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OhYeahThat, in OP asks legaladvice for help on escaping her physically abusive husband. He is a cop.

My favorite updates are the getting out of an abusive life safely. People underestimate just how hard that is to do

GunnarRunnar, in I am leaving my wife tomorrow and I couldn’t be happier

Too one sided and perfect. Pretty good way to kill a few minutes reading though. If I were on Reddit, I'd make my way r/amitheangel to see what's the opinion there.

Little8Lost, in I’m considering leaving my wife because of her weight

that is a very nice read and i dislike all the jerks who belived that he did not love her. And yes, it sometimes needs a harsh wake up call to be better in staying alive

seacocker, in I am leaving my wife tomorrow and I couldn’t be happier
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ASking out someone the day after leaving a long term relationship doesn’t seem like the best decision and makes me think he might actually be the douche bag here.

Buddahriffic,

I mean, it sounds like he’s been done with the relationship for a long time. The official breakup might have been recent but the feelings sound long gone. As long as the other person is aware of the situation and is ok with it, I don’t see a problem. Though both of them should be aware that it might not work out, but really that’s every relationship.

Saneless,

As someone who was in a 10 year marriage that was shit the last years of it

You’ve been emotionally broken up for years. It’s clear once you’re out. It might be hard to understand unless you’ve been there, but it’s absolutely true. You realize you haven’t been in a relationship in a very long time, so it’s not “the day after” it’s a few years and a day after

spacedancer, in My gf was raped and became pregnant. I broke up with her because she wanted to keep the baby + Updates

Lmfao at the last sentence.

WhoRoger, in Company throws a corporate retreat at a plantation in southern Alabama with a period-appropriate costume ball, only black guy that works for the company shows up dressed as a slave.
@WhoRoger@lemmy.world avatar

That’s such a weird thing. I guess the equivalent would be if a company in Europe would want to run a WWII-theme party.

On one hand, it’s dumb in the cultural/sensitivity sense, on the other hand it would be cool if we could leave the past be. Nobody seems to have an issue with throwing a party with the theme of Napoleonic era, or the Victorian era, or WWI, or the French revolution or whatnot.

I wonder what’s needed for these things to also pass into history as “so yep, that’s what happened. Anyway check out these sick uniforms”.

EhList,
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The thing is the other events still don’t hold the sense of evil the Confederacy holds. The CSA was an evil cause with the goal of perpetuating chattel slavery and white supremacy.

Im not sure Europe could have an equivalent unless it was celebrating colonial abusiveness somehow? Maybe the Belgians could do a Congo themed party celebrating their crimes there? Short of doing a Nazi Party themed event I don’t believe Europe has anything comparable.

JBloodthorn,
@JBloodthorn@kbin.social avatar

We dress up as pirates now, so probably about that same amount of time.

flipht,

The difference between Napoleonic, victorian, etc. eras vs. slavery and/or WW2 is that we have a subsection of the population that has been very clear that they see themselves as the spiritual successors to the slaveholders AND the Nazis, and that given a chance they will try to re-enact those policies.

People can have fun with historical periods that don't have direct current events tie-ins, but when normal people are confronted with weird fascist dog whistles, it gets very uncomfortable very quickly.

WhoRoger,
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We also have literal pirates in the seas, and that doesn’t stop us from playing pirates. We have wars, and that isn’t stopping us from playing soldiers.

We shouldn’t let a bunch of morons spoil everything.

FabioTheNewOrder,

And yet those who call for the actual re-enactment of those filthy activities are (rightfully) shunned and mocked by the same people around them.

A thing is a child playing pirate or soldier, another thing is an adult partaking a themed party showing up dressed as a literal slave owner. If you cannot tell the difference between these two situations I’d advise you to show up dressed as Hitler at the next jewish-themed party you might be invited to. Maybe you’ll learn a valuable lesson.

WhoRoger,
@WhoRoger@lemmy.world avatar

That’s kind of a shitty thing to advise, don’t you think? This is why we can’t never discuss anything.

FabioTheNewOrder,

Well, if you can recognise my advice as a shitty one you should also be able to understand how your reasoning was shit-tier as well.

Bring shit to the table, eat shit at the table.

Next time you’d like to have a constructive conversation try bringing something edible as a guest to the discussion

WhoRoger,
@WhoRoger@lemmy.world avatar

Sigh

FabioTheNewOrder,

Don’t cry, if you are clever enough you could use this exchange as a lesson to learn something to help you with your future discussions.

Piecemakers3Dprints,
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You. I like you.

