Our great Dane does this. If he doesn’t want a treat, he’ll go and put it by our small dogs’ kennels for them to have. He also won’t eat treats he likes unless the small dogs get one too.
And, oddly enough, he’s the only dog I’ve ever encountered that can free feed (great Danes are notoriously food motivated). But water, though. We have to chase him away from the bowl or he’ll sit there and drink the whole thing.
Between the thousands of years of semi-selective breeding and the parallel evolution that made our ancestors want the selective breeding to happen, the emotional compatibility between dogs and humans is amazing. They're not humans of course, and we do well to remember that, but the connection is eerie, and when you see a dog display that kind of pack/family oriented behavior, it's heartwarming.
Weird. All of my dogs are free feed. While raising them, we always allowed access to a full bowl, and they’ve never wanted to eat the full thing since they know they’ll always have access.
That really is one of the best parts of being with someone that will let you be vulnerable as a guy.
We talk about toxic masculinity online, but can can you imagine having to keep that front of “manly man” up even when you’re in bed with your spouse/SO? How fucking cruel a world that is.
Sometimes, when you’re a man, you end up having to shove all that stress down so you can handle things. Having someone that not only recognizes that, but reaches out to help when it’s finally safe to let go of the bullshit is just miraculous. Not having to be the big spoon, to have someone comfort and shelter you, to be your strength when you’ve run out of it. That’s beautiful.
What’s ridiculous is that there are plenty of people who will complain about toxic masculinity, but then tell men to man up, or quit being a bitch if they actually let their guard down. Lots of people have very big double standards between what they think they want, and what they actually want.
Yeah I’ve heard some women I’ve dated complain about men not being honest with their feelings and then when one is suddenly they “have the ick” like, seriously? Just be consistent. Don’t tell me to be open and then when I tell you about my fears and worries act like I’m a pussy for not being able to handle it myself. I could have, but you wanted it this way and now you’re not attracted to me anymore.
Speaking from the male perspective, I’ve struggled with this as well. Sometimes it seems being tacit is “rewarded” by esteem.
So firstly, that is a sign that your partner may not be the one for you. But secondly, many of us men do not know how to communicate our emotions very well. We tend to think a breakdown is communication, when that’s just as explosion - a loss of control, maybe because the actual emotional communication didn’t come soon enough.
I fared a lot better after I payed attention to how women navigate this stuff amongst themselves. They often go back and forth very rapidly with tiny emotionally charged statements, and do lots of following up and outreach. Sometimes they’ll do nice stuff for each other that doesn’t make sense until you realise it’s tied to some other thing.
Lots of multidimensional supporting and being supported going back. And if it’s not going both ways, or the sines aren’t syncing, then that just means that particular relationship is not 10/10 and that’s ok.
Yeah, every time I’ve allowed myself to be emotionally vulnerable with a woman I was dating it was like a switch flipped on her attraction to me. Nothing was the same after that and I’d much prefer to have sex regularly than have a shoulder to cry on, so I won’t be doing that again. Whenever I mention that I always get told “you’re just dating the wrong people”. Which, ok maybe, but I’ve never exactly had options lining up around the block.
I’ll never understand women who don’t want a sensitive or emotionally open man. For me, I can’t stand men who aren’t. When a man is open about his emotions, it makes me feel like he’s going to understand better when I get emotional, which is important to me because it happens a lot (bottled up trauma and such.) It’s not just something I look for in partners, but also friends.
But I may also have a bit of a different perspective due to being trans and remembering what it’s like to be a guy having to bottle everything up until one day I explode in a vicious cycle. It makes me feel good to be somebody’s outlet knowing that I can take a little weight off and help keep them from having to go through what I did.
Indeed, it seems that many women have a hard time relating to how difficult it is to be a man in the modern world, especially when you’re being told you are undesirable, toxic, and expendable literally everywhere you go these days.
That’s why I love this meme though, because instead of fighting fire with fire and demonizing or disparaging women, it encourages a more tender and wholesome solution to the problem.
