Had my university call me up about a year after I had graduated. I was unemployed and had not been able to find a job post-graduation. I explained to the person that unfortunately I do not have an income at this time and was still living at home with my parents and trying to find a job. Their response: “Well do you have a credit card? You could use that to donate and worry about paying it off later.”
Please ease up on tuition costs for the class of 2027, and all classes after that. You’re addicted to bankrupt-proof government backed tuition loans and it’s time to seek professional help. Then we can talk about funding you guys out of the pockets of your alumni.
You are wrong. Somebody has to be the worst dancer, and it’s me. Went to a wedding earlier this year and it was lovely and enjoyable until it was dancing time. Tried to avoid participating, but family was persistent so I finally stood up, reluctantly. It was awful and I was fully self-conscious to an extreme degree, even after some drinks and edibles. I nearly cringed my eyeballs the wrong direction. Dancing is me at my most socially awkward, 0/10 would not recommended…
Literally the capitalist mindset. Go to sleep late and wake up early, so you have more time to work (“grind” or “hustle”). Every day I hate capitalism more and more
I used to think this way, till I actually learned a little bit on how to dance and then how to let go. Don’t wanna look like a fool? Learn to two step first, then pick up something simple if you can. Do the “instructions” dances like the electric slide and the hustle. Then learn to use your hips.
Learning to let go was harder, but I found it easier to embrace silliness. I decided I could look dumb on accident or on purpose, and decided on the latter, so did “sweet moves” that would make people laugh - throwing in old disco moves and such (the bus driver).
Then something happened I didn’t expect: I actually got decent at dancing. Turns out getting out of your own head is a great way to get loose, and suddenly you’re doing your thing and enjoying it, and you’re willing to try out other moves that actually do look like you might know something.
Point is, dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace (and the right music, it’s still hard for anyone to dance to music they don’t enjoy imo).
Shakira lol and that’s only kind of a joke, bc she’s amazing at using em. I’d suggest watching YouTube or piped videos, and just watching dancers. Latin dance in particular emphasizes it, so may want to look that direction first. The easiest Latin dance to learn is merengue as that’s just a two step with some extra hip movement that is easy to pick up by watching.
I’m sorry, but that’s just not true. Like most things: sports, computers, athletics, intellectual pursuits, dancing; they may have wide appeal, but they are not for all people. Just because you finally enjoyed it, and even excelled at it doesn’t mean everyone will.
I’m not saying everyone must dance, but everyone should try dancing multiple times and at different stages of their lives, just like the rest of the items you listed. Failing at something once or not enjoying it once and then swearing it off forever is honestly just sad.
YEEES. I've been going through this and feel like an emergent butterfly. LEARN TO DANCE. It will open up entire new worlds--like dance floors at weddings! Think of the possibilities! And it's honestly just a blast.
Ok I’ll bite: what’s stopping you from learning to two step? That was the first thing I listed. You have access to the Internet, you can get really good at dancing just watching YouTube and practicing what they do. Less fun initially I’m sure, but doable.
Also my God does dancing make women more interested in you if you’re a dude. It’s not magic where they’ll suddenly flock to you but it’s a lot easier to buy a girl a drink after you’ve made her laugh or spun her on the dance floor. So, there’s some extra motivation if it applies.
All the alcohol in the world wasn’t able to push me through that insurmountable mental block.
I’ve since quit drinking, and I’ve also quit trying to force myself to be a person who can dance. It’s just not in my bones.
Lots of people can’t even conceive of stepping on the dance floor. I find especially here on Lemmy, lots of folks are really introverted and not agreeable to “get out there and try” style challenges. Obviously not universal, but seems quite common here. Folks seem more apt to say “I have limitations that are immovable and that’s the end of it”. Gotta respect that life they are living, even if for folks like you or I we are motivated differently.
I don’t have it in me. Music just does not cause me to want to move my body. I can do the line dance ones but that’s just following directions which doesn’t seem to be what it’s all about to me.
Same here. The issue for me, I think, is that my feelings about music are the same as my feelings about chocolate; it's fine, but I don't see why everyone makes such a fuss about it.
My lack of interest in dancing is just an extension of that.
I did country dancing (essentially line dancing, but done in a circle and without the country and western theme) a couple of times at primary school in the 80s. I quite enjoyed that, but as you say, it was about following the instuctions and patterns rather than reacting to the music.
You might enjoy salsa rueda. It is like country dancing, but is done to cool salsa music, and there is still a bit of creativity on the part of the caller, to quickly pick moves for everyone that fits the feel of the music. And it feels great when everyone is in tune with each other, working together, even when you make some mistakes.
