I’m nowhere near Bill Gates money and never will be.
I think amongst my circle of family and friends, I probably net 3-4x more than the highest earner I know. For the most part, I can buy myself whatever gadgets or books or food or things I typically want.
But…I don’t, well, I don’t always.
In fact, oftentimes I find myself putting off buying Book A or B because I just don’t feel like it’s a good use of money right now.
Sometimes I won’t even buy myself new socks until all of mine have been worn down to absolute tatters. I own two pairs of jeans and one pair of shoes and they’re going to go until they completely fall apart.
Other times, I want this new game and I don’t buy it because I can’t really justify it for how much time I might end up having for it.
But if anyone I know gets me any of the above or similar, I’d honestly be super happy. It removes that mental battle for me and I get something I actually want / need.
In my defense, at least in 2023, I’ve spent more money on donations, paying other people’s medical premiums, holiday and birthday gifts for others, and vet bills than anything directly for myself 🫣
It’s not that, I can be the same way. I don’t feel I need or have the time for a lot of things. I help charities and do reduced rate work for non profits all the time. Ask me to buy myself sushi, and I’ll consider if I really need O Toro tonight.
Just introduce them as your partner. Lesbians are so habitually entrenched in hiding their sexuality.
I have so many pairs of “friends” come in appliance shopping. Gay men come in, it’s “This is my husband Mike”. Gay women come in and it’s like “This is my friend Paula. She helps me pick out appliances and definitely doesn’t live with me”.
I don’t pry, because I’m just selling appliances. But it’s pretty obvious.
With our puppies we say “OW” very dramatically, hold the limb that was nipped like it is wounded, and stop play for 5-10 minutes and return. Works like a charm
The vast majority of mobile games are not designed to be good games. They are designed to be addictive vehicles for advertising and micro transactions.
I believe the responsible parties are: Lorn, less.people, The Kilimanjaro Darkjazz Ensemble, Death in Vegas, Shlohmo, Ramin Djawadi, and Gustavo Santaolalla.
I’m the exact opposite with sweet potatoes. I always forget that I don’t like them. I want to like them so badly, I mean come on, bright orange mashed potatoes! But Everytime I try to eat one I just can’t finish it. It’s weird .
Same here. I think they’re just too sweet for me, somehow? Which is odd, because I’ll eat things like acorn squash which get kinda sweet when cooked. ::shrug::
Green olives. None of my cooking use them as an ingredient, so once in a blue moon I remember that I like them, so I eat an entire jar with a toothpick.
I may have, I don’t know enough about olives to tell. I usually just buy the biggest jar of castrated green olives that I can find here in scandinavialand.
I make sure I always have an unopened jar. As soon as I open it, I put another jar on the shopping list. Check out some Puerto Rican dishes. Arroz con Gandules, etc. Great use of green olives in those.
To add to this: cinnamon toast. Butter some bread, smear cinnamon sugar on it and microwave for thirty seconds. With bread goes down easy, and cinnamon toast is definitely the best way I came up with to get some carbs.
My issue was with my swallowing. So actual toast was too crunchy to reliably get down. When the butter melted in the microwave, it sort of “set” into the bread. So it was super soggy and easily “dissolved” in my throat. So I personally couldn’t really eat “solid” foods. Microwaved cinnamon toast was the best way I found to get carbs.
Yeah, I tried it toasted. I dealt with this for over two months. I tried just about everything. I know everyone is coming from a good place with these suggestions. I’m trying not to come across unpleasant, but it feels like it has the same energy as asking a depressed person if they’d tried being happy before.
I promise, I tried it. I put effort into putting food into my body that wouldn’t get caught in my throat and make me feel like I was going to choke and die. At one point I had 7 appointments with 6 different doctors in a two and a half week span. I really genuinely put effort into finding something I could eat. Soylent and mashed potatoes and soggy bread got me through it. I got sick of people telling me how much weight I’d lost like I didn’t own a mirror. I got sick of people telling me I’m just not cooking things right.
I went through something I think is similar to op, and I offered my suggestions. I’m not saying this is what op or anyone needs to do.
I’m just saying this is what helped me when I couldn’t eat, give it a shot if you want.