The funny thing is maybe putting him in jail for 5 or 6 years and stripping him of his fortune could be the one thing to give him the human elements he has been stripped of. Humility, responsibility, and understanding the value of others. Maybe after all that he could humble himself and actually experience these wonderful emotions. But fuck it, I’d rather just have a piano fall on his fat face.
The subtext of your comment that Trump could be a loving, gracious, accepting, and listening individual is endlessly fascinating to me. On those brief instances where I can convince my brain for just a moment that these images are genuine, I just feel happiness and hope.
Sure, it’s imagination, but it feels so nice to imagine there is an alternative universe where Donald Trump and Joe Biden spent the weekend hiking, picnicking, baking pies, knitting, and talking through to common ground. No division. No anger. No fear. No lies.
If there is such a universe then it is several orders of magnitude more likely there is a universe where tar covered flaming pianos fall on his face every day and it’s like groundhog day and he doesn’t know when it’s going to come crashing down but it always does. Twisted I know, but I’d portal to that one.
This is a phenomenon known as quantum locking. Since bald men don’t have hair to keep their heads warm, their heads can get really cold and act like a super conductor. The bottle cap can levitate and lock into position because any change in positioning would change the flux lines and disturb the state of superconductivity.
I had a cat that literally broke into my family’s house, he was our neighbor’s cat, so we put him back out and thought he went home. This repeated several times.
We eventually found out our neighbors threw him out in favor of keeping a pitbull. The cat then moved in permanently.
Not just Finland. I see people on their bikes in -40°C in Canada. People just need reasons to not let go of their cars so they feel better about using 5 people worth of space and fuel to get to and from work.
You’re really telling me you ride your bike to and from work in -40c regularly? How far do you commute daily? Why do you feel justified in acting so superior to others?
I walk because I can’t ride a bike and if I can’t walk because it is too icy, I transit 5 kms. But I don’t think myself superior, I used to be a car brain too. I bought in to the needing a car hype and that owning a car was freedom. I’m so much more free and stable now without car payments, insurance, car maintenance, outrageous fuel prices and cops following me just for driving 🤷♀️
I too ride my bike when I can but I live over 60 kms from my office. Unfortunately there is also no real public transit for my commute. Driving a car is the only reasonable solution. I hate the situation I’m in and wish I didn’t have to spend as much as I do for all the things surrounding my little smart car. But still, you consider me a “car brain”. Get off your high horse and just be glad of your situation
Rural commuters are different, you never asked about that.
Though if more people lived in urban areas it would solve a lot of problems when it comes to unnecessary commutes and anyone who chooses to live suburbanly and commute is a car brain, yes.
And you might not necessarily be one (though you never mentioned a bike or a “smart” car before) but anyone who makes excuses to continue bad habits is most definitely a car brain. People driving 5 people’s worth of space and fuel the 12 blocks it takes to get to work are most definitely car brains. The people in over sized trucks and SUVs when they really don’t need to are most definitely car brains. And people who make excuses for their bad behaviour…guess what? Car brains. I don’t care if you think I’m on a high horse. Better a horse than a car.
Not really. I live in Northern British Columbia and there are people riding their bikes in all weather. Ebikes have a temperature limit, but you can get winter tires for your bicycle. Unless you drive for a living, it’s perfectly reasonable.
Read my other comments in this thread and you’d see the answer is clearly no, I am not suggesting that. It’s almost like you intentionally ignored the fact that I already addressed rural commuters and attacked an earlier comment to avoid that I had.
Yup. I’m of the opinion that cars inside cities need to be much more heavily regulated. I believe that the quality of cities would be improved hugely by providing cheap & plentiful parking on the outskirts with solid transit links into the city, and taxing people to the moon for parking inside, with very few parking spots.
This would keep cars where they make sense: inter-city and rural. Keep them out of my dense urban environment, and keep the roads free for service vehicles, buses and ambulances.
I am of the exact same opinion. I like having clean air and green spaces in my city and I’m really tired of the constant battle to walk places safely. If I am walking somewhere, I am guaranteed to have to avoid a car who didn’t care that there was a pedestrian with the right of way- or even smack in the middle of the crosswalk for that matter.