Oh no? You don’t tap your foot, or bob your head to your music? Humans have been dancing for millennia, it’s in our DNA. It’s cool if it’s not your favorite thing, but unilaterally ruling it out is wild.
I got made fun of for my dancing by a pretty girl in middle school, made me keep away from the dance floor for years, and I didn’t know what I was missing out on.
You don’t tap your foot, or bob your head to your music?
No, if it’s high energy music it can get my adrenaline up but that doesn’t do anything for dancing or maybe it would be more accurate to say dancing doesn’t help with that. It’s more of a flight of fight response. I’ve tried forcing myself to dance before but it does nothing for me. I just feel like an idiot.
I felt like an idiot for a long time when I didn’t know what I was doing. Still do, sometimes, esp if I’m fully sober (social anxiety yay). And in the beginning it wasn’t enjoyable, either, I wasn’t doing it initially to have fun, but was tired of standing on the wall or at the bar every time I went to a place or event with expected dancing (and there are LOTS of these, particularly in your 20s). It was surprising when I found myself enjoying it, now it’s surprising when I don’t.
I mean, it sounds like you tried and that’s all I’m really saying is to try. Also not necessarily referring to dancing as an actual dance floor despite the post, some of my favorite “dancing” has just been head banging with my buddies. There’s also added pressure to an actual dance floor that I’m not trying to hand waive away.
dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace
This is exactly it. I used to hate dancing because I felt that I couldn’t dance and everyone would look at me and laugh. It took a bit to realize that literally no one who is dancing is judging the other people around them. They’re just out there moving around and having a good time. You can literally walk on to a dance floor and just vaguely move around a bit bouncing your head, and you’ll fit right in.
dancing is for everyone, just gotta find the right headspace (and the right music, it’s still hard for anyone to dance to music they don’t enjoy imo).
I disagree. If it implies forcing one self and a lot of work, it definitely isn’t for everyone. On top of that, some people (me) just refuse to dance, because I find it stupid and not even funny.
Yes, I have stepped many many times out of my comfort zone. Thank you for you concern. However, I consider dancing such a stupid, meaningless thing that even my stupidest part plainly refuse to even think of learning it. It’s not like it is a useful skill anyway.
I have a hard time believing this mostly because of your attitude towards it. Is it stupid and that’s why you don’t like it? Or you don’t like it, and therefore it must be stupid? Seems like the latter. I’d also disagree that it’s not a useful skill, like any soft or social skill it has its place and it can be surprisingly useful in certain circumstances. For instance, is it useful to be able to impress your preferred gender of person? Or to make them laugh? Dancing can definitely help with that.
When I was younger I thought golf was a useless “dumb” sport, I’m now kicking myself for not picking it up a decade ago because it’s extremely useful for networking and building/maintaining relationships.
is it useful to be able to impress your preferred gender of person
I don’t need to “impress” anybody. And if someone would try to “impress” me by dancing, lol, good luck with that. And frankly I prefer to avoid people that love dancing. So I don’t need (not even want) to maintain these kind of relationships.
Let’s stop here. I’m not going to change my mind on this topic. Ever.
You can claim that, you may even believe it, but that’s all the first steps of dating someone really are. Maybe you don’t do it with dancing, maybe you dazzle them with your vast intellect, but it’s the same thing.
Feel free to stop whenever you’d like lol no one is going to force you to dance like no one is going to force you to reply 😉
I mean, I do think it goes along with indulging in something, bit of booze and weed, or stronger on occasion depending on the kind of party. I can do some dancing sober but it loses it’s appeal much faster.
I do know people that love dancing sober as a bird, I just don’t think that’s gonna be everybody, or even most people. It’s like any social event, a lot of people are gonna want at least one or two drinks to let the walls come down a bit.
Lot of people though that flat out won’t put themselves out there and I think that stinks for them, you never know what can come from getting outside of your comfort zone. For me, I never would’ve gotten together with my wife if I wasn’t willing to dance, and a few years before we met I was on the “I hate dancing” train for a while, so I know where some of that comes from.
This makes me feel disappointed. I still remember when I discovered twitch years ago an thought “a whole site for livestreams of people playing videogames? That is so cool!”. Nothing lasts forever I guess …
Unless it was just urban legend, VHS supposedly won out over Betamax because there was more porn available. It was the first “killer app” and helped make early rental stores profitable.
And similar things happened with all forms of the internet: Gopher, BBS (though maybe less so, it was before my time and so bandwidth limited), Hotline, the original cam girls and blogs.