I am trying to understand, why are they saying toast when it’s not toasted? If it’s crispy enough to be called toast, turn it down some more.
I’ve never had a toaster that couldn’t put out warm not crispy bread. So yeah it’s confusing that someone would need to use a microwave for what a toaster is designed for.
I feel its almost like you all shoukld just stop presenting your OS bona fides unless its 1) solicited explicitly + 2) its explicitly relevant to the conversation even if 1) is not fulfilled
Because people tie their egos to their opinions and beliefs. They see an attack on those as an attack on their person.
We are all like this to certain extents. For example, I am a firm believer of the right of the individual to make their own choices, and believe that attempts to remove a person's right to make choices morally abhorrent.
It’s a basic psychological need to be able to trust that your brain can be right. A lot of psychological problems can result if you don’t trust your own brain to be able to solve problems and cope with new information.
Some people don’t learn the value of accepting mistakes/failure as part of learning. As a result, they will associate being wrong with weakening the trust they have in their brain. They don’t want to believe that their brain may not come up with answers for the problems and changes they face in life. So they will deny that their brain is incorrect.
It’s an ugly insecurity, but it’s totally understandable from an evolutionary perspective. We need to be able to trust our brains to navigate life’s challenges. People need to be taught that it’s okay to make mistakes, and that admitting when you are wrong is an opportunity for personal growth.
Can you elaborate on what you mean psych problems when you don't trust your brain?
I have memory issues and so when I'm doing something more complex than muscle memory I write it down. So I don't trust myself on specific memory tasks, like phone numbers.
I’m not a psychologist, so I can’t explain the exact theory, but basically my understanding is that self-confidence and self-esteem are linked to the concept of self-efficacy, which means the trust that your mind will be able to cope with the challenges presented to it. Low self-esteem and self-confidence are linked to all kinds of insecurities and challenges functioning.
Disclaimer: I recently began working on my own low self-confidence with my therapist and she pointed me to a book, the contents of which I’m mostly regurgitating here. The book is “The Six Pillars of Self-esteem” by Nathaniel Branden.
I work in the surgical pathology department in a hospital.
Anything you get removed from surgery comes to me to be examined. Then I describe what I have and what sort of pathology I can see with the naked eye. I select and cut out pieces of tissue that are important to the case. The tissue undergoes further processing and eventually reaches the desk of a pathologist (a type of physician) who examines the tissue microscopically, forms a diagnosis, and ultimately signs out the case.
My job can assist with several things depending on the case…
To help the clinician confirm or determine what type of lesion or disease process the patient has
To document and confirm that a surgery was necessary
To stage cancer cases
To determine whether or not a cancer or lesion has been completely removed from the patient and there is none left inside their body
To make sure the patient does not have an unsuspected cancer
I see everything from tiny boring specks of tissue they biopsy during a colonoscopy to large cancer resection cases.
The other day, I got an almost entirely necrotic above the knee amputation with maggots. A few days before that I got a 9 lb spleen. It’s fun in the lab.
In the US, my job generally requires a very specialized 2 year master’s degree (on top of a bachelor’s degree in any subject). In other countries, the role of my job can be fulfilled by different types of people depending on the country and education will be different.
I found out about the job on Google lol. I was looking for something hands on in healthcare or anatomy related, but I didn’t like patient contact. I would probably select this career again if I had a second go around. It pays pretty well and is interesting. But grad school in the US is very expensive.
Well, Mastodon has been around since 2016 IIRC which is nearly 8 years and it’s still growing and expanding. There’s no reason to suppose Lemmy will be any different.
A large part of the issue of sustainability is intent. Meta, Twitter, Microsoft, Google etc are profit driven. By that standard, no fediverse software is sustainable because for-profits only care about continual growth leading to continual profit.
Lemmy is open source. No one who develops it or hosts an instance really cares about it being financially profitable so there’s not that motivation. The motivation is more akin to doing something positive for people and at the same time, indulge in a hobby/interest they have. If the people who benefit from it (you and me, the users) recognise that benefit I would hope they donate to its development and the instance they’re on. This in turn enables the users who can’t afford to donate to still be able to participate in a system where profit is not King.
