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elouboub, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE
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You never know what's true on the internet, but the world is full of tradiots like these. Good riddance + France is better than the US anyway (except if you have to use public transport in the summer, lol - good luck with the strikes)

boatsnhos931, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

I want sugar mommy :(

Lmaydev,

Yeah this is literally the dream. What a moron.

Pinto23, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

Wow your ex is a dumbass. Truly. I’d bend way over backwards to have a gf that earned considerably more. If my buds made fun of me over it and wouldn’t stop. They wouldn’t be buds anymore.

What complete fool.

Best of luck to you.

Thorry84, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

Wants to be a provider, becomes a teacher in the US. Still thinks his girlfriend wants to marry him to become part of his great country.

The brainwashing is something else in the US. What an absolute fool.

Obi,
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Glad I’m not the only one that was thinking along those lines while reading this. She’ll be just fine in France where this mentality is long dead (France has other problems though).

Thorry84,

Sssst! Don’t tell the French they have problems, they’ll call another national week of riots.

Obi,
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Goede avond, being French myself I have a special pass ;)

stuck_in_the_shell, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

What an absolute fool, the OOP dodged a bullet and this man child will be having a lifetime of regret.

On another note glad to see a community like this on here, this was one of the few subs that I still found interesting to read instead of the flood of low quality reposts and bot posts on reddit’s front page.

passably9, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

Man was getting a truly loving wife with not having to work as hard as her, on a plate

His ego threw him down the dominance heirarchy, without him even realising

Kecessa,

He didn’t necessarily have an easier job than her, just one that pays less (I don’t think she mentioned the field he works in?). I work an office job, I’m paid much more than my friend that’s a mechanic and I know for a fact that his job is much harder.

mihnt,
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  • onionbaggage,

    So he has a substantially harder job then.

    Kecessa,

    Well then, it’s not as if being a teacher is easy! Freaking hell…

    SpaceNoodle,

    This is what we mean when we talk about “toxic masculinity” - this guy’s so-called friends, and his inability to cope or seek help.

    passably9,

    Men have a evolutionary tendency to be the “protector”/“provider”. So I do sympathise with him a little bit

    But yeah, in today’s rational world, if your female partner is not going to be nagging or leaving you for earning less. I see nothing but a win here

    Lmaydev,

    That’s really not how genetics work. Masculinity is mostly a learned thing.

    It’s so easy to blame evolution for being an idiot.

    Nythos,

    Fuck that. It’s nothing more than him feeling emasculated and his mates making fun of him that his partner was earning more than him.

    TheOminousBulge,
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    To give you the benefit of the doubt, I think your hearts in the right place with this comment. But i want to respond to it because it does bring up a common sentiment that bugs the hell out of me.

    I don't really buy the provider part of this sentiment and even if instinct played a role here, it doesn't excuse ape-like behavior. You might be wired to notice wide hips and smooth skin, but continuing to stare at or lust after a girl after you realize she's 16 years old still makes you a creep.

    We are men, not ignorant monkeys controlled by our instincts and I find it insulting when someone tries to excuse ape behavior with this kind of reasoning. We're still 100% accountable for our actions.

    nodiet,

    This “evolutionary tendency” stuff is a myth. Just like the whole hunter/gatherer gender divide.

    ShortBoweledClown,

    It’s called socialization dawg, not some kind of genetic essentialism

    magamus, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

    What the hell is wrong with some people. So sorry you had to go through that. As a man myself I never thought one way or the other about who makes more in the relationship. My wife and I have traded that honor and it doesn’t matter because it all goes into the same pot - our future.

    Not being able to be “the provider” is such a cop out way to think. Who cares who makes more if you want to be together. My wife is a ton smarter than me I expect her to eventually make more. That doesn’t make me any less in the relationship.

    Wish you the best of luck in France!

    passably9, in My gf was raped and became pregnant. I broke up with her because she wanted to keep the baby + Updates

    Religion is the second villian here

    WhatASave, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

    Why does this sound so fake?

    sociablefish,

    It’s from r/relationshipadvice, r/aita would be just as trash

    Fluba, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

    Here I was thinking the boyfriend might be allergic to her perfume/body wash (it’s happened to me). Nope, he’s a dick.

    Echolot, in My gf was raped and became pregnant. I broke up with her because she wanted to keep the baby + Updates

    Good for him for putting his foot down and not bending to the mothers will...

    coldv, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

    t has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.

    Gaslight and trash boyfriend aside, this made me chuckle because of the imagery and I can imagine myself doing the same thing, quite aggressively even.

    Duchess, in My gf was raped and became pregnant. I broke up with her because she wanted to keep the baby + Updates
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    her mother is an absolute psychopath, i’m glad that her boyfriend stuck with her during a very difficult time.

    AnalogyAddict, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

    This is what real gaslighting looks like.

    zikk_transport2, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

    The guy would feel like home in Afganistan with other Taliban 😅

    Seriously, old story, but still interesting to read.

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