It’s just porn, all the way down. That’s why it’s called the oldest profession.
Unless it was just urban legend, VHS supposedly won out over Betamax because there was more porn available. It was the first “killer app” and helped make early rental stores profitable.
That was just urban legend I’m pretty sure. The reason it was able to be made profitable by video rental stores, I believe, is because JVC was more willing to license out their technology than Sony, so it was cheaper and more available to the average consumer. VHS also came out with more/had more recording styles more faster, and was more willing to degrade the integrity of their system, and degrade video quality, compared to Sony.
I forget if this was the case to begin with, or if this was a retroactive codec/recording style, but you could watch a full home theater VHS copy of a movie with one VHS tape, compared to the two betamax tapes you would need. That contributes, on top of not being a more proprietary technology, to a cheaper overall price. You could also, at a certain point, record multiple hours of a basketball game, in really shitty quality, if you wanted.
Basically, VHS benefited from a sort of economy of scale, and you were able to record more for less money total, which was rapidly becoming more appealing and more relevant, compared to the marginal quality gains of betamax, as things like VCRs and more accessible home movies started to hit the home video market.
I think the only major hits betamax ended up having was sort of filling out a gap in more mid-quality video recordings for stuff like TV shows, on the production end, because they were of higher quality than VHS, but I don’t remember much about that.
The result of VHS’s open system still enabled porn to show up on it sooner. And that helped more dudes want to drop $1-2k on a VCR.
Beta_cam_ did live on as a TV video format, I used one in high school and our local cable access still ran on betacam S in the late 90s.
It was the same sized tape as Betamax, but ran at a much higher speed for better quality (more info per inch of tape), they even switched to digital at some point, but I’d move on to MiniDV in college by then.
Reddit allows people as young as 13 to sign up. It is also one of the biggest sites for OF marketing on the Internet, and the site itself is probably at least 20-30% porn depending on how you measure it. This isn’t even some hypothetical thing, you can go see people with 5 year old reddit accounts making posts like “now that I’m 18 I can finally show you my butthole.”
To be clear here my crusade is not against porn on Reddit, it’s against children on Reddit, and not because I care about guarding their virtue or anything, but originally because I thought reddit was better before it got infested with teenagers, and now because I want to see the site burn, so this seems like a good string to pull.
For me it’s nice to have someone playing the same game as I am while I’m playing, the streams are usually long so I don’t need to worry about stopping to find something new to put on and I learn stuff about the game I might have missed or just never knew. I live alone so, depending on the streamer, the conversation is also nice to have around.
I can’t say I’m one of those that only watches a stream though, I need to be doing something other than just watching lol
I practice too, but I still find it helpful to watch chess streamers talk through their thought process in the moment rather than reading/watching a structured lesson.
Unstructured practice is only one form of skill enhancement. Alone it is not usually an effective tool. That’s why coaches, books, training regiments exist for all sorts of things from sports to chess to games
You know how people watch videos of master carpenters or cobblers or whatever the fuck do their jobs expertly? This is like that but with videogames instead of building shit.
Alternatively, you know how people watch dumbasses with endearing personalities do whatever the fuck? This is like that. Exactly like that.
Most blacksmithing videos I’ve seen aren’t as funny as the gaming videos. Besides even though I find it interesting, I think watching a sword getting made live would be boring as fuck compared to the action and pithy banter of many streamers.
Edit: I mean, there’s a whole industry around watching other people game. I find most sports boring, but I’d just be wrong to critique it like you’re doing right now.
I listen to podcasts while doing carpentry and watch streamers or YouTubers while coding or using CAD it’s a great way of holding focus and taking away the urge to rush. Bikini hulahoop streamers are just as good side noise as gamers, nothing important so you don’t get distracted but interesting enough to stop boredom.
Games can be competitive. Or maybe you are having difficulty in a certain game and want to learn strategies to get better at it, even if it isn’t a competitive game.
I can’t do it, either. The only way it’s tolerable is if I’m sitting next to them and can occasionally grab the controller (husband and I get through 1 player games this way, currently playing The Sinking City)
Personally, I enjoy watching people who are better than me play a game. One of my favorites is Insym, dude is just incredible at figuring out the mechanics behind gameplay and screwing around with the game engine. It’s really interesting to watch him figure stuff out and test his theories in real time.
On the opposite end of the scale it can also be hilarious to watch someone like Jerma walk around talking about food while ignoring the most obvious things in the game. It’s like a mobile ad that makes you want to play the game just to do it right.
There’s plenty of trash content on twitch but there are definitely creators that make watching them play a lot more about their personality than the game itself.
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