K. I mean there are like three other seriously important things for my bare minimal survival that I’ve been procrastinating for weeks, but sure I’ll get right on that.
and,some. things in reulation to planning ahead, directives, wills and such death related documents (I guess this one may also then be relevant to /u/LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world ) : orderofthegooddeath.com/…/end-of-life-planning
Had to plan an unexpected funeral. They were going to be cremated but we wanted to have a service first. They have caskets, that are meant to be burnt, for the low price of $6,000. This was over 10 years ago too. I’m sure it’s much more now.
I have done some woodworking, and I’d have a difficult time providing a decent casket for $1149. These are obviously sourced from low labor cost areas.
I meant something that looked nice. The hardware, surface conditioning, and paint job is not a trivial expense, after the lumber is bought, cut, and assembled.
A cheap cheap version could be made out of furnace plenum duct metal. Or cardboard. Actually I’d prefer to be rolled up in a piece of old carpet torn out during remodeling.
I don’t know about that one, bit I know of a somewhat similar option. Yiu can. in so. e states, havarranhe to Hove your body wrapped in a… fabric shroud, amd laid into a … vat filled with organic material, usually woodchils and the like(wood hips are sometimes consodered a waste or a garbage product) , then after after a few weeks you ahve compost or soil basically, that can be used for land conseravtion ect.
I might add, to yiur point, that representatives of the Catholic church have repeatedly opposed this posted etah option from becoming avakabke, on the ground that get this they considerit to be undignified’, (granted, they’re just about the only ones who take thatbosition, one they know moanybof the detail and context, but it’s a substantial and influential organisation), and then random passerby who doesn’t know anything other about the process than a sensational news headline on might well condiser it undignified too, in the moment anyway.
And of course, you could consider it to be as if you had arranged for your foture corpse to be turned into literal dirt, dirt, and then what could be more gloriously u dignified than that.
… more on that subject at: orderofthegooddeath.com/…/green-death-technology/… and at www.recompose.life (I shiuld warn, neigher of these resources make the process sound or look larocularky undignified, but then these things are a matter of perspective after all, in some ways)
No joke y’all, plan shit like this now, not tomorrow, not next year. And I don’t care your age or health. If you die tonight, the funeral industry vultures will swoop on your grieving people and fuck them over.
Working on end-of-life stuff with my new wife (both of us 52), and she doesn’t like it, but it’s getting done. If I eat it tomorrow, she’ll be buying a casket, plot, headstone, whatever the hell she’s told to buy.
Get a will drawn up, get a Living Will signed and notarized. Hell, just look up “end of life documents” and get to work if you love the people you might be leaving.
And if you’re married, FFS get life insurance, preferably whole life. It’s hilariously cheap if you’re young, and I mean stupid cheap, like $10-20/mo. cheap for fat stacks. Study on it a bit, don’t get jerked around! Had a good friend over the other night who sells and explained much.
Tried to get us on a plan that immediately pays out funeral expenses. Sounds great! Nah, we’ll self-insure that small bit. Instead we’ll setup a joint account and auto-pay $100-$200 a month until we’re feeling good about it. $10-20K? Can’t afford that? Who cares?! Pay $25/mo., whatever, it’ll stack if you’re young.
tl;dr: The funeral business gets away with this shit because we don’t plan, and that’s on us. And if you want a casket? Sure, take a plan as pictured.
Plan WAY ahead and donate your body to science. Family isn’t stuck with a bill to the vultures. Cremation even costs way too much to pay people that prey on grieving family for something that is inevitable. And science benefits from your donation. Ultimate win.
I don‘t want to be put in casket when I die and have people mourning. Two things should be thrown when I die: a big ass party and whatever is left of me into the trash.
I’ve told my family more than once to arrange my funeral the cheapest way possible. If they had the option to dump me in the ocean, they have my blessing. Don’t spend money on me, I’m DEAD.
It was really educational when I got to do it. Studying Netter’s and Gray’s (or in my case Finn Boysen Møller) can only get you so far. If you want to really understand anatomy, and the insane amount of variation that occurs, then dissection is a pretty good way forward.
You joke, but it really is an incredibly cool experience. I am not a doctor, but I was privileged to have a hands on anatomy class in school where we had human cadavers. Things are so different in person than they are in textbooks. And getting to actual see, touch, and feel how the human body works and how it goes wrong is just amazing. I was so wowed by it that it’s what led me to my career today (working in a hospital lab with human organs).
Don’t tell your family what to do at your funeral, because you’ll be dead. It’s not for you, it’s for the people left behind. So let them do what they feel is right.
Besides, how could ever know or care? You’re DEAD.
It seemed apparent, to me at least, that the person you replied to had the intention of telling their loved ones not to spend on OP’s account. Not that they’re forbidding the family from any course of action.
I guess if you take it super literally, okay, whatever. But the smallest amount of thought seems to make this obvious.
I have a song I’d like to be played for the 5 people who’ll attend, but that’s more about the message it convey - if I don’t get to use my death to influence people, then I guess I don’t really have a choice. I have a preference with regard to burial vs cremation, but that’s it. For the rest, you figure it out. Don’t want to maintain a burial plot? Fine, don’t want a tomb stone? Fine. You have to deal with it, so you get to decide.
I mean, what this ad should really read is “save your family thousands”. If you can afford it and have the resources, preplan your whole burial plan so your family can just grieve instead of dealing with all the admin of it.
Add comment