Iâve gotten decent at this, but it has taken years of practicing the skill, plus trying various medications. Not to mention a couple of job losses during covid.
The fun combo of adhd and anxiety made this a necessity if I wanted to generally enjoy life.
The ability to not worry about shit sounds simple, but it is much easier said than done. Itâs like a muscle that you have to exercise and build up.
Here are the elevator pitched for three topics that helped me:
Mediation/mindfulness: I listened to some Buddhist talks, and liked the way some of them explained focusing on your breath and stepping back to observe your own emotions without embracing those feelings at the time. And you have compassion for yourself, and not judge things negatively. Just observe what is. Itâs something you can practice at any time, and the more you do it, the more you can stay in that state while doing other things. There is also a big component of controlling your desires, because those are often a big component of suffering.
Philosophy: around the same time, I was reading stoic philosophy. Marcus Aurelius is the big name there. The bottom line is that regardless of what happens to you, the way that you internally process it and react to it is what really determines how it affects your life & mental state. So with practice, time, and sometimes medication, you are more and more in control of your mental state and how things affect you.
Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT): The world around you is what it is, so instead of worrying about things you canât control, you accept the true state of things and then filter that through your personal values to decide how to act.
Some common themes here, to be sure. Along with being able to better control your thoughts and emotions, itâs about finding contentment and tranquility in whatever your life looks like. Not because everything is great, but because your mental state is much more important than reacting how you âshouldâ react.
I just wanted to say I appreciate the way you wrote this and didnât hide the fact itâs taken you a lot of work, and is an ongoing practice. I see these types of things get suggested far too often without that context. âJust meditateâ really takes away from how much discipline over years or a lifetime it takes. Thereâs nothing easy or quick about it, and it takes a lot of courage to keep it up.
And yeah, I guess itâs easy to gloss over the ongoing nature sometimes. People think âhow do I fix myselfâ but there isnât ever a fix. There are incremental improvements as long as youâre working at it. But then one day, you look back and realize it has accumulated into a big difference.
On top of Ryobi tools, when my Dyson cordless vac battery stopped holding a charge, I bought a Ryobi -> Dyson adapter, and now my Dyson vacuum also uses Ryobi batteries. Wife was really impressed with it because you can just swap out a new battery and keep on vacuuming. Also the vacuum actually make use of that battery way more than any of the actual power tools I have.
Iâve found that any project my Ryobi isnât suited for is a project I would have opted to hire a professional anyway. 99% of people can get away with Ryobi 99% of the time. That remaining 1% really isnât worth the increased price from brands like Dewalt.
Maybe I am a gorilla but every time I buy Ryobi - it breaks before the first job is done.
I got a Ryobi pressure washer and not even 2 hours into washing - it exploded like a fuckin bomb. Home Depot gave me a refund for the pressure washer but not my pants.
Same⊠itâs hard to justify getting the most expensive tools when I only use them once every 3-6 months. If other people want to spend their money keeping up with tool brands thatâs a competition Iâll gladly lose. Got better things to spend my money on.
They are fine for anything which doesnât require precision. I have a Ryobi bench sander and itâs a complete waste of time. Same with the chop saw I unused to have. It was basically impossible to get flush miters from it no matter how much you adjusted it - the tolerances were just too low. My DeWalt table saw and Chop saw donât have the same issues. They cut sub-mm precision on day one and still do years later. The table saw in particular is technically a worksite saw, buy you can use it to build cabinets with the right blade.
This was me, with my few random ryobi tools, until I needed something new and saw one of those big combos of several tools from DeWalt was half price. So I lucked out being in the right place at the right time and got the best of both worlds.
Fortunately I already have like 4 DeWalt batteries. Somebody gave me a couple as a gift some time after I got the tool set. We definitely still have a Ryobi battery or two around as well!
Couple years back I went to the graduation party of a kid my step daughter was friends. The dad had an entire wall pegboarded out with every possible Ryobi cordless tool. It was honestly impressive. And he had one Makita tool. Made me laugh.
I like the idea of hot dogs more than I actually like hot dogs. Every now and then I get a craving for one and throw it on the grill but itâs always slightly disappointing. Itâs never as good as I think itâll be. I need to learn to just stick with hamburgers. Those are never disappointing.
Iâm very much so the same. My advice, to fill that craving, is a smoked sausage, cooked until itâs blackened. So good. So much better than hotdogs.
In my opinion! But, Iâm going to be honest with you; if I have my way, Iâm buying cheddarwurst over hot dogs of any variety every time. Once I discovered it was possible to buy dogs infused with cheese, Iâve never seen any reason to do anything else :-)
Before you put them on the grill, slice them about half way through diagonally on one side and diagonally again in the other side in the same way ⊠the hot dog will expand across the entire length and crisp along the cut edges. More crisp makes it taste better and the longer length actually fits the length of your bun.
I use CGPeers for some stuff, and they have a stated required ratio. However, most of their stuff is FreeLeech anyway, so it doesnât really matter than Iâm in the green by about 78GB
I seed way beyond the requirements, Iâm totally happy for other people not to. I have a swanky setup that suits it - might as well. If you donât, donât.
In my defense, if it were ever necessary, Iâm planning on getting a setup where I have some sort of NAS + Pi thing that together forms a seedbox and Plex media server. Right now my desktop PC has both jobs. Poor thing has been running basically nonstop since 2020.
A buddy was living with me for like two years or so, we had a lot of network issues, suddenly slowing down, not having nearly the speed we were supposed to,
Not long before he moved out i saw his torrent stats, while staying with me he had downloaded about 100GB, and seeded around 700TB!
This son of a gun had disabled any rate limit and been seeding at full capacity for two goddamn years, i havenât had any network issues since
Christ, I have it running 24/7 and Iâm only at ~1.5TB of uploads. Tbf as pointed out elsewhere Iâm âcompetingâ with seedboxes so not hugely surprising.
And this is why I have my own router. Fuck the shitty router that the ISP sends you. I can see exactly how much traffic each device is creating, and throttle devices if needed. If I wanted to enable snooping, I could even see which specific services/apps/etc are creating the traffic. So like Iâd be able to see a big spike in torrenting traffic.
Same, I seed for 1 month or 4x ratio. I only have one private tracker (myanonamouse for books) that requires 1x ratio or 2 weeks seeding (maybe 2x ratio?) But I have unlimited internet. Iâve been the sole seeder for music files quite a few times, and for tv shows once or twice before they get picked up by others again. No downside to over seeding since I leave my PC on for hosting my Plex instance anyway, I just rate limit my seeding if Iâm trying to watch something on Plex outside of my network and itâs buffering a lot. I get a lot of files from a usenet server anyway so Iâm not bogged down by a ton of torrents (have it set to 50 active torrents, donât think Iâve ever gotten there), just the stuff not available on my usenet server
If you find this meme relatable due to anxiety (I do), meditation helped me so much.
My employer pays for a meditation subscription and it didnât just teach me breathing or how to think about ânothing.â It taught me to note the thought/feeling, label it as one of the two and let it go.
Iâm not where I want to be, but Iâm much closer.
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