I literally asked my wife to marry me on the first date and she said yes. Getting right to the point is a woman after my own heart. Neither of us have ever dated before or, naturally, since.
We’ve been together for ten years.
We are also on the spectrum so that may have been a factor.
Why marriage? Can’t you just start living together first?
Asking someone to marry you on the first is just stupid. Many things could not work out and marriage is a big thing. Imagine spending time and money and then find out that you are not fit together. Then you live a miserable life or fill for a divorce.
No kidding. My employer has top quality health insurance too, and in the USA that’s a seriously big deal when your prospective partner has a health condition.
We did–After we agreed to get married, because we were quite sure, but at the same time we didn’t want to impose such a stark change right away in case the change would exceed one’s ability to cope with change which could lead to panic, meltdowns, etc. Neither of us handle change very well. We didn’t actually get married immediately of course. She packed up a pod and moved in next. It was months before.
We also talked about having kids right away. Not having them right away! But we talked about it immediately, I think like five minutes in, because isn’t it important to know?
As a counterpoint: nothing in life is without risk. I’ve seen friends take it slow and end up divorced, too.
Many guys don’t realize but a spectrum lady is perfect. They get to the point, tell you when something is wrong, and are excellent listeners. They also have incredibly complex hobbies that seem really simple, like knitting or baking, that can pay off for helpers around them as snacks and gifts. If you ever felt you didn’t find the person who speaks to you, think different.
Those attributes are an important part of what I like about her! Very direct, very plain to a fault. She has never and probably will never have an interest in playing interpersonal games. Zero drama. Loyal, because she doesn’t like change. She’s obsessive in her interests meaning we both easily get sufficient time to be our own person.
Sure, she’s exceptionally sensitive about certain textures and sounds, but I understand because I’m the same way. Meeting her was like living a life where everyone speaks this language that I just wasn’t born with, and finding someone else who is just as confused as I am was really validating.
So yes, I suggested that we marry, and she says yes you will suffice… which is perhaps the highest compliment she has ever paid me.
Haha, well, I told my family that a person has to get to know her. She seems bitter at first but that’s just how she is. Besides, they don’t have to live with her. I do.
Not using her outward appearance, countenance, or facial expressions as indicative of her true feelings is part of the package. It takes getting used to, and it’s not right for everyone.
It’s a bit more complex than that, with multiple levels of feedback with DNA (potentially even with the nucleotide) and a damn complicated process while creating descendants (vs. just clones).
Listen, strange women lyin’ near trees distributin’ swords is no basis for a system of government. That said, if you do pull it from a stump I’m not going to try and take it from you.
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n January 2023, it was reported that West had informally married Australian architect Bianca Censori, who works for West’s Yeezy brand, in a private ceremony in Beverly Hills. The ceremony had no legal standing; the couple did not file for a marriage license.
I would like to stress the “well groomed” part. When your beard looks like unkempt pubes, it ain’t a good look. But when taken care of, it really can do wonders.
Christmas gifts unless you actually communicate and confirm what someone wants (which based on my culture can be seen as rude) seems so pointless. Just buying short term garbage for the sake of “giving”.
But then it becomes pointless. If you’re both giving each other a wad of $50 for Christmas, what’s the point of doing it at all? You’re giving each other the exact same thing.
Eh, as i get older I kinda like the small gesture, and there are plenty of small things that show you care that virtually anyone can make use of:
Some good, high quality snacks or sweets they like but usually don’t buy for themselves because it’s a bit indulgent. Their favorite liquor. A pair of nice comfy socks maybe.
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