“Don’t be a quitter” is something that makes sense if you’re in the middle of a board game or the likes. It definitely shouldn’t be applied to big things like jobs or relationships.
as everything this has contexts in which is valuable and contests in which it’s not
don’t quit because you’re demoralised. don’t quit because you’re tired. don’t quit because it’s hard.
if your first natural response to adversities is flying instead of fighting, it’s telling you to fight, because you are likely the only person losing when flying.
it’s not about never change your mind. never critically think what’s the situation and if it’s still worth it.
or check up with yourself and see if that’s still what you want.
after all leaving a situation you don’t want anymore, it’s not quitting, it’s moving on
it seems just semantics, it’s about knowing yourself and being honest with yourself.
You dont have to keep going if you are tired and demoralized either. You dont owe pain and suffering and missed opportunities to your past self. You can quit any time you want for any reason or no reason at all, just be prepared to accept the consequences.
Yes, because Lemmy is still at that early phase of its existence where half of the posts complain about reddit, Threads, Twitter, etc, and that’s just not something I’m interested in. Waiting for it all to die down a little.
That since I was pregnant it was time to let my career go.
My career is critical to my family’s ability to live a middle class life (and it’s critical to my sanity and happiness, but the person who gave me this “advice“ wasn’t really one for acknowledging or valuing mental health).
Also forgot to say, READ THE RULES ON THE SIDEBAR, this is not a support community, your post breaks the rules. If you have future questions regarding the site post them in any of the appropriate communities, this one is for open ended questions in a similar way to r/AskReddit
I don’t want to see assholes with low IQ who cannot be bothered to look at the settings and documentation of the apps and websites they use and who’ll judge others based on his own preconceptions and biases.
– People choose to share nudes or go into porn for a very wide variety of reasons, and you should not be assuming anything about their self-esteem, dignity or self-worth, because you don’t know them or anything about them other than they chose a different lifestyle than yours.
It’s ok to not want to see it, you can turn it off in the setting or block the user/instance/domain that may be not properly tagging their adult content, but it is absolutely not ok to judge other users and insult them publicly just because you don’t like their lifestyle.
– People choose to share nudes or go into porn for a very wide variety of reasons, and you should not be assuming anything about their self-esteem, dignity or self-worth, because you don’t know them or anything about them other than they chose a different lifestyle than yours.
I have an entire friend group that shares nudes like it’s selfies because for us it’s just body parts like any other and we can admire the beauty of the human body. No feelings of vice or dirtiness involved whatsoever. I can go around seeing naked people and just appreciate the beauty without feeling dirty or even thinking about sexual intercourse and look respectfully. I feel comfortable being naked around my friends, I’ve been around friends literally hooking up next to me, it’s no big deal at all. I’m cute you’re cute, do you wanna sword fight? I’ll happily talk about my sexual life (within respect of privacy of course). I’ll talk you through your kitty issues and not think any differently. It’s healthy in my opinion.
IMO healthy porn exists, there’s a whole world between anti porn and hardcore fetish porn. I see nothing wrong with a casual pair of boobies or a dick.
Some people are indoctrinated by religion to feel like their body is dirty and needs to be hidden away, and feel shame to even think about sex or feel sexually stimulated by anyone but their spouse, and that’s okay if that’s their choice. And for some people it’s just normal life stuff. I personally think religion is harmful and worthless but I don’t go around calling people practicing it low life sheeps with no self worth or sexually frustrated closeted perverts.
Find a trade. If you’re good at what you do, it really doesn’t matter how wierd or fucked up you are. You can even get in full-on arguments with your boss that get forgotten about once everyone calms down.
Lost out on a good job opportunity with this one. I was going to do some interview prep and someone just told me to, “be yourself, they just want to get to know you.” Yeah bullshit… didn’t get that gig and did interview prep for a different opportunity. It went incredibly well the second time around.
As long-term career advice, I think this is helpful In finding something that doesn’t drag you down. If you can’t be yourself at work it’s going to be far more taxing.
But I absolutely understand this is a luxury to be able to be in that position of being choosy about your employer.
You’ll be far happier in an environment that enjoys you for being you, but you’ll find a job quicker by saying what they want to hear
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