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Zombiepirate, (edited ) in Former religious lemmings, what made you quit religion or stop being a believer?
@Zombiepirate@lemmy.world avatar

I moved out on my own and started asking the questions that I had previously been told not to ask at church.

Turns out there’s a reason you’re not supposed to ask those.

MadMadBunny,

LOL, yes, there is a reason!

poweruser,

Your sweet aunt René well deck you in the fuckin’ face!

Few things will get an adult to hit a kid as quickly as that kid questioning their religion. This, from people who insist “God is love”

fireweed, in People who post content because it makes you angry : why do you help it spread?

This mostly relates to stuff you disagree with (politically, etc):

It’s really easy on the Internet to live in a bubble, surrounded by others and material you like and agree with. This is especially true when it comes to the political right or left. Posting/viewing material from the “other side” serves three purposes: 1) it’s different from what your Internet crowd posts and therefore novel and interesting, 2) it’s something to gawk at, and 3) it keeps your crowd up to date on what the opposition is doing and thinking, which is important if you want to debate/defeat/win them over.

Example: you’re on the left and a “look what the right is memeing” sub/community starts posting a lot of trad-wife material. You have now been 1) introduced to a new concept (and thereby upgraded your Internet cred with new slang), 2) provided with novel material to yourselves meme about and make fun of (in this example, Ben Shapiro’s sister’s oversized titties), and 3) inoculated to the concept so when your 19-year-old cousin starts whining at Thanksgiving about how all the women at college are sluts and why can’t he find himself a good traditional wife you can give his manosphere-brainwashed ass a thorough smackdown thanks to some sweet rhetoric you picked up from the snarky comments section of aforementioned posts, instead of weakly stammering something about equal partnerships (or worse yet, not understanding the nuance behind wanting a “traditional wife” and thinking this is a perfectly normal expectation for dating in the 21st century that totally won’t lead down the path of inceldom).

There is another, 4th reason: self-reflection. Sometimes, during a blue super-moon lunar eclipse, you see content that’s from the other side that makes you wonder, “are we the baddies?” Or perhaps, “okay maybe they have a point there.” Or at the very least, “yeah I can see where maybe we’re not at our absolute best on this particular aspect of this specific issue.” At least, it would be nice if that ever happened, right?

garbagebagel,

I recently found an interviewer who is clearly more left leaning but he does interviews with very conservative/right wing people (mostly students) and just like, not to argue or anything, he just asks a question and they answer and he goes “okay thanks” then posts it without any added comment on the socials. It really interested me cause like, I can see why they might think the things they think. Doesn’t mean I agree with them, but at least it’s a way to listen and kind of see the humanness in people who you might otherwise instinctively villainize.

captainlezbian, (edited ) in Lesbians of lemmy, how do you introduce your SO to other people without getting them confused for just a friend?

“This is my wife” works real well

For my girlfriend, I mostly just correct people if they’re mistaken. “Oh we’re more than just friends” type statements.

Also fuck is the platonic use of girlfriend back? Dammit

0x4E4F,

Hm… so she calls you her wife as well, correct 🤔?

captainlezbian,

Our government even calls us wives

0x4E4F,

IDK, just asking 🤷.

papalonian,

What else would she call her…?

Nemo,

spouse

CyberTaco,

Commander

hemko,

Ghost busters!

intensely_human,

Shirley

webadict,

Captain

southsamurai,
@southsamurai@sh.itjust.works avatar

Yeah, hate to break it to you, but it isn’t even just women/girls using it for platonic friends. Men/boys are too.

Not too surprisingly, that hasn’t happened with boyfriend that I’ve run across. Which is kinda fucked up when you consider what the difference in usage represents.

captainlezbian,

My grandma talks like that but in my area in my generation it’s generally understood that [gender]friend is romantic and friend isn’t. If gender is relevant it’s “the [genders]”

That terminology is incredibly frustrating as a lesbian. Especially since it’s regularly used alongside calling my wife my friend despite me repeatedly referring to her as my wife

SharkAttak,
@SharkAttak@kbin.social avatar

I heard that violently frenching in front of them would clear any misunderstanding, nuance or misinterpretation.

"Nope, Mildred, those ain't gals pals, for sure"

captainlezbian,

Unfortunately it will just get us sexually harassed or disowned depending on the audience

Scubus,

Does a casual “nice” count as sexual harassment?

captainlezbian,

It definitely will make me feel uncomfortable shoeing romantic affection towards my partner in front of you in the future

Scubus,

Thanks for the input, honestly didnt expect a serious response.