I come from a semi-rural midwestern area, and my first experience with a subway system (or really, any public transit that ran more than once every 3 hours) was in Boston.
Granted, we flew in, so other than renting a car or ridesharing, we didn’t have a choice, but other than needing to plan for the walk rather than the drive, and one very scary bridge we had to cross many times due to where the hotel was (I struggle walking on surfaces I can see through, regardless how far the drop), there was absolutely no need for a car, and indeed it would have been much worse (I dislike all driving and city driving is absolutely horrible - used to live in Houston - plus finding and paying for parking blah blah blah. No.). It was glorious to wait 5 minutes for the next train, then do whatever while getting there.
If my area even had a decent bus, I’d use it, but we don’t. In the 10 years I’ve lived in this town I’ve seen a bus a handful of times, and frankly that’s not often enough to consider relying on unless you have no choice. I do have a bike but I need an e-bike because everything is fairly distant and steeply downhill from my house (seriously, I can go further uphill, but there’s nothing there worth going for, unless you enjoy cemeteries and farm fields) and I’m not even close to in shape enough to bike it. I did get a stationary bike with the goal of getting in shape enough to bike around town, but that’s not going well at all 😅. But I could see a bike in a city. I’d even be fine with mopeds in city limits (not really that different from e-bikes, just ICE instead of battery) as long as there’s no cars. Waste of space and dangerous in cities. Plus all those heavy boxes moving single humans is horrible for air quality which primarily impacts those walking… so it’s dangerous even if you are the absolute best driver in the world.
Talk about not thinking about others in a different situation than yours. I need to drive 45 km to work, as I live on an old farm. Electric bicycle would take me 4 hours one way, then 8 hours of work, and then 4 hours back home. That’s 16 hours of day. 8 left, which would mean I sleep.
Now tell me: when do I shower? Clean the house? Do chores and maintain the animals and vegetablegarden?
Edit: I stand corrected. 2 hours on bicycle… It’s 4 hours accumulated. Still to far most of the year.
Not trying to suggest that this makes an ebike your answer, but an ebike typically moves at ~25kmph (and can be cheaply jigged to go up to 50kmph), so the trip should be 2 hours or less, depending on terrain and all that fun stuff.
Even so, 4 hours of commuting is still too much, and as I said, I’m not trying to argue with you - or tell you how you should be moving yourself around - just looking to correct what appears to be a bad estimate of travel time in your comment.
Dammit! You are right. The 8 hours is walking. My mistake. But yeah, 4 hours is a lot. Terrain is not an issue, as I live in Denmark lol. Even so, I’d have to be on the road most of the time (rural Denmark), and many drivers seem to try to hit cyclists. It’s enough when I cycle into the nearest town.
I bet if you really cared tineye could find a noncropped version if one exists. I use it to find “OG” versions of memes without the “shitty twitter joke” picture frames.
Almost everything we do is learned behaviour. Could be as simple as hearing adults talk about it to each other or calling people someone’s girlfriend or boyfriend.
I had a little girlfriend when we were in first grade. lol I don't recall anyone ever asking me if I had a girlfriend or anything, and I had plenty of friends that were girls and no one ever teased me about it that I remember. I knew it was okay to be friends with girls, I just had a crush on this one. We played Zelda together and talked on the phone for hours about whatever dumb things first graders talk about, then her family moved to another state. It was my most successful relationship to date. 😂
Yes, your daughter has had the quintessential American child experience which is most likely going to underscored by taking place in a western-flavored cis heterosexual context. What I’m saying is that it’s all relative. Your daughter’s relationship experience will be different than an ancient Egyptian, or a Native American, or a Viking. There is nothing “natural” about the way we currently partake in relationships as Americans. And my point is that it is weird to assert “My child is so in love!” Let them express things on their own. Give them that freedom.
Yes, your daughter has had the quintessential American child experience which is most likely going to underscored by taking place in a western-flavored cis heterosexual context
Man if you knew me IRL you’d find this fucking hilarious.
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