looks on their faces were real. Luckily, I was finally honest about what my reasons were. Turns out IT was doing some work on my computer, and had temporarily disabled my account. Or something like that.
Anyway it just about the most ridiculous comedy of errors I’ve been in. I feel so bad for my employers. They were like “But what?? We thought it was going great”.
After discovering I had thought I might be on the verge of being let go, they resolved to be more clear about how much they valued me.
I worked at a rehab center as a housekeeper. Im not an addict was just looking for a job and mom was working there st the time so easy in. For three months I was the only housekeeper for a 3 story mansion with 30 rooms. I did the best I could and dramatically improved the condition of the whole facility. Full time 2nd shift including weekends. I was payed less than McDonalds but I was effectively my own boss and as long as I got done what I needed to was free to spend my time how I saw fit so I accepted the low pay and shit work knowing it was a temporary thing. Over the months they kept 'one more thing’ing me with the worst being moving the dumpster 500ft to the back o he parkinglot and expecting me to haul a broken wagon full of trash multiple times a day. Kept promising they would hie me help but never got any. I took all the extra responsibility I could and was essentially a one man army. Yet my boss treated me worse and worse to the point of trying to chew me out for taking a break. I am an etremely timid person who hates conflict and argument but something finally snapped in me. that was the first time in my life I ever stood up for myself and told his ass how it was. I can tolerate low pay, I can tolerate just one more things, I can tolerate mentally ill clients, but one thing I dont tolerate is being talked down to and disrespected by my peers. I told him all that, that he was a boss to me in name only and that we were equals in this shit show, that I am not his bitch boy and to never speak to me like that again unless he wants to find a new housekeeper on the spot. He apologized and admitted to not treating me right as he has been super stressed out which I can understand.
I later quit when they denied me a few days of PTO when my foot got sprained. Fuck that! Funnily enough they magically found another housekeeper weeks after, and played them even less than what they paid me lol
I have finally proudly reached a point of mental maturity where I can tell people how it is if they push me far enough without fear, and to understand that no amount of money is worth my dignity and mental health.
Someone once introduced their gf literally saying "We are in a relationship" - it’s sounds awkward/clunky but I didn’t even notice that, it didn’t make me think for a moment, its precise, short, and above all clear. I appreciate direct communication way more than ‘what sounds nice’.
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