Then the years go on, the kid becomes an adult and begins cooking for themselves. The first meal they make for someone else they realize (1) how difficult it is to estimate when a meal will be done (2) how much work goes into cooking, especially for a whole family and (3) how hurtful and disruptive it is when the person you’re cooking for decides they’d rather eat your food when it’s cold and gross and everyone else has already finished eating and are trying to clean up. And that’s not even incorporating the social elements of family dinner time the kid is eschewing. I didn’t understand as a kid why my parents were so adamant about family dinner, but as an adult it’s something I’m really glad they enforced.
Yeah well there’s cooking as in purely functional preparation of nutrients, and then there’s cooking as in a process of caring for others by creating a worthwhile experience of food that is needed, engaging, and delicious. The downside is this experience usually has a time limit dependent on time and others’ availability (eating hot food together). It’s sad for such effort to go to waste. The alternative extreme to this kind of nurturing is abandoning the idea that family time over meals is worthwhile and just shitting out nutrient bricks so the children don’t starve. I don’t think anyone really wins in the long run with that.
You’re right, but also remember to say it out loud.
Communication is so underrated but I guarantee most people would listen and be willing to accommodate you more if you just bring it up casually, instead of waiting until they discover it for themselves or until you blow up from being frustrated and underappreciated
I disagree with (1), especially for parents that cook the same 10-20 meals over and over. Even if the time it takes to cook a certain meal on your kitchen is different than the one stated at the recipe, you can note it down and get a reliable average after 5 tries.
It’s annoying that some parents can’t even do that to minimize the fights around dinner time and shift all the blame to the kids.
Exactly! When you’re a teenager it’s hard to appreciate these things. I know I definitely took it for granted but I at least respected my family enough to not start an online game around dinner time.
I’m 40 and grew up gaming. Your mom is probably younger and also grew up around games. Online gaming has been a thing since the 90’s. Your parents aren’t like my parents were. They won’t call your Playstation a Nintendo.
Instead let’s stay here till 2:30a playing dumb video game, become sleep deprived, and hate my entire existence in the morning even more than I already did
You see, if you stay up until 3-4am you get to take part in this secret extra “day” without demands or interruptions that no one else knows about; which everyone just sleeps through 'cause they’re dumb and myopic.
The rumors that the alarm will go off at the regular time and there are negative consequences of sleeping for less than 4 hours are entirely unfounded and, frankly, hurtful
Girls, too. I grew up with this girl that always collected cool looking sticks, rocks, et cetera. Her room looked like what a bedroom would look like if a raven made a wish to be human. Ended up wiccan, and still collects cool sticks and rocks. Haha.
sleep is depression, i say as someone with adhd-induced inspmnia on top of just regular insomnia who can’t sleep for shit
i spent 3 hours lying down with my eyes closed not being able to sleep after getting 2 hours of sleep the night before, after staying up for 24 hours straight. end me
What fuels your sleeplessness? Even when I feel super tired it’s still a long combined process of constant tossing and turning and not being able to shut my brain up
You obviously don’t have kids ! 😁 They are easily awake at 7 am but the time from 10 pm (thats when I am usually done with cleaning up for the day) to 2 am is mine. 🙃
Unironcally. I think is what to do but backwards. You should try out the paths that lead toward the best paid jobs until you find the one you like the most. People get top caught up on finding their “dream job.” Your team, the company, and the culture will have a bigger impact on your mental health than the tasks anyway
Yeah no way could you leave out Canada lmao. As soon as i graduate i’m fucking moving.
Western Europe? Scandinavia? China? Uhh Albania? No idea yet. As long as it’s not this soulless nightmare petrostate. Fuck the rent here and fuck the work culture.
Ridiculously expensive housing without the salaries to match. But at least I don’t have to worry about going broke if ever someone in the family gets sick I guess.
If you get sick you just die, at least here in Victoria. There are no doctors and and people are dying of untreated cancers hahahah man life’s good in Canada
Right, because there isn't rampant capitalism and wide spread poverty pretty much everywhere else too.. 🙄🙄🙄
(am in UK and you're full of shit. I recommend checking your privilege, or at least taking your head out of your ass long enough to have a look around)
And Europe isn’t expensive to live? Canada? Australia? All of them have very high CoL in population centers. Especially tech hubs. The only place that’s significantly out of whack is CA and to be honest, much of the time it’s still worth it. Go remote and get the best of both worlds is quite common and easy.
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