So sustainability in the fediverse really means ‘can I afford to keep doing something I enjoy doing?’ As long as they can, it’s sustainable.
Just to add to this, to my knowledge the Lemmy model does not prevent monetization. So, if you want to try to start an Instance and someday monetize it, you can try if you want.
You’ll be competing with all the other Instances still, but if yours is unique and offers great value, you could potentially turn this into a job.
I would have no issues if Ruud decided to quit his day job and admin LW full time, paying himself a reasonable, middle class salary from the server donations. So long as he remained transparent about it all like he has been so far.
Honestly, I actually hope this happens someday, because it would make a different kind of far more common monetization a tiny bit less likely. That’s just selling the Instance. It’s his, on his hardware, so if someone offered him 5 million for it, he could just sell it. But if he’s drawing a salary from it, and he loves it, he may not be so willing to sell out. He wouldn’t necessarily need the money, because we’d already be paying him directly.
I wouldn’t have an issue with this either - within reason. But I suspect making an instance a de facto business from which an admin draws a wage would raise so many issues about a whole raft of things it probably wouldn’t be worth it.
I actually hope that some dev work goes into providing "premium features" for paying subscribers. Things like profile cosmetics, awards, "superlikes", gif embeds, maybe sub only communities/threads. I view all of these as perfectly acceptable premium features that folks pay for on platforms like Discord that don't deter free users. If it helps make instances sustainable and keeps high quality admin & moderation in place, I would argue it would be a big community benefit.
Another possibility is instance - as - affiliate where the admin sets up affiliate accounts with services like VPN, Amazon, a web host, etc. To enable users to buy things they would already and give a kickback to the instance.
As an aside to what others have already pointed out about “braaaiiiiinss” originating in Return of the Living Dead, the zombies in that film also aren’t mindless. They can still think and feel, and they crave brains because it (somehow) eases the pain they feel from their bodies decaying.
It’s an element of zombie lore that I really wish was used more often because it makes becoming a zombie even more frightening. They’re also totally immortal beyond cremation, so no aiming for the head to put them out of their misery.
The first and third Return of the Living Dead movies are my favourite zombie films ever. The second is… fine. It’s basically a remake of the first focused more on comedy like Evil Dead 2, but it didn’t really work for me. The two latest movies throw out all of the unique elements of the series to become generic zombie movies and aren’t worth watching.
The sliced up dog returning to life was a messed up scene and also pushed the movie in the magic realm. This version of Zombies can never die, even after total bodily annihilation.
Not OP, but I get your comparison since Land of the dead goes into something similar with zombies remembering stuff. That being said (in case you didn’t knew) Land of the Dead is not a standalone movie, and is in fact from the original non-voodoo zombie movie universe. A lot of the criticism I see towards Land of the Dead comes from people who watched the movie in isolation and complain about it never explaining zombies and why they can do things, but that’s almost like watching Matrix 3 and complaining they never explained the Matrix.
If you like that concept it’s gradually built in the series, so other movies feature it in one way or another. The original Night of the Living Dead introduced the concept of zombies; The sequel Dawn of the Dead already painted a picture where zombies brains remember something, since it’s pointed out they go to the shopping mall and drag carts around because that’s what they did when living; Day of the Dead is entirely focused on a research project on zombie behaviour, with a scientist doing experiments to see how much zombies still remember; then finally you get to Land of the Dead.
Sorry I went out on a rant about it, but I love those movies, they’re not only great horror movies that defined an entire genre but also are very strong criticism to society and humans in general which I think a lot of other zombie movies miss entirely.
It was good but not my one of my favourites. The zombies are developing a form of intelligence and are empathetic to each other, but that’s used to contrast with the cruelty of the humans living in Fiddler’s Green. It makes the zombies sympathetic, but they aren’t in perpetual suffering like RotLD’s zombies. There’s just something really creepy to me about a mostly decayed corpse saying it can feel itself rot.
I think Land of the Dead is very similar to I Am Legend where the “monsters” form their own society, which is fitting because Romero based his zombies off of the creatures in The Last Man on Earth which was in turn based on I Am Legend.
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