I asked because my family is really weird. We’re very… open? Sexual jokes are very common 'round these parts

captainlezbian,

Yeah there are people who can pull it off, but because many men fetishize sapphicism it’s uncomfortable in general, especially since men do absolutely nothing for me and I’ve had guys get really brazen with hitting on me when they see me do gay stuff.

So yeah if there’s no doubt in my mind it’s a “get it girl” style nice, I’m cool with it but that’s a hard bar to cross.

flicker,

I understand why this is frustrating and am not trying to take that from you, but thought you'd enjoy knowing that the last old lady who I confronted about calling my girlfriend as my girlfriend (in the platonic sense) was genuinely confused about my irritation, since "isn't that the best part of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend? That they're also your best friend? I always thought you two really got that part right."

It's some arethestraightsokay stuff (and happened in like 2004) but I thought it might give you a smile.

mnemonicmonkeys,

Personally I’ve only ever heard “platonic boyfriends” when it was platonic

Illecors, (edited ) in What's a food you forget you like? Then you eat it, and wonder why you don't buy it more often?

Pulled pork. And then I wonder why I don’t do it more often, and then remember that I prefer homemade one, and then I realise :::: spoiler ain’t nobody got time for that :( https://i.imgflip.com/1f0umb.jpg

IonAddis,
@IonAddis@lemmy.world avatar

Someone who can do a “pull the pork apart” robot attachment for a crock pot could probably make a pile of money.

Although now I’m imagining a little robot treading in the crock pot like old timey winemaking, where they stomped on the grapes.

Grandude,

A handheld mixer works great.

Candelestine,

Honestly, even just doing a whole shoulder with two forks only takes a few minutes. Though I don’t shred mine down all the way.

Also, if you have a crock pot or oven, the cooking process is very simple and hands-off as well.

Aviandelight,
@Aviandelight@mander.xyz avatar

I’ve been doing this monthly and freezing portions for those nights of the week I can’t be bothered to cook. So yummy.

hglman,

Instapot, just as good, 90 minutes

BrianTheeBiscuiteer,

Edible yes, but smoked is the way to go.

SatansMaggotyCumFart,

The worse part about smoking pulled pork is trying to roll it without mangling the paper.

Guest_User,

Do you use liquid smoke at all?

hglman,

No, for the instapot I usually make carnitas.

triptrapper,

Unless you finish it in the oven, you won’t get the Vital Crispies.

RisingSwell, in People of Lemmy that take more than 5 seconds to start your car and drive, what are you doing?

Waiting for Bluetooth to connect, putting on seatbelt, fixing Bluetooth, putting drinks in drink holders, waiting for Bluetooth, turning on lights, fixing Bluetooth.

mrichey,

Uconnect?

Zak,
@Zak@lemmy.world avatar

And people wonder why I care so much about my phone having an analog headphone jack.

Semi-Hemi-Demigod, in Which things have you avoided or embraced on the name alone?
@Semi-Hemi-Demigod@kbin.social avatar

I avoided the Instant Pot for a long time because it sounded cheap and all those functions couldn't possibly work well.

I was wrong. I was so wrong.

Yawnder,

Shame!

I mean same actually. I was snobbing it because I used a manual pressure cooker at the time, but now… so freaking convenient.

Semi-Hemi-Demigod,
@Semi-Hemi-Demigod@kbin.social avatar

Mine makes yogurt from milk and yogurt.

It’s a perpetual yogurt machine.

And it makes chili!

Yawnder,

For us it’s chili, veggie scraps broth, whole chickens, and lentil soups.

CmdrShepard,

Let me get this straight, this machine makes yogurt but one of the ingredients required is yogurt? That’s revolutionary.

0xD,

You need like two tablespoons of yoghurt per liter of milk. Just cook the milk beforehand and let it cool to about 45°C. Mix in the yoghurt and put it in an oven with the light on for a few hours. Voilà!

