I’m a trans woman. Before I transitioned, the grand total number of compliments I ever received was a big fat 0. Now I receive at least one compliment from strangers every week.
Also a trans woman, same experience. Somehow getting compliments all the time has been one of the hardest parts to adjust to. Dunno how to respond to them, and can’t distinguish which ones are creepy because they all feel good after so long of getting none.
I started wearing a flat cap around mid to late 2019
I’d been looking for a decent one for years and finally found one, so I wore it everywhere (still do)
The amount of dudes complimenting me, asking where I got it, etc. is wild. I think im Up to over 10 comments, which is insane for someone who’s never gotten any in public before
I wish I could wear something like that, but it’d make me feel pretentious. Not that I think people wearing them look or come off as pretentious, but for me it’d feel that way. I couldn’t pull it off anyway since my daily attire is a hoodie and jeans/joggers.
Growing up with that sort of stupid toxic masculinity no matter how dumb you realize it is… is just hard. Every fiber of your being screams to tell you no, don’t stand out, suck it up, what are you some kinda of douche?
There are so many styles, patterns, and colors of caps under the very wide term of flat cap. I think the pretentious feeling is silly, and probably geographical. I have baseball hats, beanies, newsboys, whatever. It doesn’t have to be your thing, just a thing you have.
She was the sister of a friend who worked at a coffee shop I frequented. It’s not like she saw me covered in filth and randomly went out of her way, lol
Not who you're responding to, but I'll admit my mental image was something like Cricket in the later seasons of It's Always Sunny. I'm not proud of it, but I do appreciate the clarification.
Once I was walking out of a Target. I passed by a woman and her maybe 6 or 7 year year old kid just in time to hear the kid say “mommy that guy creeps me out”.
Thanks to three concussions before age 5… and my entire 20’s being spent in a drug haze… my memory is pretty shot. But I remember that encounter as clear as day.
I’m sure I’ve received a few honest to goodness unsolicited compliments, but they don’t stick in my mind as much as the derision.
They’re not “muscle hunks”, but half of the people in this picture are definitely much above average in muscle mass.
There are no opinions/personal experience necessary here. Research has quite clearly shown that a decent amount of muscle, more than average, but not by a lot, not an outrageous “muscle hunk” amount, is the most attractive sexually.
Of course this doesn’t hold true for all women, tastes differ. And as well, muscle is not the most important thing in male attractiveness. Male attractiveness is a mix of very many things.
Using “also” in your statement makes it an addendum, not agreement. Your phrasing implies the original comment was incomplete, which is not typically how you would phrase it if you were agreeing with a statement the commenter made. Your comment came off more like “or you could just do this!”
Yeah most of those guys are fit as fuck (except jack black, sorry buddy). This post is talking about people trying to get like Arnold Schwarzenegger but to get a body like any of these guys requires serious gym time.
IDK, i feel they’re also missing the point that a lot of these guys are attractive as well and have the personalities for their characters written for them by various people (others have already mentioned that these men are generally all physically healthy, so I won’t expand on that). If I could have an attractive face, and have my personality written by a couple of writers AND have girls read or watch that play out, I bet I or anybody in that scenario would get a bunch of girls. Ultimately, I also feel men working out is one of the simpler ways to appear more attractive, next to dressing well. Being funny or in general, having a very attractive personality is harder to develop when you compare it to working out and dressing well. Of course, dressing well and having a healthy body doesn’t mean you will be attractive to all women, but it betters your chances.
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