It’s way better in some ways - especially if you find a good career in a field you’re passionate about.
But some of the responsibilities of adulthood are a burden that is hard to appreciate until you’re there. And the perspective gained by life experience is also very different, for better or worse.
For instance, I went through a breakup last year at 39 with someone I was fully expecting to marry. It was my first major relationship failure in decades, and as I was being dumped I expected it to crush me.
What ended up hurting the most was that it didn’t hurt that much. I didn’t spiral into depression or fall apart at work. I wasn’t happy about it, but I was fine. A younger me would have been overwhelmed by the emotional toll, but the adult me was able to keep moving forward without breaking stride.
And in a way that’s what hurts. The passion of youth has been tempered by a lifetime of experience that puts everything into perspective.
Our Chihuahua that’s abnormally strong strong from steroids because of her Addison’s disease has trouble getting out from under a weighted blanket.
Yeah, they can be loud assholes and they can break skin when they bite, but they can’t take a squirrel in a fight. They’re far from a life-threatening danger to armored kill teams.
College was a fucking mess. It took me 14 years on and off to graduate and wrecked my finances.
But I fucking finished it.
Then I had trouble getting a job in my field and I worked retail for years and it sucked. But I eventually got a job at the front desk of the permit office at the city, and everything started coming together. Within 6 months I got a major promotion. A year later another, smaller city approached me, etc.
I am now making good money in a field I love. My coworkers are great, people respect me, and life is getting better all the time.
Because while I may have stalled several times, I never fucking quit.
Just this morning I was an hour late. I spend most of my weekends helping my parents a few hours away, so have a 4am alarm set for Monday mornings to get up, shower, and head to work.
Because of the Holiday, my first day of work this week was a Tuesday, so my 4am alarm didn’t go off and I got up at 5.
I got up, showered, sent a text to the team that I’d screwed up, and went to work.
Yeah, I could’ve driven 100mph on country roads and blown through a few red lights in the middle of nowhere near my parents’ place. But I also could’ve died trying that shit. Instead I just drove normal, got to work late, and it wasn’t a big deal.
I get that not everyone works in an environment where getting in late isn’t a big deal. But a lot more people do than realize it. Most workplaces can be flexible, and will be when it matters. If they’re assholes about it when they don’t need to be - look for somewhere better.
I think a big part of the mental blocked on both sides is people generally not understanding the difference between fact and faith.
Knowledge is about fact. It’s the realm of science, empiricism, and logic. If it can be understood and known, it belongs here.
Faith is about the unknowable (not the unknown). It’s a choice to believe something without evidence because that evidence cannot exist.
You can’t both believe something and know it.
Understanding that faith and science don’t intersect allows people to hold spiritual beliefs without rejecting knowledge and science. They don’t conflict because they’re entirely separate.
Some people aren’t wired with the mental flexibility to embrace both spiritually and empiricism. Some reject science, while others reject faith, and neither understand the other.
Taxes are astronomical because prices are inflated because of buy-to-rent.
Taxes on single-family residential properties should be like 50% of land value annually for third-homes and up or homes owned by non-human entities. Make it so fucking expensive to own extra houses that they get unloaded cheap to people who will actually live in them, and at the same time reduce the taxable value of the land because it’s selling cheap.
Is it that Linux is getting popular, or that most people don’t buy new computers anymore now that their phone does everything they used it for, so it’s only the enthusiasts still buying?
Somewhere on a remote mountainside in Colorado’s Rockies, a latch flipped on a crate and a wolf bounded out, heading toward the tree line. Then it stopped short....
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