SirToxicAvenger, in What's the significance of calling it "Israel-Hamas War" vs "Israel-Gaza War"?

gaza is the location, hamas are the terrorists that govern it

commie,

“terrorist” is loaded language.

jeffw,
@jeffw@lemmy.world avatar

Is Israel doing terrible things and committing war crimes that border on genocide? Yes. Is Hamas a terrorist group? Yes

Edit: can’t believe I didn’t recognize the account. It’s a troll. They comment stupid stuff all over. Check the comment history if you don’t believe me

commie,

calling them terrorist just means you don’t like their politics

rikudou,
@rikudou@lemmings.world avatar

Nah, that means they’re using terror as their politics. Republicans in the US are fucking idiots and no one sane likes their politics, yet I don’t see people calling them terrorists.

epicsninja,

Jeez, 1.24k comments in 3 months. I get what people mean when they tell someone to “touch grass”

jeffw,
@jeffw@lemmy.world avatar

To be fair… that’s about what I have too lol, in only a slightly longer timeframe. But at least mine aren’t just for the sake of amassing downvotes

anarchost,

Least terminally online Twitter leftist

bloopernova,
@bloopernova@programming.dev avatar

Thank goodness for the user notes feature in Connect for Android.

squirmy_wormy, (edited )

Regardless of their post history, they’re not wrong here. One man’s freedom fighter is another’s terrorist.

Edit: I thought this article was fascinating about that quote and why I agree with the claimed troll here www.cbc.ca/news2/indepth/words/terrorists.html

jeffw,
@jeffw@lemmy.world avatar

Right, freedom fighters commit mass slaughter of civilians. /s

squirmy_wormy,

Used to happen all the time between indigenous people and colonizers/settlers in North America

match,
@match@pawb.social avatar

hell, when it comes to hamas, “govern” is an opinion too

intensely_human,

“rule” might be the right verb here

Earthwormjim91,

No, Hamas is a fucking terrorist group that hasn’t allowed an election since they staged a coup in 2007. They kill civilians and use civilian infrastructure as military strongpoints.

punkwalrus, in Tech workers - what did your IT Security team do that made your life hell and had no practical benefit?
@punkwalrus@lemmy.world avatar

Worked a job where I had to be a Linux admin for a variety of VMs. To access them, I needed an VPN that only worked inside the company LAN, and blocked internet access. it was a 30 day trial license on day 700somthing, so it had a max 5 simultaneous connection limit. Access was from my heavily locked down laptop. Windows 7 with 5 minutes locking Screensaver. The ssh software was an unknown brand, “ssh.exe” which only allowed one connection at a time in a 80 x 24 console window with no ability to copy and paste. This went to a bastion host, an HPUx box on an old csh shell with no write access to your home directory due to a 1.4mb disk quota per user. Only one login per user, ten login max, and the bastion host was the only way to connect to the Linux VMs. Default 5 minute logout for inactivity. No ssh keys allowed. No scripting allowed, was like typing over 9600 baud.

I quit that job. When asked why, I told them I was a Linux administrator and the job was not allowing me to administrate. I was told “a poor carpenter always blames his tools.” Yeah, fuck you.

AceFuzzLord,

That sounds like the equivalent of asking a carpenter to build a wooden boat large enough to carry 30 people, but only giving them Fisherprice tools and foam blocks.

AceFuzzLord,

That sounds like the equivalent of asking a carpenter to build a wooden boat large enough to carry 30 people, but only giving them Fisherprice tools and foam blocks.

FitzNuggly,

A carpenter isn’t expected to use his tools with garbage grabbers (reachy claw things) either.

AceFuzzLord,

That sounds like the equivalent of asking a carpenter to build a wooden boat large enough to carry 30 people, but only giving them Fisherprice tools and foam blocks.

rbesfe, in What are some modern bullshit jobs?

Real estate agents

wulf,

Yes! It shouldn’t be difficult to purchase a house, but when we were looking, none of the seller agents would even talk to us until we had a buyers agent 🙄

AstridWipenaugh,

Years ago my dad was fed up with realtors and you couldn’t list a property for sale without a realtor license. So he figured it’s probably as easy as it seems, seeing how many airhead realtors he’d met. He was right. He read a book and then went and passed the exam to get licensed. Sold his own property himself and never used the license again.

bravesirrbn,

Absolute madlad

Doxatek,

Wow I didn’t know this. How fucking stupid. Why is there this for a house but I can sell anything else

Ejh3k,

The agent we have used for several houses has been indispensable. He got us into our current house before it was listed, and before that he knew all the issues with every house we looked at because he’s been in the area for so long. You may have had bad agents, but some of them are really good at their jobs and add quite a bit of value.

rbesfe,

In property markets where prices are reasonable they can be alright, but up here in Toronto where detached houses go for 3 million plus, there’s just too much incentive for greedy parasites

scytale, in What are some modern bullshit jobs?

