Most of the cases I can think of where that is overused, the entity stating it is indeed intended to be the impersonation of one single aspect of an identity. And indeed not particularly creative due to not having access to any other facet of personality. “Foolish” often comes across as a projection. The entity can’t fathom the thought process leading the mortal to their conclusions, and since not being able to figure out what someone is thinking could have two distinct causes… they go with the one that would imply they are superior, rather than inferior.
I once did one of those quizzes that figures out where your American accent is from and I got mostly LA and midwest. Makes sense since I learned from watching TV shows.
There’s many regional differences in American English.
First, pronunciation is always changing, and changes tend to happen regionally.
For example, there’s the Mary-merry-marry merger. A bit over half of American speakers pronounce all three of those words identically, as mɛri. About 17% of Americans have a full three-way contrast. In NYC, for example, they’d say meɹi, mæɹi, and mɛɹi. And other people merged two of the three.
The pen-pin merger is a famous feature of southern American dialects.
Some words have regional pronunciations - crayon can have one or two syllables, for example.
And then there’s regional words, like pop vs soda, bucket vs pail, firefly vs lightning bug, you vs y’all vs yinz vs youse vs you lot vs you all vs you guys etc.
By asking about all of those sorts of things, you can figure out where someone’s from.
Dialect tests. Think about how someone from boston might say “park” like “pahk” vs other parts of the country, or if someone uses “y’all” where they might be from. The way people pronounce o,a, ai, ough, augh type of sounds is very telling. Also phrases are very regional. There are many studies that compile that data. One famous dataset is used in a Times article that is behind a paywall, here are some people talking about it: peabodyawards.com/nytimesdialectquiz/
People that do it, usually do it because they themselves being compared to others (by their own or by others), so they don’t know another way.
If it works for you, go ahead, but if it won’t, remember you can do it your way, even though it might be different than others.
In my opinion, having a job is not something that is done because others do it, but it’s done because you want to do it. But if you don’t want to do it, change to something you’d want to do.
“Doing things” is part of the human core, so you have it in your core, regardless of others. “Job” is just getting paid for “Doing things”.
Don’t let others dictate how your life will go. I was actually going through a communications training on LinkedIn learning for work yesterday, and the instructor says something very interesting. When it comes to feedback, you have to know whose feedback you care about. She suggested you take criticism from only two people/groups:
Your boss
Anyone you ask for feedback
In other words, fuck unsolicited feedback (ironically, like this comment!). When it comes to being competitive in the job market, you do need to know somewhat how you “measure up”, but that isn’t an accurate valuation of you, as a person.
Edit: (sorry, had to leave mid thought)
I want to use an analogy from Destiny 2 here. Our clan does a lot of raids, and I’ve gotten a handful of raid seals. The clan has grown a lot, so we’ve regularly been taking people on their first runs. They’re complete blueberries, but they’re usually really eager to learn. When we look at damage numbers at a boss, we don’t make a big deal out of people having low damage. Maybe they had just a million compared to my 4 million, but it’s still significant – and with how often I whiff shots and supers, I’m sometimes right there by them.
We never require someone to play a particular class, and we’ll offer recommendations on element but we won’t force them. They could be blasting with Arc Titan thundercrash without cuirass, while there’s a cracked damage combo going on for Solar Titan, and we don’t care. So long as people are enjoying themselves. The more experienced of us will cover for any deficiencies. It’d be embarrassing if we couldn’t do that.
What does any of this have to do with jobs and comparing yourself to others? There are some job requirements that are inescapable, like how you need Lightfall to do Root of Nightmares, and a certain minimum light level. But as long as those are met, you don’t need to worry about how your resume (or boss damage) compares to others. You just play to your strengths and do your best to contribute. Odds are, what you bring to the table is still uniquely helpful in some way, just like how a Solar Warlock might bring Well. The Warlock’s damage is going to pale against that Arc Hunter with Stareaters, but the Warlock’s healing through Well is immensely helpful for the team.
