It’s not socially acceptable anywhere in the urban places but in rural places it can a quite a problem.
I have lived my entire life in a urban city without any discrimination whatsoever, but I have also heard of rural places where they would literally burn people alive for intercaste marriage.
One of the main reasons it’s not extinct yet is because people love to take “pride” in their caste. There are plenty of songs dedicated to “jatt” people, people of a higher caste. “Khatris” are often glorified in movies for fighting. You can see the problem is same as if white people started making songs on “being white and proud” and Britishers claiming victory in ww2 because they were “white”. It’s absurd and I have felt the pain but I am thankful for the present situation and I suppose it’s better than being burnt alive haha.
Yes there is reservation and that’s absurd too, imagine if “black” people were allowed reservation for jobs in government.
It’s absurd if that’s true. Who would in their right mind believe this solves any racism? If anything it creates more segregation about races. It’s the social acceptance that minorities need not economic or education privilege. Sad times.
The idea was to have races mixed together better and not have people from historically discriminated races get stuck in poverty because of lack of education. So, they tried to make sure there were some of them getting university degrees. It’s not completely absurd, but they just started it from the wrong end. They should have made sure the discriminated races who are underprevilleged had more help by helping all poor families, so their kids can focus on school better and it’s fair for poor people of the historically oppressive race, too.
It makes sense, I agree but speaking from personal experience from India where this positive discrimination called reservation exists, just leads to horrible segregation, it flares up every now and then in people. People from high castes always curse the lower ones for not getting their “supposed government job” that they should have gotten. Such measures should be entirely based on economic status and not some birth status. I say this because I know plenty of rich but lower caste people who have terribly exploited this system.
I also agree that in the end, matters relating to such birth statuses are complicated. If only humans could co exist all peacefully but alas.
Not racism. They’re the same race. It’s a class system where your future occupation is set in stone at birth based on your lineage. You can literally be born and your only future career prospect is becoming a latrine cleaner.
It’s not racism of you believe those people were born into a lower caste because of their actions in a previous life. It is their punishment and thus you should treat them like shit!
I worked night shift in a metal fabrication shop about 11 years ago.
Two bastions of humanity figured out that they could light an oxyfuel torch and adjust it to a neutral flame, snuff the flame out of a glove or something, and then use the torch to fill a plastic sandwich bag with a perfect mixture of oxygen and acetylene. They would then place this bag somewhere and light it on fire, which made a lot of noise. They had great fun until they tried it with a small office-sized trash bag. The word of the day is brisance. It made a tremendous bang which cracked some glass in the shop, but of course our two heroes were caught in the blast amd burned, because a sandwich bag made a loud pop, but a trash bag was more of a bomb. They lit the trash bag like they did the little bags, by holding a lighter to the plastic.
We had another shop in the chain I worked for fire everyone for doing that when I was a mechanic. There were no injuries but the neighboring businesses called 911 because they thought there was a bomb.
I was at an xmas party one year where the workshop boys did this with an upturned 44 gallon drum. It was the loudest bang I’ve ever heard. I thought we were under some sort of attack.
They expected the drum to launch a little but what actually ended up happening was the upturned metal bottom blew off and launched a LOT punching a hole in the workshop roof. It’s a miracle that nobody was hurt (their hearing probably was). Somehow they didn’t get fired.
I was invited to a rural party for new years, I’m pretty sure it was 2003-2004. I drank entirely too much, and saw some friends crushing beer cans, and was inspired. I found an old 55-gallon steel drum, put a bunch of water in it, and rolled it into the bonfire. Once steam was shooting out, I put the bungs back on it and rolled it into the pond. After a few minutes, there was a metallic “bang” and the drum was folded in on itself.
The guy who invited me to the party told everyone for years that I used my head to crush a steel drum.
because ppl that think like this are not in good relationships. Every person/relationship has it’s quirks but if you this talking about your relationship is a trap just leave, one of you is the problem.
It’s a way of passive aggressively calling you out for shit and yea it’s rude as hell. I’d argue airing out dirty laundry to their friends at all is pretty rude regardless of if you’re present or not. I know I’ve had shit I’d rather people not know get out because of GFs gossiping with each other.
It can be a passive-aggressive way to call you out, but not necessarily. If you and your SO have a healthy relationship, discussing problems in front of others shouldn’t necessarily be seen as an attack. In my experience, if a situation like this comes up, it’s usually either:
A way to help a friend who that might not realize they’re in a toxic/abusive relationship. For example, “Sometimes, Niels is really impatient with me being late, but he doesn’t demean me or put me down” can be a way of inviting me to provide some context or show that I’m not perfect but also that there are hard lines that shouldn’t be crossed
A way to empathize with a friend that is coming to grips with the fact that no relationship is perfect. It might not be a conscious invitation to participate, but it does potentially allow you to provide another way of thinking about the issue. For example, “Tell me about it; I’m always picking up after this guy” is not mean-spirited or passive aggressive, IMHO. If it seemed like they actually wanted me to participate rather than just have a way to vent, then depending on the friend I might jump in with “oh man, my ADHD has been really bad since the new project started at work! I’ve been a mess and it’s been really awesome that you’ve been able to help me out”
It’s still not an excuse for an SO oversharing something that you told them in confidence, and it’s not an excuse for turning an ongoing point of contention into a full-fledged argument in front of others, but it’s not necessarily cause for concern. If you’re a very private person, and you ask an SO to not discuss certain things with others, that’s a little different. But on the other hand, they do need to be able to discuss concerns with others to some extent, so maybe differentiating between “good friends are OK, but not that friend” would be helpful.
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