My apartment complex uses a package delivery service that basically acts as a middle man to receive your packages and deliver it to you. They use contractors who pick up packages from their warehouse and deliver them door-to-door. As expected, it’s common for packages to get lost/stolen. Instead of getting your package on the date/time promised, you have to wait several more hours for it to actually arrive. If it gets to the warehouse late in the afternoon, you’ll get it the next day. If you have Amazon next-day delivery, you essentially negate it with this service. If you’re expecting perishable items, good luck getting it fresh. If your package is large or heavy, you’ll have to wait several days as they only deliver oversized packages on specific days. All these are mandatory with a fee ranging from $10 to $30 on top of rent.

ThrowawayPermanente,

Anybody want to bet someone in the building administration is in bed with this company?

scytale,

So the rumor is the owner is related to one of the big apartment companies, that’s why the service is being pushed hard to a lot of apartment complexes in my city.

Phanatik,

Now, that, is a postage tax.

Meltrax, in Do you know of any obscure useful websites?

privacyguides.org has a ton of awesome tips on how to navigate technology these days without becoming a walking data point for everything you have contact with.

amio, in "Return Youtube Dislike" Doesn't work anymore....

It's a hack - unsanctioned third party extensions are inherently pretty hackish and just work however they can. They frequently depend on things that can change in unpredictable ways, so breaking with updates is just business as usual.

Assuming the project is actively maintained, there should be a fix available at some point.

Edit: this is assuming they have their own infrastructure, I have no idea if that's true. If things were really relying on hidden but "deprecated" API stuff, like some people ITT say, you could be SoL - they can just remove that at their leisure and it's odd they haven't.

bonn2,

They do have their own infrastructure, the old api was 100% killed a long time ago. Before that happened they scraped and archived as many youtube videos as possible (through a distributed computing effort) now they use a combination of historical data and likes vs views to give a best estimation of the true dislike amount. It has been tested to be close but of course not exact.

trustnoone, in You just died. Instead of heaven and god(s), you wake up in a white room and an all-powerful sentient AI greets you with fascination and surprise. It says that you are the first... (read further)

You were the first to purchase WinRAR

SheDiceToday,

I’ve never regretted that purchase.

Bobbys, in What software do you wish that existed?

A good Discord alternative, with all its main features like voice, text, and screen sharing, federated, and self-hosted.

ParetoOptimalDev,

I don’t know if matrix checks all of these boxes yet… but a discord contender built on matrix would be a dream.

kurcatovium,

Matrix will never replace discord, because implementing gifs took them like 10 years so far and it’s still not even a concept. And imagine discord like experience without gifs. Impossible.

Which is sad, because Matrix is otherwise absolutely great! It’s just not focused on casual users at all.

Daeraxa,

And imagine discord like experience without gifs. Impossible.

Sounds like heaven to me

kurcatovium,

For some people indeed. But general audience, majority of discord users, see it as “ah, it’s the ripoff without gifs”.

Matriks404,

I have never sent a gif on discord, and people who did are maniacs. There are better formats than ancient .gifs.

kurcatovium,

Well, majority of people discord is focused on do use them. That is how it is. When Matrix offer something meaningless (for them) like e2ee or federation in exchange for not having gifs and being “too complicated to set up”, you’ll never get this people to use it. It just makes no sense for them.

200ok, in If you had to restart your job at your current employer, what would you do differently?

I would not mention as much of my personal life as I did.

People are going to make decisions based on more than just merit.

It might not be fair, done consciously, or with malice, but it happens.

Riven,
@Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

Yep, the only thing I’ve let slip is that I volunteer at a non profit.

lars,

How does it feel like that has worked against you? [How could anyone possibly weaponize this [unless the non-profit is like Burning War-Orphan Flags and War-Orphans of America or something]?].

Riven,
@Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

There’s a certain voting population that sees even that as weakness. I’m sure you can figure that one out.

lars,

If it’s not the supporters of the Killary Klinton Krime family then I don’t even want to know. (Thank you for volunteering—it’s rad!).

Darkassassin07,
@Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca avatar

I was going to write very much the same thing.

I’ve given too much information about my health, and now it gets used against me.

Your employer, managers, supervisors; they’re not you’re friends. You can and should remain friendly to an extent, but be careful what information you give away.

200ok,

I like that… “Remain friendly, but remember they’re not your friends”.

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