It’s like that with jobs too. Say you don’t have a lot of technical knowledge, and you’re applying for a technical job – if you’ve got a lot of experience out working in the field, and the job group has a lot of implementation issues, you’re going to bring an incredibly helpful perspective and knowledge.
Hopefully something in that stream of consciousness resonated with you. Walk in the Light, my fellow guardian.
I appreciate the work you put into this, and I’ve been trying to think of how to respond. I guess my experience has just been different. I went to university and graduated with a BSc right into COVID. I had decent grades and my degree was from a well-known university. I applied to jobs regularly.
I wasn’t able to get a job for a year. After I started, no one wanted to give me any help. They just expected me to learn everything on my own. I couldn’t even get clarification on what they wanted me to do most of the time. The company tried to pressure me into working unpaid, undocumented overtime to make up for this. After not even a year, they terminated my contract. It took me another year to get a second job, and my contract was terminated after three weeks with no reason given.
I always worked hard in school and that was enough for me to get by. However, it feels like, in the real world, you have to constantly be comparing yourself to others or you will fail. You cannot succeed if you concentrate purely on yourself and what you’re doing, because your boss, or your hiring manager, is always going to be comparing you to your peers. If you are so inclined, you can start your own business, make your own product, or whatever. If you do this, there is little to no safety net if you fail though. Society runs on comparing you to everyone else and it sucks.
I guess where the D2 comparison falls apart is that it took me 4 years and over $20,000 to get an undergrad degree that, theoretically, gives me the knowledge and skills to perform a job. I started playing D2 in March of this year and I’m already at pinnacle cap on every class, with a fully masterworked loadout for every subclass. It’s really hard to pivot in the real world.
The timing you’ve had is really rough, and it looks like you’ve had really shitty employees.
Maybe it’s better to say that you might need to compare yourself, but you shouldn’t take it as an accurate evaluation of you as a person. A lot of things post college are really up to chance – who reads your resume, what role you get, what your supervisor is like, who you meet. I got my current job by reaching out to a former coworker from my last job, and I happened to have the right timing.
It’s shitty, but it just comes down to persistence. There’s nothing wrong with you at all. Don’t take any of it as a personal indictment
Some of them do it because it’s been bullied into them. My daughter, who used to be very independent (and still is in some ways thankfully), had to be taken out of her middle school because of the bullying and she is constantly asking if it’s weird that she does this or that and I have to keep reassuring her that it doesn’t matter if it’s weird as long as it makes her happy and even though kids will treat her like shit now, when she’s an adult, most people won’t care. The only people who will care are the ones who never grew up.
But yeah, she’s become someone who compares herself to others. Because she’s scared about what they will do to her because she’s different.
She’s actually starting to dress how she wants to dress again instead of trying to look neutral. It’s terrific.
And in the current condition of streaming video, it's a service problem AND a pricing problem. If there was a single service that had nearly every title available, that service could maybe be worth 30-40 ish a month. But instead now if you want access to all titles you have to subscribe to a ton of separate services, never know where to find what you're looking for, and would have to pay around a hundred bucks a month. So instead i pirate, where the cost is zero dollars a month and everything is always located in the same place.
I'm in favor of being able to pay to access a library containing 99% of titles in existence, even though i don't "own" permanent access to them. If i had to pay a higher price to "own" each individual title then i would have access to VASTLY less media. But for that monthly payment it must offer access to 99% of titles in existence, and the price must be reasonable for the amount of entertainment value i actually derive from it. Spotify is a perfect example of a 99% complete library at a reasonable price. And yeah as you point out, the service must be available on all devices, like Spotify is.
A bit worse due to his position and that he's not really in office as much as there for life.
But yeah they're basically all the same evil rich fucks. The real ruling class. They all went to the same schools and are in the same country clubs. They all get their coke from the same guy and fuck the same kids. I suspect Justice Thomas will taste especially good when the time comes.
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