Zoidsberg,
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You can tell Lemmy has fully replaced R*ddit because we’re already having Hitler arguments

adam_y, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it
@adam_y@lemmy.world avatar

Sure does say “buuut” a lot.

mayonaise_met,

She’s a fan of French soccer

Zagorath,
@Zagorath@aussie.zone avatar

Expliquez s’il vous plait ?

UdeRecife,
@UdeRecife@literature.cafe avatar

But (sound: boo) is how you celebrate a soccer goal in French.

stuck_in_the_shell, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE

What an absolute fool, the OOP dodged a bullet and this man child will be having a lifetime of regret.

On another note glad to see a community like this on here, this was one of the few subs that I still found interesting to read instead of the flood of low quality reposts and bot posts on reddit’s front page.

zikk_transport2, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

The guy would feel like home in Afganistan with other Taliban 😅

Seriously, old story, but still interesting to read.

dakku, in OOP's boyfriend won't stop telling her that she smells bad

What the fuck

vivavideri, in My (30M) fiance (38F) is angry that I got my daughter 5 pairs of running shoes

You know what, any time somebody starts trying to drop “IT’S THE JOB OF [insert gender here] TO DO _____,” my eyes glaze over. Like real hard.

angrystego, in OOP learns a hard lesson about herself

Do people call unrelated children that they’re fond of a nephew/niece, just like in some families children call friendly adults uncle/aunt?

SharkEatingBreakfast,
@SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz avatar

You don’t need to be blood-related to consider someone family.

I grew up with a babysitter who I now call an aunt. She grew up with my family and we became involved in each other’s lives, to the point where our closeness and love for each other makes us a family.

It can be cultural, too.

cabbagee,

Same for me. Very few of my aunts and uncles are by blood. I didn’t think twice about it growing up. My close friends and I have the same relationship. Love isn’t a finite resource and chosen family is an extension of that.

angrystego,

So what about the niece/nephew terminology - is it used in your case?

cabbagee,

Yup. Same as blood relatives.

angrystego,

Yeah, it’s the same in my bubble, friends of parents are often called aunts/unckes. But for some reason I’ve never heard any of them call their friends’ children nephews/nieces.

Vodik_VDK,

A long time ago a roommate of mine had a baby, and as he came of age all of our friends took it upon themselves to make their introductions as Uncle This or Aunt That. I remembered how confusing that was for me as a kid, so when Mom eventually spoke up on the matter I offered her Frunkle and Fraunt as an alternative title.

I don’t talk to her anymore but I do sometimes wonder if she’s still using that word.

Raisin8659,
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Yeah, could be cultural. There’s a Buddhist teaching that you should treat your good friend’s kids like your own.

angrystego,

I understand that. I’m more interested in the terminology in the adult->child direction.

SCB,

Yes. My dad’s friends were also my uncles (and I have 8 actual uncles so it’s not like we were short on uncles), and I am an uncle to all my close friends’ kids

angrystego,

Yeah, but do they call you their nephew/niece?

SCB,

Some do! I certainly say that.

Knusper, in My Wife has scammed multiple people, and lied to me about it

I especially don’t understand why she did this. If finances were actually that dire, then surely OOP would have know about it and mentioned it. With OOP working out of state, you’d also hope that this job is worth the time…

deconstruct,

I don’t get it either. Guessing it’s a small thrill from scamming people or she needs money for drugs.

BURN,

The worst petty shoplifters are upper-middle class teenagers (generally girls)

It’s not out of need. It’s out of a sense of entitlement that they can get out of any consequences.

Pieisawesome,

It’s not a sense of entitlement. It’s the adrenaline rush of stealing

FlyingSquid, in My boyfriend doesn't want to marry me because I'm an immigrant + UPDATE
@FlyingSquid@lemmy.world avatar

That is so fucking stupid. My wife earns far more than me. That’s fine. She’s also smarter and more educated than me. I’m just happy to contribute to the family.

Honestlyrainygarden, in Working within Lemmy’s limits
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If it’s a post from reddit you’d like to bring over, screen shots work. Otherwise, I’m not sure. 😭 I miss BORU the most. lol I was addicted to it.

Barack_Ollama,

Screenshots unfortunately aren’t super accessible for screen readers :(

It was suggested to me in another thread to use something like Pastebin to share large amounts of text, but when I tried, it wasn’t formatted :( I’m also looking at possibly using Github pages, which will apply the correct formatting, but I’m thinking users are unlikely to click thru to 3rd party webpages anyway

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